1. Just because you have him/her doesn't mean you really have him/her.
It might seem as if the person is yours and only yours, but he or she is not. The complexity of being a human being is comprised of many parts and you don't own any of them. The spirit is meant to be shared not controlled. The best thing you can do for love is let it breathe!
2. Your independence eventually goes on sabbatical.
You may have thought that there is your world, his/her world, and together, but the longer you are in a relationship with someone, the more dependent it becomes. If your independence means that much to you, remain single. Otherwise face years of sorrow trying to find an independent you in something t…