Showing posts from April, 2010

Funny How Time Flies: A Tale of A Sour Relationship

Crinkle in the middle of your forehead like an accordion. Dragging your feet, a sound like someone sweeping the floor. As you carry your half-broken heart from yesteryear's loves. Head turned to the left as you pass me by Careful not to look my way. Hoping I can't see what you are thinking. You don't like me. But if you closely look into my glaring eyes, you would see I don't like you. I am settling, standing on your empty promises. When I speak, you are annoyed as you take your seat. It's only a commercial. "What?" You say. "Nothing." I retort. I really don't like you! That's why I hold my nose as you sigh. Hoping I don't smell your breath. It's stale, old just like this relationship. Please don't exhale, keep that to yourself! It's not like anything will change! You will just stink up the atmosphere like you always do then find a way to blame me. What happened to the young guy I once knew anyway? He was full of life. Fre

No Time for Dating When in Love

We have all been guilty of it -- allowing so much time to pass staying indoors lovemaking that we forget how to date outside of the covers. In time, we grow bored with one another and wish that we would have taken it slow. Well if you feel like your relationship is headed in that direction, then do something, anything to keep it fresh especially if you aren't a mother or father yet! Once you both realized your pregnant, things change and don't let anyone tell you any different! Your time is not your own when the newborn shows up! All the sweet talking about how great a family would be is nice when there is no family to worry over. All the wonderful visions of a daughter with eyes like yours and a son with a grin like his are beautiful, but put that off for as long as you can! Spend a lot of time appreciating, learning, and spending time with one another. If more couples would have taken this kind of advice seriously, they wouldn't be openly or secretly resenting thei

Your First Date - What (and What Not) To Do

Getting a date in this time and age can be a daunting task; lots of people seem to only want a one-night stand nowadays. If you're not one of those people, and are looking to go out with someone special, then there are a few things you can do in order to make your date successful. First off, make sure you are presentable. Nobody wants to go out with someone who hasn't showered or shaved for days. Take a look at your wardrobe as well. If your clothes scream "hobo at the train station begging for quarters", you might want to steer clear of them and find something else to wear. Although it might seem shallow, first impressions are very important on a first date, so choose your look wisely. It is usually customary for the man to pick up the woman when going on a date, because it shows that the man is responsible enough to own his own car. A man picking up his date on a bike isn't exactly a bad thing, but it can end up sending the wrong signals to his d

Date How Long Before Getting Engaged?

Dating to engagement should take minimum of one year because the real question is: how long does it takes to develop the type of friendship that leads to long-lasting marriage. That's crucially important because best marriages are based on being best friends and it takes 'time' to develop as best friends. How long that takes depends upon how well you and your prospective mate have mastered Communication Intimacy. That is communication at its deepest level. That's the goal of marriage-to work together in union as one team. This unity of heart, soul and spirit bonds couples as soul mates. A soul mate is someone who has the unique ability to bring out the best in us. The chemistry ignited between partners turns their souls on physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. The only way this can be accomplished is by "knowing" each other's inner workings that bond with ours in shared outlook and purpose. Does your prospective partner bring

Communication is Always the Key to Good Relationships

Learning to communicate is not easy and even people who have been married for decades will sometimes need to enlist the help of a marriage therapist to help them learn how to better communicate with each other. There is no shame in hiring a counselor to help you. After all, communication is always the key to good relationships. Many people have been taught that the best way to deal with a problem is to simply wait for the problem to go away or to ignore it. Both men and women will admit that they sometimes deal with conflicts by pushing down their emotions instead of confronting them. While conflict might seem like something best avoided, the truth is that conflict must be dealt with. If conflict is left unresolved, it will simply fester and grow. The key to dealing with conflict, as any trained counselor will tell you, is knowing how to properly communicate with each other to work through a problem. Here are some hints: 1. Use "I" statements. Instead of tel

What to Do When You Have a Cheating Boyfriend or Girlfriend

Whenever you find out that your guy/girl whom you may care about deeply and even love, is cheating on you it can be devastating. You may feel betrayed, inadequate, and left wondering why this happened to you. You will wonder what did you ever do to deserve such maltreatment, and you may become enraged. However, even though this may seem like the end of the world, keep calm and follow these simple steps. If you follow these steps, you will recover, heal and move on in due time. Confront your man/women after you have had time to calm down - Yes, I know this will be incredibly hard to do if you are upset, but when you are emotional and out for blood, you will never get him to answer your questions. Furthermore, it will just make you more upset and it will emotionally drain you. Calm down, let the initial shock wears off, and then confront the cheating boyfriend/girlfriend. Do not blame yourself for his actions - I know how difficult this will be even if you are upset, a

Why Do Women Cheat on Their Men? - Here Are 3 Reasons You Should Know!

