Saturday

Ten Ways to Survive a Breakup
People are often readily available to hear about a break up, but can't always provide you with the best advice you need to get on with your life. This article provides proven ways to help you heal.
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Friday

12 Things to Know Before Starting Your Next Sexual Relationship
Thinking about having sex with someone? Don't make the same mistakes of the past! Do it right this time and you just might save yourself from unnecessary relationship problems in the future.
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Sunday

How to Impress Someone by Using What You Know About Them
Not very good at making first impressions and/or building relationships? No problem, there is always a celebrity that someone admires. Allow another person's interest be your tool to get a conversation started, a meeting arranged or simply be remembered.
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How to Avoid Being Deceived by a No Good Boyfriend
Too many women believe the promises of "bad boys", then wonder why they are strung along into a hopeless relationship. Bad boys are not created to be faithful, honest and true. The next time you decide to date, know what you are getting yourself into before you commit.
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Thursday

7 Tips to a Long & Healthy Relationship

What makes some Relationships last longer than others? Is there some type of magic spell, or a special pill, that seems to hold people together longer than others? There just might be! Some couples just seem to sit back & sulk, while some others just seem to let life go by right over their heads.

Or maybe it's just that some couples pick up tips of relationship success from their grandparents, relatives or other friends. Since the latter is probably true, here are some tried & true tips that have helped couples enjoy long & happy relationships.

1. Be Nostalgic - When you first got together as a couple, there was something that bonded the two of you to each other. When times start to get difficult, take the time to reflect back on what brought the two of you together & use that common bond to build a foundation to work from to overcome your current difficulties.

2. Date Night - Just because the two of you are now in a long term relationship doesn't mean that the dating & romance has to diminish. Even if the day seems too busy, you can always end the evening with something light & easy. For example, light a candle & set it on the table, even if you are eating take-out or pizza. Or, tape your favorite TV show if the two of you aren't going to be home & then cuddle on the couch & watch it together before turning in for the night.

3. Don't Stop Having Fun - Remember when you first started dating your partner, how much fun you had together? But then once dating turns into a relationship, some couples seem to start getting too serious all the time, which can take the fun out of the relationship. Don't let that happen to you.

4. Learn to Move on instead of Looking Back - Bad things happen. It's a part of any relationship. But you don't have to dwell on them. When something does happen, be the first to apologize & make up. Don't dwell on what happened. Go for it! You'll be surprised at the results.

5. Give Each Other Some Room - This comes down to trust, which is a big part of every relationship. You can't spend 24/8/365 together. It's just not healthy to the relationship. It's just a fact of life that people need time alone & with friends. Be sure to give your partner space to breathe. It can work wonders for relationships.

6. Agree To Disagree - Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could agree with each other on everything? Not going to happen. And that's OK! Just learn to deal with it. You don't HAVE to agree on everything. Just remember that you don't have to recreate the wheel just to make both of you happy. Just agree to disagree.

7. Make Lasting Memories - No need to be elaborate about it. One of my favorite memories is a trip we took when we first started dating to Lookout Mountain in Chatanooga, TN. I really don't know why. But it stuck in my mind. We now make it an annual event to make that trip. For you, it may be a Restaurant that you ate at, a movie that you saw, or just a day that became special to you. The important thing is to remember these, & then share them together. Next year, make plans to do the same thing. It's these times that we remember forever & make us special to each other.

There is no pill or nothing magical about making a relationship work. It is the two people involved working together to make it magical for them. What is magical for one couple, may not be for another. But if you follow these tried & true tips, it is possible that you can improve your relationship. Don't sit back & sulk. Don't let life fly by over your head. Grab the bull by the horns & ride it for all you are worth!!

Gina G. has published many articles on Relationships, Getting Back A Lost Love, & Weight Loss. She is also a published ebook author, her latest being "How To Get Your Ex Lover Back". You can view it at http://getmyexloverbacktoday.com.

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How to Understand a Woman's Body Language - And Know If She Likes You (3 Easy Tricks You Must Know)

People say that reading the works of Homer and Nietzsche would be much easier compared to reading the thoughts of a girl. Oftentimes, it would appear that girls say one thing when they actually want to say something completely different. Because of this, a lot of guys get confused when they try to untangle the thoughts of a girl - what more when trying to truly understand them?

This is quite ironic since guys try to read something that they do not know the language of. Naturally, this results in confusion and then denial. However, there are several surefire signs that girls show through body language, which guys could learn to read. You simply need to understand this female body language before it can get easier for you to read female thoughts.

See, girls truly only want three things out of life: romance, security, and to feel special. If you have the ability to give a girl these things, then reading them would be just as easy as a book for kids - with nothing but pictures.

Easy Tactics To Decode Female Body Language

Tactic Number One: Make sure that you pay close attention to her eyes. If she likes you, she should be looking straight into your eyes with a flicker of happiness emanating from her own.

Tactic Number Two: If a girl likes you, she will lean closer to you every time you talk. Doing this will let you know that her concentration is solely on you, that she is thinking only about you and that she wants to get to know you better.

Tactic Number Three: If she is the one to initiate conversations whenever you see each other, this would be a clear sign that she likes you. Girls will take every chance they can get to strike conversations with guys that they like because they truly enjoy talking to them.

Now that you know the basic tactics to reading female body language, you can arm yourself with some tactics of hypnosis next to supercharge those abilities of seduction. One tactic is called fractionation and has the ability to make girls fall for guys in no more than 15 minutes.

Fractionation might seem to be complicated, but in fact it is very easy to apply - if you know the step-by-step formula. Regular guys have been known to be able to use this tactic to make any woman they lay their eyes on like them very quickly. Amazingly effective - although some have objected to this tactic because it may seem to be unfair to women.

However, please be careful...as fractionation (http://www.FractionationFormula.com) could be the most explosive piece of seduction technology ever invented.

This technique is simple to use but it gives "seduction superpowers" to the regular guy to attract the woman of his dreams. If you want to seduce women in as quickly as 15 minutes, then download the Fractionation Formula for free.

Tuesday

Dating While Still in a Relationship: Seven Long Years with Mary and Jim
A creative short story based on true events about a couple who decides to date behind each other's back while still living together.
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Friday

Ready to Have Sex?

Now are you sure? Because if you do, you know what this means. The way you see your relationship today, won't be the same by next week - I guarantee it! Your partner will start acting more concerned about where you are going, who you are seeing, whose on the phone, and what Internet sites you visited. There is something magical about sex. It makes people draw near for awhile, but then when the potion begins to wear off, people act strange, very strange.

You may recall what happened the last time you had sex before the relationship was mature enough to handle it. She called you way too much wanting to know far too much. He acted like you were the very best thing since slice bread in the beginning of the relationship then eventually forgot what bread even looked like much less tasted like.

So should men and women take it slow when it comes to sex? Yes! And what should they do to take it slow. I wrote about that too. Check out a site I contribute articles to:

How to Take it Slow

Nicholl McGuire
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Thursday

Ten Internet Dating Tips
If you haven't dated online or have but you don't like the results you are receiving, read the following following tips on internet dating. These tips will help you save time and money in the future.
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How to Know You're Dating a Bad Girl
You know God warned you about her and used other people to do the same, but you still want this bad girl. This article will tell you what she really thinks about you.
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Wednesday

He's No Good for You, She's a Slut

When well-meaning family members and friends finally meet this person you have raved so much about they may be very skeptical at first. Sometimes their skepticism never leaves no matter how much you parade your new love in front of them.

Some will be bold and others may be coy about how they really feel about your date. "He's no good...she is a slut!" They may tell you about what they think they know about the person and what they may have heard. Most likely, you will defend this person who has brought you so much joy. However, consider the source and why they feel the way they do. Is there any truth to their argument?

