Dating Advice, Relationship Problems

It is nice to think about how there is someone somewhere who is better for you then that person you are currently with, but before we go too far in our imaginary worlds, know that we wouldn't necessarily be right for those people. Everyone has their share of flaws and some partners can tolerate everything from their loved ones who have a long history of lying to those who yell and curse far too much.  Sure, you could drop that zero and get with a hero, but is that what you really want? Some people stay in relationships far too long and become tainted with their abusive partners' mess!  They act like fools, just like them, without realizing just how infected they have become with all their partner's negativity over the years.  These same troubled individuals will say, "I am going to breakup with my boyfriend/girlfriend/partner and find someone better!"  Meanwhile, the wishful thinker has become nothing more than a poison in his ...

Companionship isn't promoted on movie screens and elsewhere between the opposite sex like being lovers to one another is.  Hold hands, kiss, have sex, argue, hug...touch, undress, touch, and so on.  But what about friendship?  What about two people being companions?  No touching, no sex, just talking--enjoying one's company? When one is getting to know someone for the first time there is much conversing going on, probably too much.  In time, the date feels like he or she knows enough about the person that now he or she feels like they can touch or be ready to experience a touch that eventually leads into an intimate moment that might produce a child, a sexual disease, or disappointment.  A good friendship will take you away from the bedroom and to the places you always wanted to go.  It will help you discover things about yourself and the other person that just isn't worth risking fun times for sex.  One can experience contentment j...

It doesn't matter what he promised, persuaded, shared, or made you believe, a Sugar Daddy doesn't commit to any one pretty young woman.  He wines, dines, buys, and has sex with young women--end of discussion. Gullible young women who haven't dated Sugar Daddies long enough, must realize that they are nothing more than old players.  You can use whatever name you want, but at the end of the day, Sugar Daddy moves on.  He has things to do and plenty of money to do them and it won't be all day and everyday with a single young woman for the rest of his life.  He is divorced one, two, three, even four or more times for good reasons. So how do you know you just don't have that special kind of Sugar Daddy who will commit to you? 1.  When you mention a serious relationship, marriage, moving in together, etc., he prefers to talk about anything but that.  He digresses.  He grins and distracts you a bit.  There is nothing good about giving up one'...

"He has children, I have children..." the divorced woman tells her friend.  "He likes taking his kids to fun places, so do I.  We always wanted to go on a family trip together, but our exs were often busy.  Now we get to do it!  He's great with his kids and mine like him."  Months later, after repeated disputes, the woman has a different impression about her date. "He's good with the kids, but me, well we don't see eye-to-eye on many things.  I guess that's just how relationships are.  I mean I thought we would do more things together, but the kids, they are always around.  We don't really have much money for babysitters..." the disappointed girlfriend says. Daters just don't think much about how compatible they really are or aren't at times esepcially when they see one great attribute in someone and then before long, they are off to the races!  They are singing, that new person in their lives, praises.  Claiming that a sp...

No money + no intimacy = DRAMA! One might think that things are still the same within one's mind, body and spirit after a job loss, but quite the contrary.  People change when they make a substantial income and people change when they lose it! There are side effects that some couples might experience as a result of one or both having no steady income, but a savings to live on and whatever other money they can get elsewhere. 1.  Irritability. Becoming angry over the littlest of things, one or both begin to dispute over some minor things.  They may act out in public such as ridiculing the other, saying things they don't mean, and treating each other rudely like ignoring a partner when he or she is trying to communicate a thought.  Money is on the mind and the mind is on the money! 2.  Fluctuating sex drive. Today a mate might want sex and then a drought season occurs where there is no sex.  Then a period of having sex followed by anothe...

Sometimes one must turn back the bedroom covers for awhile and really have that long talk with self.  No one wants to be used and abused, yet so many women and men allow this sort of thing to happen for any number of reasons.  Manipulators take advantage of the weak-minded who talk negatively about themselves.  They pretend as if they care so much about their sex partners, when in fact all that want is to experience a sexual release over and over again until they get weary of the body who once gave them so much pleasure. You can prevent yourself from having much emotional turmoil in the future, if you can view your relationship like one who is looking on the outside in.  Do you really want to be just another lover or do you want something more?  Whatever more is, it should be something that benefits not only your physical needs, but your emotional and spiritual well-being.  Take a moment to self-evaluate. 1.  Does he take interest in other ar...