We usually hear the question why do men cheat on their women, but statistics are showing that women are cheating at a much higher rate than in years past. Is this really so or is the stats just catching up to what has been going on all along? So what are some reasons that may be causing women to cheat on their men? There is probably no exact reason for why men or women are cheating but in recent surveys several issues were brought up as to why women were cheating. · Unfulfilled at Home - Just like men, women have certain sexual desires that they expect to be met as well. For the men that are concerned with just getting off, they better beware. While their woman may not be openly expressing her dissatisfaction with him, she may be on the prowl for the Don Juan that can fulfill her every desire. · To End a Relationship - For certain women, it is hard for them to emotionally break off a relationship so by sleeping with someone else it allows them to emotionally disconn

Stressful relationships - A Challenge

As we are all social animals, we are bound to have different kinds of relationships with each another. The relationship you share with your parents would be different to the one you share with your spouse and so on. It’s also true to say that these relationships and their importance do change over a period of time. Several reasons can be attributed to this phenomenon. You could individually be going through a personal crisis, professional downslides, and financial worries and so on. All these factors and many others could have played their part in increasing frustration, depression and anxiety levels in you. No wonder then that your relationship goes through ups and downs more often than not. It is up to you to realize this and to sort out the problems. Although, your opinions, beliefs, judgments, preferences and reactions to other people’s voice are a part of your conditioning, they are all caused by none other than yourself. No doubt, they would be have been triggered

Give Your Date a Night to Remember - Dating and Singles Tips !

I am communicating with somebody from a dating site and we are close to getting out on our opening date. Wherever are the most proficient places for our first date? The bulk of online daters hold their first date at a café . It is a very instinctive and easy surrounding where you are able to create an immediate departure or stay on for hours depending on how the date advances. So what is the most common spot was for a first date, more importantly “the best spots”. Here are a few more options… 1) Miniature golf game. What’s neat about miniature golf is that it's an activity date where you aim to experience the new person whilst undergoing some fun. In a locale such as this, it’s more comfortable for your persona (and your date’s persona) to shine. 2) Hole in the Wall Eat Out. This constitutes among those humble spots that hardly any people know about that deliver absolute great table service and food. It can involve a lot of research on your part un

Relationship Mistakes Women Make

Relationships fail for a great many reasons but mainly because of jealousy, mistrust, poor communication, and irreconcilable differences and you can't always blame it on men. More often than not, it is the women who caused the break up when they make the biggest mistakes. Some of these mistakes are made by women who are looking for love in married or committed men because no matter how much he assures you that it is you that they want, he will never leave his wife or fiancée and live happily ever after with you. But if he does, could you possibly trust him to remain faithful to you? There are no foolproof guarantees that your relationship will last forever but you have a better chance at it if you avoid the common mistakes in your relationship: 1. Compare your partner with your ex - it's a bad idea to talk about what your ex has and what your partner hasn't. Or talk about how great your ex was and expecting your partner to be the same. If you had to compare

How to Save a Relationship That's Falling Apart

At times relationships become a bit rocky and start falling apart. At this point in time you have to either fix it or break it off as there are no other options. There are some things that can be done to help save them if they are falling apart. First, you have to have a serious talk to each other about it. Admit to each other that the relationship is difficult and needs to be worked on. Get rid of the ideals of what it should be and start focusing on what's going on. Talk to each other about what is making the relationship difficult. You might find out things that you are doing that you didn't know hurt the other person or was causing a problem. Some of these things will be trivial and can be fixed quickly. Stop fighting or blaming each other for who the other person is. At times you might not like something about the other person. Getting into fights about it is not going to fix or help your relationship. Consider planning some time apart. At times when get