I can recall a time when I was head over heels in love with a guy that I brought around my family. Everyone else seemed to like him except one person. She didn't have a man herself and she was known for being a gossip. Although she was right about him being "no good," she was also very wrong for sharing her opinion with everyone else. Family members often told her to "mind her own business."

We all have to learn the hard way about people. We can't live our lives with gut feelings, assumptions and other people's opinions. We can only do one thing take the blinders off our eyes and see our dates for who they really are. There is the person who we see at face value and then there is the real person behind the scenes. The key is to set up enough situations and circumstances to test the individual to determine if he or she is right for you.


Nicholl McGuire
http://associatedcontent.com/nichollmcguire

Tuesday

How I Caught Her Cheating by Effectively Using a Reverse Cell Phone Directory

Do you need to find out if your spouse is cheating on you or you are just imagining things?

There can be several signs that indicate the fact that your spouse is cheating on you, and you are the most authorized person to notice them, as you know them better than anyone, but sometimes it's hard to make sure, and this is something that needs to be known for sure.

You don't want to believe they are fateful when they are in fact cheating on you, you need to find out the truth in order to decide what kind of future you have next to that person - if any.

When noticing several calls from their cell or on the telephone bill to an unknown number, there wasn't much you could have done in the past to find out to whom than number belonged, but things have changed now in the age of the internet.

For example, I actually was being cheated on by my wife, and I couldn't have found out if I didn't use a reverse cell phone detective. After finding a suspicious number in her cell, I needed to know who that person really was, as I didn't trust her explanation.

After being denied this information by the telephone company the reason being privacy rights, I quickly found out that my only hope of finding a name and an address was the use of a reverse phone directory - a service that gives you this info from their professionally designed database, all for a small one time fee.

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Wednesday

Is Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Conceited, Arrogant, Turn People Off?
Is your partner emotionally draining you with their self-absorbed personality? Find out how their issues will affect your relationship long term.
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Tuesday

How to Know You're Dating a Bad Girl
You know God warned you about her and used other people to do the same, but you still want this bad girl. This article will tell you what she really thinks about you.
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Sunday

Single Parents Meet At Online Dating Parents Services

Single parents meet with other singles at online dating services is common these days. Seeking a companion, they just need to register their personal ad at any single parents dating site. Single parents need love from someone who loves them, so do we. Every body need to be loved. You are a single mom who seeks a single man. And if you are a single dad who seeks a single mom. Then the best place to seek dating single mums or dads is from online dating parents services. Because of your busy life, it is too hard to find single fathers or mothers at the bar or nightclubs. Who will take care of your children when you go to find dates at these places? Online dating services are the best choice to find single parents. There are also free dating sites which provide a free two-way match making service to help singles dating single parents. Single parents need love so they should not give up on seeking new love in their life.

Single parents seek their dates sometimes confront with tricky situations. That is your children who may not accept your new boyfriend or girlfriend. It is hard to let the children to meet with your date. You need to talk to your children first and explain to them that you need love. They may not understand about your situation because of their young ages. Keep explaining to them about why you need a date. If you have small children, then it is easier. Some children may hate their single parents if there are new people to live in their houses. If you are a single female seeking another single male, then it is simple and easy. Dating single parents is tougher because you need to accept that person and your children need to accept that single person also. So, there are two stages that single parents must go over.

Some single parents are still afraid about their last relationships and divorce. However, you should be strong to start over. You can not live with your history of memories. Your future is waiting ahead. There are single parents meet each other online so you can do the same thing. Given up on love is a bad choice. Your dating single partner is waiting to meet you. You have to be opened for trusting new people in your life. Do not let your past relationship to haunt you. Forget about your last marriage and move up your life is an on-going thing your must do. Thanks to this computer world, free online dating sites help many single parents to meet their dating singles. Some dating on line sites generate many marriages a year. So, start joining these single parents dating sites to meet your new date.

Single parents dating their dates is a good thing. Single parents should not give up on love. Meeting an online date to make your life more beautiful. Do not wait. Take action now. Join these free online dating services to find a special single mom or dad of your dream.


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Monday

Marriage Or Cohabitation - How Are Children Affected?

Recently on the Today Show, Brad Pitt briefly discussed his family, including long-time girlfriend Angelina Jolie and their six adoptive children. When asked if he planned to marry Angie, he said if they determine it would benefit their children, they would do so. Following is some evidence that could change the mind of people wondering if long-term cohabitation is as good a choice as marriage for families with children.

Hopefully, most Americans aren't modeling their lives after Hollywood celebrities, but cohabitation is becoming more common, so the issue is worth discussing. Marriage is not just a financial decision; it is not just a decision of the heart. It involves these things of course, but when children are involved, they should also be considered. So, today's post is dedicated to studies showing how children are affected by marriage-emotionally, behaviorally, sexually, mentally, and physically.

Research shows that in the U.S. cohabitators resemble singles more than they resemble married couples. Their unions are much less stable. One study showed that half of the children born to a cohabitating couple saw their parents split by the time they were five. The number was even higher for Latino or African-Americans. For married couples, 15% split in the same time period. Another study found that even after controlling for socioeconomic and parenting factors, teenagers who lived in cohabiting households experienced more behavioral and emotional difficulties than those in intact, married families.

A fourth study found married parents devote more of their financial resources to childrearing and education than do cohabiting parents, whereas cohabiting parents spent a larger percentage of their income on alcohol and tobacco. In the study, cohabiting couples had lower incomes and education levels. They also reported more conflict and violence and lower satisfaction levels.

Marriage has not only social effects on children, but also biosocial consequences. For example, girls appear to have their sexual development affected by male pheromones, which either accelerate or decelerate their development, depending on their family situation. Studies have shown that adolescent girls who do not grow up in an intact married home are more likely to menstruate early. On the other hand, girls "who have close, engaged relationships with their fathers" begin menstruation at a later age. Girls who live with an unrelated male menstruate even earlier than those living with single mothers. Researchers believe the father's pheromones appear to inhibit sexual development, while an unrelated male accelerates her development. When a girl has earlier sexual development, she is more likely to become sexually active earlier and is at higher risk of teen pregnancies.

Boys also benefit from married parents. Boys in unmarried families carry out more delinquent acts. Boys in single-parent homes are about twice as likely, and boys in stepfamilies are 2.5 times more likely, to commit a crime leading to jail time by their 30s. Boys in cohabiting families have been found to be more likely to be involved in delinquent behavior, cheating, and have more school suspensions. When a boy lives with his mother and her boyfriend, the boyfriend is more likely to be abusive than his own father. This leads to additional problems.

Additional research has suggested children with two married parents have better health and a longer life expectancy than other children. This benefit starts in infancy, and remains a lifelong benefit.

It is tempting to suggest the difference is due to socioeconomic status or education levels. But many studies account for these factors. One such study followed academically gifted, middle-class children for 70 years. Researchers controlled for family background and childhood health status, and even personality characteristics. They found children of divorce had life expectancy reduced by four years. They also found that 40-year-old men whose parents had divorced were three times more likely to die in the next 40 years than were 40-year-old men whose parents remained married.

Even babies have a lower risk of mortality when born to married parents than if they are born to unmarried parents. The average increase in infant mortality is 50% for unmarried women. After controlling for age, race and education, infants with unwed mothers still have a higher mortality rate, even through early childhood years.

Sweden has a national health care system for all its citizens. But a study of the entire Swedish population showed boys who lived in single-parent homes were more than 50% more likely to die of various causes (i.e. suicide, accidents, addiction) than those in a married, two-parent home. Boys and girls in single-parent families were more than twice as likely to have problems with drug or alcohol abuse, psychiatric diseases, suicide attempts. They were also more likely to experience poisonings, traffic injuries or falls than teens in two-parent families.