Break Up Tips When Dating Someone Emotionally Abusive by YouTuber FYPNLP ) Early Signs Your Date is Emotionally Abusive by Nicholl McGuire When first dating, pay attention to the way your date looks when you speak positively to the opposite sex.  Does he or she eye roll, deep sigh, look angry, or make you feel uncomfortable for speaking to that person? Pay attention when your date makes subtle or harsh comments about your personal beliefs, the people around you, or stories you tell.  Does he or she act judgmental?  Does this person make negative comments about your lifestyle, faith, or those you know despite not knowing all the details? If you find yourself being critical about you, moreso than you have ever done before, when in this person's presence, that is a clear indication that your date's jokes/comments/criticisms are starting to influence you, not for the better but for the worse!  (Save yourself some future grie...

Have you ever been out on a date with someone who makes you laugh so much that you feel like you have to go to the bathroom?  Have you ever dated someone who is always doing something that arises a shock, a laugh, or something inside you that keeps you entertained at least for awhile until their behavior annoys you?  Well, if you have been with someone similar to what has been mentioned, then you know that the good times with this sort of person don't last for long. This blog entry is a warning to those young women and men who are attracted to foolish people.  Those of us who have much dating experience will tell you that the barrel of laughs will come to an end sooner or later.  Hopefully, sooner so that some of you don't have your lives negatively impacted as a result of dating fools. So how do you know you are dating a foolish person who has more going on than just a crazy sense of humor? 1.  He frivolously spends money on things he can't afford. 2....

You have witnessed the interviews of lovers who were caught in murder triangles, stalkers, and jealous spouses in media.  There is a lot said when you look at their troubled eyes.  Some cold, as if staring right through the interviewer.  Others appear to be lost in a world of confusion and rage.  The mind may have come back temporarily, enough to tell one's story, but when triggered it all comes back again through the eyes!  The killer blames the victim or pretends to be remorseful, those left behind take no responsibility for actions or in-actions to protect one's relative/friend, and the victim is left six feet deep without a story to tell. When one is involved in an intense relationship, deep with passion and mystery or wild and volatile, a possession of sorts takes place.  One is overcome with emotion, so much in fact, that irregardless of the couple being a mismatch or burdened with past baggage, he or she feels the need to do whateve...

If there was any relationship I must give to my audience on this blog this day, it is the following, read slowly and take heed, because it just might give you a forecast into what the future holds for you and your mate based on what you already know about your relationship.  Enjoy! 1.  Just because you have him/her doesn't mean you really have him/her. It might seem as if the person is yours and only yours, but he or she is not.  The complexity of being a human being is comprised of many parts and you don't own any of them.  The spirit is meant to be shared not controlled.  The best thing you can do for love is let it breathe! 2.  Your independence eventually goes on sabbatical. You may have thought that there is your world, his/her world, and together, but the longer you are in a relationship with someone, the more dependent it becomes.  If your independence means that much to you, remain single.  Otherwise face years of sorrow tryin...

You have made the decision to end a relationship and now the time has come to prepare to move out of the residence that you and your former partner have shared.   Now if you will be moving in with someone else, you want to be sure you are not bringing any of your drama to that person’s home.   If you plan to get your own place, then you will need to be sure that you have enough money to support yourself for the long haul, so that you don’t later find yourself back at home with the ex, not for love, but because you have nowhere else to go. One.   Take the time to begin to take your name off of all joint accounts, bills, insurance, etc. Never leave business unattended to or assume your partner cares enough about you that he or she will handle your matters.   You have broken up with this person and most likely said or did some things that offended him or her, so be sure your name is cleared off of all documentation.   For instance, if the phone and other ...

Since I was thirteen years old, I have been serious about "boys."  The seeds were sown when I was about 11 during the summer of 1986 (could have been a little sooner).  That year I was a soap opera watching fool!  I absorbed the dramas and followed along with several didn't story lines per show.  Back then shows I watched were:  Young and the Restless, Another World, Guiding Light, Days of Our Lives, Bold and the Beautiful, and others that were short-lived.  Then there were the evening dramas Knots Landing, Falcon Crest, and Dallas .  There was always a favorite couple, a troubled sibling, a crazed ex, a power hungry, money driven old fool, and so on.  I learned much from watching TV about making out, what love was and what it wasn't, how men romance women, obsession, break up, adultery, and greed.  I began to take my thoughts about those subjects and compare them to the real world.  It wasn't that different!...

Is your unhappy marriage hurting your kids?