Relationship Advice - Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair

Affairs, including emotional affairs, are typical unplanned events. Even when we are on that slippery slope, we convince ourselves everything in OK. "But we're just friends" are four of the most dangerous words for your relationship and marriage. But over and over in my office and on the phone I hear it: "We are just friends, there is nothing going on." The majority of extramarital affairs begin as "just friends." While it is certainly true that there are affairs that begin with impulsive one-night stands with a stranger, the most common ones that I see begin as "just friends." In fact, if you find yourself thinking or saying "but we are just friends" you are probably already in trouble. Gary Rosberg of America's Family Coaches states that there are at least 19 stages a person will pass through on the way to physically consummating an extramarital affair. There are at least two important notions that we can l

What Do Women Want in a Relationship? Here Are the Most Vital Things Women Want in a Relationship

Men need to know how a woman feels, what makes her tick and what she expects out of a man. To know all this, one has to really understand a woman's psychological make-up and what she wants in a relationship. Most women look for certain things in a relationship that will ensure happiness and success. A quick look at these points below will give you an insight into a woman's expectations. Women need to be satisfied on all counts This means that she needs you to satisfy her mentally, physically and emotionally. This sounds like a tall order but if you really look at it - all she is asking for is pure attention and love which is not difficult to give considering you love her. Commitment Very rarely you would come across a woman who is not looking for some sort of commitment in a relationship. No woman likes being taken for a ride. Neither does she like to be dumped after a while. So if you are a man who is willing to take a step towards commitment - you will make

10 Crucial and Surprising Steps to Build Trust in a Relationship

1. Be predictable. When do seeds of suspicion emerge? When one begins to think, What's up? Why is he doing that? He's never done that before. That is so unlike him. He loses 30 pounds, buys a new wardrobe and comes home late from work. He changes his patterns. His behavior becomes unpredictable. You get the picture? Any movement away from predictable behavior can become suspect and trust can deteriorate. Focus on acting predictably if you need to build trust. Be consistent in what you do. This doesn't mean you must be boring. If there is a twinkle in your eye and a dose of spontaneity every so often, for goodness sakes be spontaneous and fun loving. But, be spontaneous consistently! Be true to who you have always been and be that consistently, whoever you tend to be! 2. Inform your significant other when you become "unpredictable." No one goes through life the same person. We all make shifts and changes. Frankly sometimes we may be fairly clueless

Your Wife Does Not Love You Anymore? But Do You Really Give Her Any Reason to Love You?

Yes, it is very troubling for you to discover that your wife does not love you anymore - this is really heart breaking. The thing is, your wife has got to have a reason to feel this way about you, and it is more than likely the way you treat her that is possibly making her think that she is very unhappy in her marriage at the moment. Just as plants need water to survive, so does a marriage need certain elements to keep it alive and well over the years. Your wife has probably let you know all along just how important you are to her, and how much she wants and needs you in her life. She also more than likely tells you all the time that she loves you. However, over the years, probably without realising it, your demonstrations of how you feel about her have dwindled to almost nothing. This will obviously make your wife feel that you are losing interest in her and make her very unhappy and confused. In other words, your wife does not love you anymore, because you have not g

Blind Date Guidelines To Keep In Mind

Blind dates can be exciting and unnerving at the same time. I’m sure you’ve heard or had your fair share of blind date horror stories. I remember this one time when I agreed for a blind date with my long-time chat mate Rudy. We met in this coffee shop, not far from my apartment. Everything was going perfectly well that night, when all of a sudden, a woman splashed a glass of water on Rudy’s face. She was angry, and ready to brawl. What is more, she was cursing and yelling at us. It turned out to be Rudy’s wife! Of course I was so embarrassed! My blind date was a two-faced lying jerk! Everybody was staring at us that night, even the passers by stopped to watch the drama. I was so humiliated. So, I made it clear to the Mrs. that I didn’t know he is married then I hurriedly went out of the place. To add insult to my humiliation, that night, when I was on my way to get my laundry, I bumped into Mrs. Frederick, the old lady who lives 3 doors away from me. “Are you okay, dear? I s

She's Crazy by Nicholl McGuire

She's Crazy by Nicholl McGuire
Dating or married to an angry woman?