Yet another study shows teens who live with their married parents are less likely to experiment to drugs alcohol or tobacco than other teens-even after controlling for age, race, gender, and family income.

Mental health of children was also affected when parents split up. Children of divorce have double the risk of serious psychological problems later in life than children with parents who stay married. They are more likely to suffer from depression, drug and alcohol abuse, or suicidal thoughts. The exception is when there is a marriage has "high and sustained" conflict levels, children benefit psychologically if the parents divorce.

I could write many more examples, but I imagine you get the picture that marriage has been shown in lots of research to protect children in myriad ways. Let me just share the most shocking statistics for those of you still with me. It is hard to imagine for parents who love their children (and stepchildren), but children who do not live with their own two parents are at much higher risk of child abuse. Living with a stepparent is the most significant factor in severe child abuse. Children are more than 50 times more likely to be murdered by a stepparent (usually a stepfather) than by a biological parent. A different study showed children were 40 times more likely to be sexually abused than one living with both of his biological parents. A national study found that 7% of children who lived with one parent had been sexually abused, compared to 4% of children who live with both parents.

With this research in mind, do you believe marriage has a social benefit for children?

Information on these studies can be found in "Why Marriage Matters, Second Edition" by Institute for American Values.

Lori Lowe is a writer and communications consultant from Indianapolis. Her blog http://www.lorilowe.wordpress.com encourages couples in their marriages and family relationships. Subscribe today to read a positive voice in your inbox.

Tuesday

Are Your Friends Hurting Your Relationship?

Author: Richard Nicastro, Ph.D.

You exist within a web of relationships. For instance, if your friend is going through tough times, you may find yourself feeling an emotional heaviness throughout the day, thinking and worrying about your friend. As this colors your mood, your partner may start to notice that lately you've been preoccupied and down. Since emotions are contagious, this will impact your partner in some way and her/his interactions with others may now be different as a result of what your friend shared with you.


How is this relevant to your marriage or relationship?


Your relationship exists within a larger social context, and your friends, coworkers, family, and even the society in which you live can directly or indirectly impact your relationship. Think of your relationship as one link on a never-ending chain of connectedness.


This was evident with two couples I recently coached:


A brief story of relationship isolation:


Tad and Wanda have lived together for a little over a year and during a recent coaching session, Wanda complained that "all of our friends seem to be getting divorced or breaking up. It's depressing and makes me think there's something wrong with me for trying to make my relationship work. When I try to talk to my friends about a fight I had with Tad, they just tell me to 'find someone better-suited to you,' or 'relationships are overrated anyway.' The whole 'there are lots of fish in the sea' mindset isn't helpful when I'm trying to make my relationship work now."


Tad and Wanda lack the couple-to-couple support that is vital for a sustainable, long-term relationship. They both struggle with feeling like the "oddball couple" in a sea of failed relationships (and they don't have any single friends who are pro-relationship)—and both acknowledged that this was starting to negatively impact their union.


A brief story of marital support:


Molly and Jeff have been together for eleven years. Both are retired and have been active participants in their local community and volunteer for numerous causes. This involvement has offered them opportunities to develop friendships and socialize with other couples.


Molly joked that their friends "saved our marriage on at least two occasions" because of the support they offered Molly. She shared, "If Jeff and I are going through a difficult time, for whatever reason, I don't feel alone. I have at least two other women I can talk to who have been through difficult times but they're still happily married…I know I'm not alone in my struggles and that makes a world of difference. And I have a few single friends who are supportive of my relationship and committed relationships in general, even though they're not in one now. All that encouragement among my friends really helps whenever I start to worry that the challenges of a romantic relationship might be too much for me."


The need for relationship support


Couples love to hear about other couples who have successful relationships. Have you ever noticed how people in relationships are happy to learn that a famous couple is in it for the long haul? Many couples feel validated to discover that their favorite movie star or musician has resisted the temptations that come with fame and are committed to one person. Notice your reaction the next time you hear that people you know and/or admire are splitting up.


Couples root for other couples—there is an unspoken, cosmic connection, a sense that we're in this together. If Brad and Angelina can make their relationship work, and your neighbors and friends can make their relationships work, you end up feeling more hopeful that you can make your own work.


Seek Out Relationship Support


Relationship support comes in many forms and the first step is to look in your own backyard. Make a list of all the individuals and couples you know and admire: family, friends, teachers, community leaders, local organizations or church members.


You might be surprised to learn that there are people in your life that have been married or together for a long time (and feel lucky to be with the same person). These couples can be an emotional resource for you and your partner. Would you consider asking them about their relationship, especially what has worked for them? Are you willing to seek their support when you (or your partner) need advice or guidance?


We all need relationship mentors—couples who have successfully navigated the complicated interpersonal terrain that comes with committed relationships. This doesn’t mean you should overlook friends not currently in relationships as potential sources of support. Often single friends who understand and celebrate you and your relationship can be a safe place to go to when you need a different perspective or just need to vent.


Don't overlook the vast relationship wisdom that surrounds you.


Many couples like spending time with other couples. If most of your friends seem to be in dire relationship straits or your friends' values regarding commitment differ from your own, you need to expand your social network—seek out couples you and your partner can socialize with, couples dedicated to making their own relationships work. The goal of expanding your couples-support-system doesn't mean you have to abandon your current friends because they aren't in a relationship or their relationship is in trouble—it means that you enrich your circle of friends to include those that believe in the benefit of a long-term, committed relationship and will help support you in yours.


It might seem like a paradox that you can be with someone you deeply love, yet still feel isolated. Often couples assume feeling isolated means there is something wrong with their relationship—while this can be an indication that there are problems that need to be addressed, it can also be an indication that your relationship is surrounded by negativity and a lack of support.


No matter how strong your relationship might seem, you and your partner do not exist in a vacuum. When you establish the goal of building a support network for your relationship, you have taken an important step in buffering the damaging effects of relationship-isolation.


Is your relationship worth protecting? Are you ready to make your marriage everything it can be?

About the Author:

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Richard Nicastro, Ph.D. is a psychologist and relationship coach who is passionate about helping couples protect the sanctuary of their relationship. Rich and his wife Lucia founded LifeTalk Coaching, an internet-based coaching business that helps couples strengthen their relationships.

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Will Your Relationship Last Forever?

Author: Damian Miles

Do you realize that it is perfectly possible for you to have a relationship that lasts forever? And a relationship that is not just normal, or struggling, but that is consistently great. I believe that you can have a relationship where you are soul mates with your partner, and in love, and that you can have this over many many years until your are finally separated by death.

I call such a relationship, a “lifelong soul mate relationship.”

I know that you hope for such a lifelong soul mate relationship, but I suspect that you believe that it is only possible for you in some abstract kind of way. You may even believe that such a relationship is not possible outside of fairy tales.

It is possible for you to have a lifelong soul mate relationship, and there is simple first step to achieving this.

The first step is to see if a relationship, or a prospective relationship has the potential to be a lifelong soul mate relationship.

With regard to achieving a soul mate relationship all people can be divided into three categories. These are: (1) those in relationships that will never become lifelong soul mate relationships, (2) those in relationships that can become lifelong soul mate relationships, and (3) those currently not in a relationship.

(1) Relationships that will never become lifelong soul mates.

No matter how much you want your relationship to work, if your partner does not want it to work, then it won’t. As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. Many people actually do not want to be a lifelong soul mate, preferring instead a much lesser relationship. If your partner is one of these, you have a simple choice to make, Settle for a relationship that falls far short of being a lifelong soul mate relationship, or get a new relationship. The choice is yours. The rules for having a lifelong soul mate relationship will help you judge your current relationship to see if there is any possibility of it becoming such a relationship.

(2) Those relationships that have the potential to become lifelong soul mate relationships.

