Dating Advice, Relationship Problems

 When it comes to finding the right person to date, location can play a major role. According to the US Census Bureau, there are certain states that have larger populations of single men and women than others. Based on data from 2019, Washington D.C., Alaska, New York, and Hawaii had the highest percentage of singles among those 18 years old and over. On the flip side, North Dakota had the lowest percentage of single people in the 18+ category. Although these numbers can provide a better understanding of where to find potential dates, they don't tell the whole story. Singleness has different root causes depending on individual circumstances. For example, some singles choose not to date for religious reasons while others may be too busy at work or school to focus on their dating life. In addition, many people who have recently moved to a new area may not yet be familiar with the local dating scene. For those looking for love in all the wrong places, relocating may be an option. Mov...

Dear Singles: I would like to thank you for being who you are, single and content with discovering more about you rather than getting married, having babies, and looking for yet another person to bed. To those who are grateful for your alone time, may God bless you!  Value the peace of going home, lying in a bed alone, reflecting in your bathroom mirror without interruption, and staying in there for as long as you want.  Enjoy those times you cook for yourself, shop for what you want, and go to work without feeling like there is someone at home disappointed with you for one reason or another. I know you have noticed those couples who walk by holding hands, appearing to be happy, and comfortable with one another, but those moments are few for many.  Days prior, many quarreled, paid someone, and even prayed to have that much needed time to be together. There are bills, children, in-laws, work responsibilities, and more that are in those hands that they hold.  ...

Praying on his knees one night with the hope to find a wife one day, his prayer is answered (at least so he thinks).  He eventually meets that special someone that appeared to be right for him during the early stages of the courtship.  But as he learns more about her, he remembers why he remained single for so long. A woman with children and no man to complete her happy home is disappointed after months of dating a man who has far too much baggage than she can handle.  She recalls why she didn't want to start dating especially with young children still at home. In both scenarios, the individuals are unhappy and wish for their single, uncomplicated lives prior to welcoming others into their worlds.  Although many singles desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, there are those who know that its just not right for them now or never.  If you are single and frustrated with finding a match, be reminded o...

“It wasn’t what she looked like,” explained Paul. “It was how she acted, the way she spoke. She was so honest and open about herself that is why I fell in love with her.” Paul, a 35- year-old teacher enjoyed beautiful beaches, breath-taking mountains and exquisite structures such as the leaning tower of Pisa, one of his favorites. “I knew she was the one. She exuded a positive energy. The kind only found in the presence of someone holy or extraordinarily charismatic! I love that woman.” Helena listened intently to his love story. She desired to experience the love that Paul had so eloquently spoke about. She wanted someone to come into her life and sweep her off her feet. Helena was a 5 foot 6 inch beauty queen with legs that any man would want to capture and place on his bedroom wall. Her dark, brown wavy long hair and full lips made women look twice with daggers of jealousy in their eyes. Wherever she went men would stare from afar and motion for her to come and talk w...

You desire a partner. Someone who isn’t perfect, but has qualities you admire, respects your opinions, appreciates your lifestyle and is interested in commitment. Lately, you haven’t been able to meet your special someone. So like most singles, you continue to date hoping by chance you will find someone—anyone—to complete you. Yet, your efforts seem to be done in vain. These people are just not compatible with you. What could you be doing wrong? Let’s examine some of those past mistakes you have made when selecting partners. Compromising on your key preferences. You told your date that you enjoy a certain hobby and/or interest. In turn this person told you that he or she preferred something else. So what did you do? Tailor your interests in such a way to appease your date. You basically denied or changed parts of self to accommodate someone else so as to make you two compatible when you both are not. Creating false images of your dates. You discovered th...

It is hard living by your self at times, watching couples hold hands, kiss, talk intimately, smile warmly at each other on TV and when you are out in public. These reminders are of what you use to have with someone you once loved. The desire to have a mate may come at a time when you are vulnerable with nothing to do or when you are feeling excited, happy about life and would like to share it with someone special. Yet, you made a promise you would give yourself time to get over someone, focus on your goals, build a foundation for yourself or help someone in need. Whatever your reasons, you are still human and no matter how much praying, fasting, or creating distractions you do, the desire to have someone can sometimes be overwhelming. Before you do something foolish like stay up late looking at pornography, go out to a club to pick up someone or call off work to watch erotica movies all day, there are various ways to overcome your desires and get focused again. First, examine what is e...