These are relationships where both parties are committed to the relationship, committed to a future together, and both are interested in deepening the relationship. The chances of this type of relationship becoming a lifelong soul mate relationship are good. And remember the rules for achieving this relationship are easy to follow.

(3) Those that are not currently in a relationship

For those that are not yet in a relationship the lifelong soul mate rules can be used to judge any prospective partner, increasing the likelihood that any relationship that you are about to enter into will be a lifelong soul mate relationship.

So, take the first step to a lifelong soul mate relationship, and decide which of the above three categories your relationship fits into.

About the Author:

Damian Miles is a life coach and NLP Practitioner and an expert in helping people to live the life of their dreams, and helping people become Powerfully Positive People. For more information on how you can start living your dream life, or on how to become a Powerfully Positive Person and start doing so TODAY check out Damian's website at http://www.liveyourdreamlifetoday.co.uk

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How To Make Your Relationship More Exciting

Throughout my professional career I've come across many people that were lacking excitement in their relationship. Many of them have experienced some form of it in the beginning of their relationship- but they all seem to ask me the same question..."where did all the fun go...and how can I get it back?"

I know that when you're starting a new relationship it may be fun, exciting, and there are few arguments (if any). Someone even compared it to buying a new car and having that new car smell. But what happens after all the fun stops?

Here's what you can do to get the fun back:

1. Show your creative side. When it comes to making a successful, long-lasting relationship, sometimes we need to think outside of the box. Coming up with fresh ideas for love and romance (or even where the next place you'll go to spend time together) could be the key to keeping your relationship thrilling.

2.Get Spontaneous. Do things "just because". Surprise your partner by planning a nice romantic getaway. Summer is here, so traveling around this time may be very enjoyable for the both of you.

3. Talk to your partner. Find out from your partner why your relationship is starting to get boring. Are there things going on in his/her life (bills, work, etc) that's stressing him/her out (this may be the reason for the lack of excitement)? Or is he/she just plainly losing interest in the relationship? Communicate with your partner to find out what's going on and then take it from there.

Whatever you need to do to make your relationship more exciting, then do it. You have to be the pro-active one if you want to get the love life that you desire.

Relationship Expert/ Professional Matchmaker Daniel Amis has helped many people create the relationship of their dreams. He publishes weekly E-zines that's inspiring, fun, and insightful. If you're ready to get the love that you desire, then subscribe at www.findyouridealmatch.com or www.relationshipadvice4you.com and get your FREE tips today!

How To Have A Successful Long Distance Relationship?

Long Distance relationships are a true test to a couple's commitment and personal limits. LDRs take a great amount of effort to maintain and often people involved in them, realize that they evolve into a state of emotion that they never found themselves in before. When your partner is miles away from you, it is very easy to let things go wrong and lead your long distance romance to an early death. Some people find it difficult to bridge the distance through communication, others become overly obsessed with what their partner is doing when they are not there and as a result they spiral down a road of jealousy and suspicion. They key is balance and following some basic steps to keep your relationship healthy and strong.

Communicate and visit often

It cannot be stressed enough how important communication is for every relationship, especially if it is an LDR. With the distance working to keep you and your sweetie apart, your defense is keeping all lines of communication open. It doesn't matter how you do it as long as you do it. Every long distance couple should find ways to communicate that make both partners comfortable and happy. You can talk on the phone everyday, send e-mails, faxes or text messages and whatever you do make sure you share your feelings and expectations and be true to one another. Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone calls. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get. The key here is to set up some "rules" about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them, consistency can help a LDR survive. (Check our Communicate Better and Travel section)

Avoid jealousy and be trusting

One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worth of trust until proven otherwise. Don't fall in the trap to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a LDR, you lives won't pause. Your partner will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too. You should both maintain your social activity and be happy with yourselves.

Be positive

Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a LDR is essential to keeping your relationship blooming and your partner content. Being away from your sweetie is not all bad news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your career objectives. Another positive points it that long distance dating pushes both of you to be more creative, communicate better since you don't have "face-to-face" time and test your feelings. As long as you see the long distance relationship as a temporary state, you will keep your chin up and transmit that feeling of security and happiness to your partner too.

Long distance dating is all about a balanced relationship between partners; a relationship built on strong foundations of trust, understanding and determination to make it work. The two partners should be reasonable about their expectations and willing to cooperate so that this relationship can lead to a happy ending. If these parameters are taken care of, you have nothing to worry about.

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Thursday

Best Ways to Overcome the Breakup Blues

Breakups are never fun but they are often necessary to get to the place in life where you belong. Although you may believe that there are brighter days in your future, it does not make the present any less painful. You do not have to spend weeks locked in a dark room in order to overcome this obstacle. Here are ten baby steps to assist you out of your breakup rut.

1. Ben and Jerry's Cherry Garcia - Ok, so you don't want to go overboard with the indulgences, but go ahead and enjoy some good old fashion comfort foods.

2. Cry - There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a good cry. Let it out, scream at the universe, whatever gets it off your chest.

3. Treat Yourself - Go shopping, get a manicure, visit your favorite restaurant. Now is the ideal time to treat yourself well.

4. Bury the Nostalgia - It is not necessary to burn everything associated with your ended relationship, but tuck it away. Out of site and out of mind.

5. Rekindle Relationships - Call up some friends you may not have spoken with for a while. Sometimes friendships get neglected in these situations. Let your friends be there for you, both to lean on and as a distraction.

6. Avoid the Rebound - It is never a good idea to try and substitute one relationship with another. It is unfair to all parties involved.

7. Look for the Silver Lining - Focus on the good things. Look for any good thing, even the smallest will make a difference.

8. Volunteer - Move you focus outside of yourself. Doing good for others will boost your self-esteem and give you a good perspective on life. There is always someone out there that is going through something far tougher that what you are facing at the moment.

9. Be optimistic - Approaching life with a good attitude will radically alter the course of your life. Truly believing life will get better is a self-fulfilling prophesy.

10. Give yourself a Pep Talk - There is no person's voice you hear more often than your own. Talk your self through the hard times and you will be just fine.

Exploring Interracial Dating Websites - How to Make the Most Out of Interracial Dating

Many singles have tried their luck with interracial dating websites and fortunately, they were able to get the results they wanted. Trying your hand at interracial dating sites is a good way to meet people from racial, cultural and special-interest groups and what's best about it is that you can find a vast number of site options devised toward your particular liking.
So how do we exactly make use of interracial dating websites? Well, dating sites have existed for some time and have developed right along with the Internet. It's phenomenal. Here are a few tips you can follow:

Take advantage of all options. Are you looking for a one night hookup? A long term relationship? Marriage, perhaps? Try to make use of all them and see what's going to work best for you. Be open to diversity. The best things happen in the most unexpected time.

Be honest and outgoing. Some sites offer questionnaires before they can suggest which category or group you're most likely to join. Be sincere when answering their questions. Don't be too suggestive or try to be too funny. It can mess things up.

Know what you want before joining a group. There are sites where they offer free-only services and others where you have to sign in and be an exclusive member. Take advantage of their chat rooms and other options. Make use of your time or you can even ask someone who has tried dating interracial websites and get their advice.

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100% Free Interracial Dating Websites

Whether you've always been interested in someone of a different ethnicity or you have only recently discovered a desire to meet someone who is racially different from you, you may be at a bit of a loss. Many people, no matter how open or friendly, end up in environments or social groups where the people who you interact with are of the same race. One way that you can beat this tendency and meet the guy or girl of your dreams, however, is to take advantage of some of the 100% free interracial dating websites out there!

By using interracial dating services, you can take a lot of the awkwardness out of meeting your dream guy or girl. On sites like these, you know that they are looking for the same thing that you are. Similarly, you are spared the awkwardness and potential embarrassment of walking up to someone on the street and starting a conversation. On top of that, many of these sites are free, so you can browse at your leisure.

When you are getting ready to sign up for a free interracial dating site, there are a few things that you should keep in mind. Take a look around first and make sure that there are plenty of members, especially active members. More importantly, check out their ethnicities, sexes, and preferences. If you're looking to meet an Asian women, it won't do you a lot of good to end up on a site populated with members who are mostly looking for someone not equal your ethnicity. While you can obviously join as many sites as you like, remember to keep your firewall up and your virus program scanning. Going to free interracial online dating services can sometimes lead to you accidentally putting spyware and adaware on your computer.

When using free interracial dating websites, be honest and tactful. While the person of your affections will probably be flattered to hear that you have always found people of his or her ethnicity to be attractive, they'll definitely be turned if you go on and on about it. Remember that interracial dating sites are meant to help you find a significant other. You won't get very far if you offend the people on it.

Like on any other dating site, be open and honest and engaging. Ask questions and when you send off queries, be polite. Many, many people come to sites like this with the wrong idea and end up being extremely rude to the other members. Just by using common courtesy, you'll come out ahead of the rest.

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Fun and Free Dating Ideas For First Dates

Impress your date with your intelligence and sophistication. Enjoy a great fun and free first date at the museum. From once a week to once a year, as a service to the community and as a thanks for public funding, most museums offer free admission. Although there are many things to spur conversation on your first date at a museum, maybe you are just not a chatty person. The museum provides a great environment to enjoy a quiet and contemplative first date. There are many kinds of museums to choose from. Some of the oddest and most interesting museums are not well known, look in the yellow pages under museums for full listings

Films, books and TV create impossible expectations for relationships, and it's time we all left this to the realm of the imagination where they belong. We often think that if our relationships aren't the most sexy, the most romantic, or the most exciting, we're somehow failing - and this usually ends up with our partner bearing the brunt of our disappointment. No, your partner won't fulfill your every need - you will still need friends and outside interests, so make sure you maintain and nurture both. Going off and each doing your own thing means you appreciate the time you spend together even more, and means no one feels stifled or held back by the relationship.

Don't rush into a meeting if you're not sure - it's quite ok to take time to decide whether to move on to the next step. But if you're getting on really well with someone and want to meet them as soon as possible, then make it happen! There are no rules about how long to wait before meeting.
Impress your date with your intelligence and sophistication. Enjoy a great fun and free first date at the museum. From once a week to once a year, as a service to the community and as a thanks for public funding, most museums offer free admission. Although there are many things to spur conversation on your first date at a museum, maybe you are just not a chatty person. The museum provides a great environment to enjoy a quiet and contemplative first date. There are many kinds of museums to choose from. Some of the oddest and most interesting museums are not well known, look in the yellow pages under museums for full listings.

Films, books and TV create impossible expectations for relationships, and it's time we all left this to the realm of the imagination where they belong. We often think that if our relationships aren't the most sexy, the most romantic, or the most exciting, we're somehow failing - and this usually ends up with our partner bearing the brunt of our disappointment. No, your partner won't fulfill your every need - you will still need friends and outside interests, so make sure you maintain and nurture both. Going off and each doing your own thing means you appreciate the time you spend together even more, and means no one feels stifled or held back by the relationship.

Don't rush into a meeting if you're not sure - it's quite ok to take time to decide whether to move on to the next step. But if you're getting on really well with someone and want to meet them as soon as possible, then make it happen! There are no rules about how long to wait before meeting.

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How to Choose a Free Dating Website

There are many dating websites available today. While many charge a fee to sign up, others are totally free. Among those free services, how do you choose a free dating website?

Most of the websites that offer free dating services will have banner ads along the top or sides of the materials that you are reading. These advertisements are how the owners of the sites pay their bills. If you are using one of the sites and an advertisement comes up that interest you, by all means, click on that ad and purchase the product if it meets your needs. You have just done your part in sponsoring the free dating website.

In order to join the website and have your profile listed, you will need to answer some questions. While some people are turned off by a lot of questions, remember that if the service is this thorough with you, they will be thorough with the possible dates you find on the site. Do not disregard the site just because of an extensive questionnaire.

A good site will allow you to choose how much information you wish to disclose about yourself. Do not join a site that requires you to reveal a home address or phone number. Initial contact should be by e-mail and you should have the option of blocking any more messages sent to you. The best sites will forward messages to your e-mail without even giving the e-mail address out.

Additionally, a good site will allow you to change your status to inactive. Since the purpose of joining a free dating website is to meet someone for a dating relationship, once you are in a relationship that is serious enough that you do not want to meet anyone else, you should be able to move your profile to an inactive status.

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Religious Dating in the World Today

Though many people would argue that caste, religion, and culture don't play a big part in the modern dating scene any longer, there are actually people who believe that these aspects are essential in their lives. In fact, one of the biggest issues and a major personal preference when choosing a partner is religion.

In the United States of America alone, for instance, religion (particularly Christianity), functions as a very big aspect in a person's life with a large percentage of the population considering themselves as Christians. And because of this, a lot of free religious dating sites have emerged to be able to cater singles who want partners who share the same religious views and beliefs as well.

Religious online dating sites are in a sense unique from the usual online dating services you see online since they focus an ample portion of their scope to the religion being promoted. For instance, free Christian dating sites focus their features, perks, and intentions towards pure Christian dating and to Christians who want to enjoy the fun of dating.

In truth, there are many people who take religious customs very seriously when choosing a partner, stating in their profiles that they would only communicate or entertain potential partners who share in the same religious views, practices, and beliefs as them.

Therefore, if you are the type of person who is very strict and conservative with regards to religious views, definitely religious dating would be the best online portal for you. There are many available online dating services that cater to devout religious singles such as yourself, so take the time to look through these sites online.

Wednesday

College Students: 12 Signs to Watch Out for If You Don't Want to Be Anyone's Boyfriend/Girlfriend
You are attending college to reach various personal goals, but lately someone is distracting you away from your dreams with flirting, teasing, and other things to get you to commit. What to do? Article explains.
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Saturday

Relationship Commitment - A Healthy Relationship Starts With You

It has been proven that a healthy mind and a healthy body can contribute to a healthy relationship.

When you begin a new relationship with someone, you obviously want it to last as long as possible. Your relationship can last if you build a healthy relationship. However in order to have a strong relationship with someone, YOU must have a healthy mind and body and you must make that commitment to attain that status.

So how do you make a relationship healthy?

First, a healthy mind is when you have good self-esteem and confidence of who you are and what you want out of life. A healthy mind gives you independence so that you rely on yourself to get matters done and therefore not dependent on your significant other.

An unhealthy mind though is when you have little or no self-esteem and no confidence in yourself. The lines of communication become non-existent because you withdraw into your own world and just look to your partner for guidance on your life, which puts a burden on him or her. An unhealthy mind is also when you are still thinking of your old flame, this can be considered as emotionally unstable. This definitely will not help your new relationship and if you are in this situation, you must deal with it first before you lose your current relationship.

Second, a healthy body is when you take care of yourself. This means, you try to keep a healthy weight and you care about your appearances, how you look and feel on a daily basis. If you are a smoker, try to quit, if you drink excessively, try to stop, or any other bad habit or addiction you might have that would cause harm to your body in the long run.

Another healthy body tip is to exercise regularly to keep your heart functioning smoothly and eat a sensible diet, and yes , you can splurge once in awhile as a reward. Facts show that exercise boosts up the moral, and depression can be avoided. Your attitude becomes a positive one that makes your mate want to spend time with you. As you can see healthy mind and healthy body go hand in hand.

In retrospect, an unhealthy body is when you don’t care enough about yourself to take care of your body. If you have picked up bad habits or addictions such as smoking, drinking, drugs, (or gambling which is becoming an increasing problem) in time you will let yourself go. If you eat a lot of junk food and your waistline is expanding, this is unhealthy for your body and might bring you down because you will not like how you look like anymore.

Because you don’t care about yourself anymore, you don’t try to exercise, your attitude is poor, the result is a relationship that collapses because your partner is not willing to spend any time with you anymore. You can not blame your partner because if you can not even love you, why should he?

When your mind and body are in sync with one another, you can acquire a positive attitude, and this keeps the line of communication going with your significant other. When your mind is 'clear' it allows you to listen to your partner and helps you support them whenever they require it (and vice versa). You are more likely to do what it takes to maintain that relationship in tip-top shape so that it continues to flourish.

Work hard on avoiding those pitfalls and take a stand on your mental and physical health. You are human, so setbacks are sure to happen, but do not let them destroy your state of mind or affect your health for the long run. Remember, if you are not happy or healthy how can you have a healthy relationship!

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Sunday

How to Know If You Are Dating an Abuser

So, you have met someone in a club, in the park or you and him/her were introduced by a friend. You have gone out with that person on a couple of dates and that person seems so perfect, so right! You decide to take this dating to the next level, so you start a relationship with this person. After months of seeing this person, you decide to move in with him/her; next thing you know, you are being abused by that person.

You can evade this whole scenario every time you go out on a date and trust that person that you are considering having a serious relationship with. Remember, many people are not honest about who they are until they are in deep in a relationship. Now, you should not be scared when it comes to dating but you should be careful, here are some tips on how to spot an abuser.
You can spot an abuser on your first 3-5 dates with that person, as long as you listen correctly. A date is all about knowing a person, not their whole life but at least the most important details and what makes them who they are. If that person is over aggressive and hateful, than there is your first sign that he/she is an abuser. An aggressive person tends to fight and hurt other people when they are simply arguing; their reason is that they cannot control their actions or their emotions. A hateful person is likely to abuse another person because after a while, that person will look at you with hate and disgust, no matter who you are, a hateful person gets tired of the same people in his/her life pretty quickly.

Another sign is when that person hears you spill out your whole life in those first couple of dates but that person barely tells you about his/her past. Maybe the person will tell you about his former job, his past friends or something about his mom or dad; but they don't tell you why they are single if they seem like such a good person. 99% of abusers are not going to tell you that they are an abuser, they wait for you to find out for yourself, then they spill out their life's story, when it is too late. That is why you have to spot the signs and keep your eye open.

One last sign is when that person is overly jealous, you look across the room in a restaurant or you talk to someone walking down the street and the person you are with jumps at you like an angry lion or he/she looks at you with a mean eye. That means that the person you are dating will be abusing you for anything that looks threatening to him/her. Jealousy comes from threats, when you talk to someone that looks better than the person you are with, that is a threat and the person you are with will get jealous. Remember, as long as it is a date, you are still able to talk to whomever you want to talk to.

If a person you are seeing has any of these signs, then throw him/her out the door because that person is not the one you want to spend your life with. Many people are abused in the United States and many are afraid to say anything, you have to be careful when you date someone so you don't end up hurt or even worse than that.

About The Author

Alexis Lopez is a proud father of three and one more on the way. He likes giving advice to those who seek it and to those who need it. Alex's wife Camille helps him out with his advice and his websites on the internet. He also has a love for making short fiction stories and science.

Monday

How to Catch a Cheating Partner

"The car broke down. I was miles from anywhere, I just couldn't contact you."

The cleverest of alibis will not count on the word of other people as they could potentially give away the secret. Why would you question their alibi if you had complete trust in them. However if you have reason to be suspicious, maybe you should be analysing your partners alibi a little more closely.

So let's look at ways that you can analyse their alibis if you want to try and catch out your cheating partner? Well, all you can do by yourself in these circumstances is ask your partner for as much detail as you can without raising suspicion yourself. Keep a record. The cheat will have to remember everything they said and corroborate it when you ask them again a few days or weeks later. Perhaps your partner claims to have broken down miles from anywhere. How did they get back? How long did it take? What was the weather like? Did anyone stop to help them?

How to Catch A Cheating Partner.

Whenever the car is part of an alibi, check it afterwards. If it broke down or got stuck in a field or ditch, look for mud and grass on the wheels. It would also be reasonable to assume then that your partner may have dirty shoes or clothes too, so check this out discreetly. Did they have anyone with them in the car? Check for signs of someone having been in the passenger seat.

Look in the glovebox and ashtray for anything unusual that may have been left behind. If your partner claims to have called a breakdown or recovery service you can easily verify their alibi. Providing you are one of the named drivers of the vehicle, most breakdown organisations will allow you to access the details of the event in question. Your partner says they couldn't contact you. Almost certainly a lie, most breakdown services offer to call the family or friends of the stranded party as a matter of course. It's a standard facility provided by most of the major breakdown services.

When we think about how to catch a cheating partner, there are a million and one alibis a cheat can offer. However if they give you an excuse that cannot be corroborated, this in itself is suspicious. Real day-to-day life just isn't like that. Use your common sense.

Take the alibi apart and check every minor detail, you may find your partner has been complaisant on some vital facts and you could easily catch them out by looking at details you would normally just accept as being true.

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Tuesday

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Wednesday

Emotional Infidelity In A Relationship: What Is Emotional Cheating?

People define cheating differently. Some people define it as an emotional act as well as a physical act and others just define it as a physical act.

That topic alone can cause some issues in a relationship if both parties define cheating differently.

So, in order to eliminate obstacles that may later come into play it's always best to make certain you know how the other person in the relationship defines something like that.

Although it's not pertinent that couples are exactly alike, there are obviously some important areas in a relationship which help uplift it rather than hinder it. And this type of topic can be one of those things.

Truthfully, I believe that it's difficult to keep the romance alive and a relationship on a positive note if you're unable to work in unity with your spouse. Especially if one of you defines cheating in one way and the other defines cheating in another way.

Usually, physical cheating is what we all refer to as cheating. It's a general consensus, so it's emotional cheating that can be the real culprit behind ruining a great relationship.

So we'll talk a bit about that today.

What Exactly is Emotional Cheating?

Well there are different levels of emotional cheating, but let's discuss the most significant forms of emotional cheating...

1) Lying by Omission

Some women consider cheating to be a secret that is kept from them. For instance, their spouse has a dinner date with another woman, but doesn't bother to mention it.

Whether this situation is considered cheating depends on the relationship you have with your partner and the type of friendships you have outside of your partnership.

Since the pendulum can swing either way it's best to make certain you both see eye-to-eye before it ever happens (if it ever does). Maybe you don't think it's important to mention it because it doesn't mean anything and mentioning it would give it more weight than it's worth, but it's best not to assume something like that but to talk it over instead.

The reason for that is because, on the contrary, some women feel that if it was so unimportant, then why not just mention it. It's a catch-22 situation. So, a constructive way to handle a circumstance like that it to discuss it with one another before it ever has a chance to occur.

2) The "Roaming Eye"

When I speak of the "roaming eye" I mean visual disrespect to your partner. Acknowledging someone's beauty is one thing, but the "roaming eye" is a much more intense act.

It's beyond acknowledgement. In a situation like that, fantasy creeps in and your partner feels mistreated or upset due to the act of disregarding her and making it clear you would like to have sex with the person in your sights.

Under those conditions, it can turn into a huge problem for the relationship. Of course, it's one thing to notice someone's beauty from time to time, but the "roaming eye" is another thing altogether. It can lead to insecurity issues, trust issues, and sometimes result in actual physical cheating.

So exactly what is the "roaming eye?"

Although I couldn't possibly mention everything, let's talk about the more obvious actions...

The "roaming eye" constitutes going to strip clubs, ogling women in the street, and commenting can also be a part of the issue in which verbal insinuations are made concerning what you would like to do with that person. Taken too far, it can be emotionally abusive to your partner and result in a destructive relationship that could eventually lead you both in separate directions.

So, a constructive way to handle this situation on a personal basis, is to treat any woman like you would want someone to treat your wife, sister, mother, or any other female that you regard with the highest respect.

Of course, it isn't always going to work because you're human, but it's a good place to start.

By asking yourself, "How do I want other men to treat my partner?" can help you change the entire way you see things.

For example, someone ogling your wife in a disrespectful way is most likely something you would not take kindly to. Perhaps you'd even be infuriated if you witnessed it happening. So, if you apply those feelings to a woman that catches your eye, it makes it somewhat easier to want to treat that person with a lot more respect.

After all she is someone else's relative. Obviously not yours, but someone's.

3) Physical Contact

This type of emotional cheating occurs when you go to strip clubs and receive lap dances or some other similar type of contact from the opposite sex.

As a man, you may not consider this as cheating, but your partner may. As a result, this induces conflict in the relationship in which your partner feels betrayed and you feel as if you didn't do anything wrong.

If this does occur, a constructive way to handle this is to put yourself in your partner's shoes or put your partner in the stripper's shoes.

For example, would you want her in a male strip club receiving lap dances? Or would you want your wife in front of other men stripping and giving other men lap dances?

Chances are good the answer is "no." If you reverse the situation, it's easy enough to look at it constructively so that the two of you can work on resolving the issue by basing it on the old saying, "treat others the way you want (your wife) to be treated."

Be objective, be honest, and most of all... be fair. Work hard at trying not to give yourself extra privileges you wouldn't give your spouse. Make it your responsibility to be considerate to other women just as you would want another man to be considerate to your wife.

You're no exception to the rule.

Work Together in Unity

Since this issue is such a big one, it's important to sit down with one another and discuss why it's happening if you aren't in agreement about your actions, because a great relationship is built on unity between a man and woman and if there isn't any unity... it will lead to a lot of problems.

As a man, some of the distraction you're fighting against is biological which is often due to visual stimuli which you can't help. But that doesn't mean the promotion of that behavior is necessarily right. It's one thing to have a natural response to something like that, but it's another thing to use that natural response to benefit you in continuing on in that behavior.

An important thing to do is to make certain that excuses on either end aren't being made. Excuses and denial don't resolve anything. Serious situations like that require both parties to own up to their faults.

Pride should be left at the back door, so your relationship doesn't take a beating because of it. Avoid treating it like a game of matching pride against pride.

To eliminate pride in the beginning, you may find it a good idea to talk about how you want to handle the discussion on each end before you bring up the conversation.

Consider saying something like...

"I wanted to talk to you about something, but before I bring it up, I thought maybe we could talk about how we want to handle this conversation, because I don't want anything getting in the way of us resolving it. I know sometimes I can be stubborn, so I feel it's important for me to say that when we discuss this I don't plan on allowing that to interfere with us fixing this situation."

When confronting it like that, it allows the problem to take the forefront so that when you do end up discussing it, it makes it easier for you both to stay focused on the topic at hand and keep it on a positive note.

You can then discuss it in layers by trying to explain why you do what you do (besides the obvious reasons) and she can explain how it makes her feel and then you can both focus on how to resolve the issue together--in unity.

It's easy to feel that emotional cheating doesn't hurt anyone, because in certain ways it can be defined as an invisible act, but don't underestimate the damage that it can have on a relationship. It can do just as much damage as its lethal counterpart "physical cheating."

Sure, there may not be any touching involved, but infidelity is not just a physical act. Remember, be objective, be honest, and most of all... be fair. You are no exception to the rule.

Work hard at being faithful to your partner in more ways than one--mind and body.

Tameka Norris is the founder of Romantic Short Love Stories. Offering the best of both worlds with true love stories, romantic fiction, love poetry, romance articles, tutorials, and advice on romance and relationships. Visit http://www.romantic-short-love-stories.com

The Need For Emotional Intimacy

"My husband and I have a great working relationship. He's great to the kids, he's nice to me, he works hard on the house but he isn't very interested in getting to know me for who I really am. Any exploration around personal growth is threatening to him. Sometimes I feel so depressed to think I'll spend the rest of my life with this person when I want so much more, but there isn't anything wrong to point to as to why I would leave."

Nellie was having her first phone counseling session with me.

The problem was that Nellie was discounting her deep need for emotional intimacy - her deep need to know and be known, her deep need for emotional connection. Stating that, "there isn't anything wrong to point to" indicated how little she understood her need for emotional intimacy and connection.

For most people, emotional intimacy and connection is absolutely necessary to thrive. So what does a person like Nellie need to do when she has a children and she doesn't want to break up the family? What is she to do when she really needs something that her husband in unwilling or unable to give to her?

If Nellie wants to stay in her marriage, then she needs to accept the lack of intimacy and have her personal growth explorations elsewhere - with friends, groups, and workshops. It is possible to accept a companionship relationship for the raising of children. Many couples create excellent companionship relationships when they are willing to let go of both physical and emotional intimacy.

With Nellie, one of the problems was that her husband would get angry and withdraw when she didn't want to make love with him. There was no way Nellie could feel turned to her husband, Brad, when there was no emotional intimacy - no sense of connection. If Brad was willing to accept the lack of sexuality, then they could make it work. But if he continued to get angry and withdraw, then Nellie would have to explore other options.

If Nellie learns to take loving care of herself and stop buying into Brad's anger, then his controlling behavior would no longer work for him. If she learned to get her emotional needs met elsewhere and disengaged when Brad was acting like a needy little boy, then his behavior might change. Or it might not.

If it doesn't and If the anger and withdrawal, lack of intimacy and the sexual pull is not acceptable and Nellie is willing to leave, then she would need to let him know that and see if he would be willing to open with her. I have had many husbands, who were dragged to one of my 5-Day Couples Intensives, really open and move beyond their fears of personal growth and emotional intimacy.

The first thing that needs to happen is that Nellie needs to validate her need for connection and emotional intimacy, especially in order to feel sexual. Once she stops feeling guilty for how she feels and learns to take loving action in her own behalf, then she can see what the reality of the situation is. While Brad is afraid of intimacy and growth, he might be even more afraid of losing Nellie. When he sees that his anger and withdrawal no longer work to make her feel guilty and responsible for him, he might decide to open.

The only way that Nellie will know if Brad will open or not is to learn to take 100% responsibility for her own feeling and needs. As long as she is trying to get Brad to change, she will be stuck feel unhappy. It is always well worth doing your inner work to try to save a marriage, whatever the outcome. If the marriage improves - great! If it doesn't, you will have learned what you needed to learn to not make the same mistakes in your next relationship.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. best-selling author of eight books, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.

Telling the Truth About The Breakup

I know why many people who beakup won't tell certain family members and friends the truth about why they broke up with their partner, in one word, FEAR. They are fearful of the "I told you so" comments, fearful of the way they will be viewed if they were responsible for the breakup, fearful that they will be told off, fearful that no one will listen, and fearful of what might be done to them for breaking up. So they develop a fantastic story, one that will make it look like it wasn't their idea to end the relationship. They will use the popular statement of, "We just couldn't see eye-to-eye, we couldn't get along..." Of course, we all know that there are two sides to every story, but let's be honest, which one will you believe? And do you really think that both people are responsible for the breakup? The truth is one usually started the "breakup ball" rolling and the other had no choice but to go along with it!

Usually the one who is responsible will say what he or she thinks happened and describe the breakup in such a way so that you can't say much of anything but, "Oh..." In my own personal experience, I can tell you that the men knew early on that I was fed up with them, but they wanted to gain some control over the situation by taking some action such as looking for a place to stay behind my back or telling others what their intentions were and leaving me out the loop while trying to convince me they are willing to work on the relationship. I think that is the worst thing you can do to a partner that you claim you love is wear two faces! One for he or she and another for the rest of the world. To walk around in the family home and agree to do some things differently to help grow the relationship while thinking in your mind, "I'm not interested in this person anymore." Is downright mean and deceitful and I can't help but wish that "what goes around comes back around" to those who want to behave in this way! A great smokescreen to keep one off balance, but eventually it falls off and the truth comes to light!

I hate liars, I do. I hate when someone comes to me with their story of breakup and then they want to lie about the details. Why bother telling your story if you are not going to be honest? The truth is that most often the one coming up with the "PR (public relations) campaign" is the one who caused the most damage to the relationship.

Sometimes telling the truth about a breakup opens up doors that many just want to keep closed, but there is a way to do just that without being deceptive. I guess the moral of this blog entry, is to be careful what public relations campaign you come up with, because it will only be a matter of time when the truth comes out!

Written by Nicholl McGuire, http://www.twitter.com/datingdramas

Tuesday

How To Get The Chemistry In Your Relationship Back

Most relationships start out in a way that its like there’s fireworks everytime the two people are together. Both of you just cant get enough of each other, you enjoy the times you spend together and cant wait to do it again. There is some kind of chemistry developing between the two of you that just seems to bind and fuse the two of you together the more you spend more time with each other. Sparks just seem to fly when you get together and more and more people tend to notice the chemistry between the two of you.

Everybody tends to say that a two person have chemistry when they are fit for each other. Its more than just a cliché since chemistry cant really be described, its just the way two persons seem to just click. You know you have chemistry with another person when your knees start shaking everytime you are near her, you begin to stammer, your stomach feels like a haven for butterflies and you get all sweaty all the time. Chemistry could be another word for love but in some cases, the chemistry might be gone but love could still be present. That’s why some people would like to revive the chemistry in their relationship because they still love the person and would like to make the relationship better; like that way it used to be when they fell in love with one another.

The rush one gets when they are in love, it’s like having a triple shot of espresso. It’s like your always high and on top of the world. Your heart is racing everytime your near your partner and you develop powerful feelings that are just constantly nagging for attention, you cant explain what it is, but its there. But after a certain period of time, some relationships get past the chemistry and the momentum wanes, you have gone past the “honeymoon period.” Many have strived to get their chemistry back; here are some tips on how to get your chemistry back.

Chemistry can either be through physical and emotional. Physical chemistry deals with the way we are attracted to our parents on the physical level. In some relationships, the partners tend to be too relaxed and comfortable with their relationship that they have a tendency to let go of their physical looks. When this happens, one partner may lose their physical attraction and their physical chemistry as well. Some cases have shown that physical chemistry may also be about the great sex they have, when this type of physical chemistry is forgotten and the sex becomes too regular and boring, the physical chemistry may be lost. Loss of attention to the physical attributes and to the physical contact is what causes these problems, try to get yourself back in shape and try to look good for your partner, this will show that you don’t take your partner for granted and you still want to look good for them. In regards to sex, try to be adventurous, think up of ways which can spicen up your sexual activities to make them more exciting and adventurous for both of you. This will rekindle the physical chemistry that has decreased over the years.

With emotional chemistry, this could be because we have grown tired with our partner because of the routine becoming too routinely. Refresh your emotional chemistry for each other by taking in a new perspective about each other. Take vacations, act out your fantasies, be open to one another and find a solution on how to bring the sparks back to each other. Try to discover what the both of you want out of the relationship and build on that. Be open to new ideas and never contradict. The less fight the better it is to strengthen the ties that bind you together. If you truly love one another, you will find out how to get the chemistry back in your relationship.

Friday

Depression in Women - What Men Ought to Know - [Men Are Invited to Read This Article]

Healthy parents raise emotionally healthy babies and a mother’s influence towards the same is great. No body can deny it. Hence it is imperative that females should have good mental health. The reality is, about 20 to 25 percent of women suffers with depression in their life time against 7 to 12 percent of men. This shows that women are very much prone to depressed than men. Depression strikes older women more often than men

In addition to environmental stressors and psychosocial factors, women are also influenced by biological factors to get depressed. That is why women are much prone to getting depressed than men

Reproductive systems like menstrual cycle, pregnancy, post pregnancy, hormonal genetic systems, infertility, decision of not having children, menopause are the leading factors for getting depression for women as far as biological factors are concerned.

Also other factors like Psychological which are clusters of certain personality traits, physical or sexual abuse and inadequate ways of coping problems leads to depression in women. They also have difficulties, coping with the demands of adjustment in newly married lives. In any family women’s initiative in taking care of old parents and upbringing the children are crucial. In addition to that if a mom goes for work, then she has a great responsibility of managing both the work and family. This keeps her running all the time. If women is housewife or becomes old, then she gets a lonely feeling after the children goes for school or job and husband to work. She will start thinking that the busy husband and children are not hearing and understanding her feelings. And if there is no intimate relationship with the husband the problem will be still worse. It will be so severe in case of divorce.

Women face depression due to hormonal changes after giving birth to child. These hormones have an effect on the brain chemistry that controls emotions and mood.

1) Baby blues – It happens in the day’s right after childbirth. The mother’s mood will swing. One time she will be very happy and immediately she will become sad. They feel irritable, impatient, anxious and restless. This will be only for one to two weeks after delivery and do not require any medication .During this period the new mother should socialize with other new mothers. This will help them to become normal.

2) Postpartum depression (PPD) - It can happen immediately after giving birth or even months after child birth. This is strong and effective than baby blue and persists as long as one year. On seriousness it requires medication. This type of depression can happen after the birth of any child and not confined only to the first child.

3) Postpartum psychosis-It happens to new mother within three months after giving birth. This is serious and severe. The mother will go out of reality. The symptoms are insomnia and angry and they need treatment

Researchers indicate that 74.4% women are not depressed either antenatally or postnatally and 4.8% women are depressed on at least one of two occasions’ .But 1.4% women persistently depressed on both occasions.

During menstrual cycle, in some women there will be recurrent brief depression which will be very brief. Some women experience behavioral and physical changes during the phases of their menstrual cycle. In some women the changes begin after ovulation till menstruation starts. It is called Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) – If the same thing is very severe and occurs regularly with other emotional physical changes including irritability and depression then it is called premenstrual dysphonic disorder (PMDD) which requires medication.

In old age during the transition into menopause, some women experience an increased risk for depression. These problems are not for men. Hence women have double the chance of getting depressed than men.

Depression in women is very serious and as a chain reaction it affects the family. Even stress during pregnancy can increase the chance of child getting depressed when becoming an adult. Hence women should be careful and should be aware of depression on how to avoid it. During pregnancy men should take care of their partner and ensure their partner is happy.

The first thing is, all men should understand the biological factors of women which also lead to depression in them. Having understood about that, men should handle the feelings of women in women’s perspective. They should understand the responsibilities of women at workplace and in family. They should be supportive to women. Seventy five percent of the problem will get solved by this.

A woman cannot avoid the biological factors and family responsibility. But what is in her control is her approach towards the issues and how she manages it. Usually women who are very much pessimistic thinkers and having low self esteem are prone to depression.

Education which brings financial freedom for women plays an important role in improving self esteem. They should have good reasoning power and logical approach in dealing with the issues.

Women should be social, they should not be isolated. Having a good network of friends will help them to share the issues and get genuine inputs and solutions to solve problems; this certainly helps in the event of not able to solve the problems of their own. They should not be shy of sharing their problem with others. Women do not assume that others will think that they are worthless if they seek others help. In fact so many people will be glad to help.

For women--Avoid stress, have good eating habits. Think great of you. Always try to be happy. SMILE. Have good sleep. Importantly, plan your finances. Done, you won’t be affected by depression.

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