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How to Deal With Ex-Boyfriends

You got an ex boyfriend that keeps bothering you emotionally or physically?  You need to deal with "this issue" before it ruins your future happiness with someone else.  How to Deal With Ex-Boyfriends

When Seeking a Date at a Family Function

There are some dos and don'ts when trying to connect with someone at a family function.  If you don't want to be the butt of jokes, ashamed, or marked as a jerk or some other bad name, watch what you say and do.  Unlike others just enjoying time with the family, you are on a mission--good luck!

Here are some of the don'ts:

1.  Don't talk to anyone with bad breath.  Obvious advice right?  Think about how many people at family gatherings forget they ate something with onions or garlic and now they want to share their hot smelling breath with everyone. 

2.  Don't use a happy time to vent about your frustrations with life, work, government, religion, relationships, etc.  You will surely be marked as a loser!

3.  Don't lie or exaggerate because people who knew you when...will blow your cover.

As follows, here are some of the dos:

1.  Do ask questions.

2.  Do compliment your potential date.

3. Do listen to your potential date and do take the time to introduce this p…

Five tips for feuding couples

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The following link is simple, rational advice for healthy couples.  Those who are in dysfunctional relationships should use this to compare.  Sometimes you need a healthy model of how to deal with issues in order to determine whether trying over and over again with a partner is really worth it.

Five tips for feuding couples

5 Things You Need to Know When Talking to Mothers about their Children

Whether you are single and have no children of your own or considering dating someone with children, there are some things you just don’t say if you hope to have a great relationship with a mom.

One.“I would never…”
Every mother is different in the way she handles issues when it comes to her children.What you might consider wrong, offensive, rude, or downright crazy, in her mind, she may not think so.Consider this, if what she is doing is that bad, you might want to talk with a professional to see if you can get some help for her.But if what she is doing is really no different than most mothers, then your personal thoughts on what you “would never do" are yours alone and should be kept to yourself.
Two.“If that were my child…”
Once again, another personal opinion of what one believes he or she would do in a similar situation.If you don’t want conflict with a doting mother or would rather not be ignored by her, don’t begin giving unsolicited advice with, “If that were my child…” r…

Learn More About Your Date Without Jumping Into Bed

If you made the mistake once, you most likely made it more times than you can count, take a date home with you only to have sex and then afterward ask yourself, "Do I really know her/him?"

It is such a let down when you find out you really don't have too much in common with your date after far too many episodes of sexing it up then meeting parents, moving in together, a possible proposal, a pregnancy, and more.  You feel like running away, ending it all because, "I should have...I could have...I wish I had..." a little too late when mistakes are already made, some you just have to live with.  But how does one minimize the regrets in a new relationship?

One.  Keep dates out of your apartment/home for as long as you can.

The day you opened that door and let her/him "to stay awhile" is the day that you said, "Let's have sex."  Whether you verbalized it or not at some point he or she is going to expect some action in your bedroom.  Remind y…

5 Things You Seriously Want to Think About When It Comes to Relationship Challenges

When you are in love, you don't want to think about the "what ifs" when it comes to the future of your relationship, rather all you want to do is bask in the glory of being loved and loving!  You don't want anyone telling you anything either, for fear that they might bring a negative energy to your partnership.

For now, you might simply believe that your new lover is much better, nicer, sweeter, etc. then that last one.  But the truth of the matter is, maybe this person is better, but you haven't changed much if not at all.  You are still that person you were who your last partner complained about "...not ever having this, not ever wanting to do that, and why are you always...?"  Maybe for now you are doing certain things for your partner, because you want to make a good impression, but sooner or later that old person in you is going to show up (that is unless you have a faith and feel accountable to the Lord then you might suppress him/her).  When the…

A Spiritual Perspective on Narcissism - Do you know a Narcissist? - YouTube

How to Take It Slow When Dating: Seven Do’s of Getting to Know Your Mate | BeyondJane

Six Safety Precautions You Should Take Before and During Your Dating | BeyondJane

Women: Are You Saying Yes When You Really Mean No on Dates?

A Good Man is Hard to Find: What are Some Women Doing to Kill Their Relationships?

Just Because He's Older Doesn't Mean He is Responsible: A Lesson For Younger Women

Worldly Relationships Celebrated in the Movies - YouTube

Do you want a spiritual connection or a worldly one?  What is your model for a successful relationship?  Where do you get your influence to be the best you can be in a relationship?  Are you a player?  Know what you want before you date another person.

Worldly Relationships Celebrated in the Movies - YouTube

15 Ideas From a Mom on Saving Money When You Have a Family | Gomestic

Thought you might be interested in saving money especially if you are a new mom, recently married or inherited some children to take care of besides your own.

15 Ideas From a Mom on Saving Money When You Have a Family | Gomestic

7 Sneaky Tactics Controlling Mothers and Mother-in-Laws Will Use

Watch out, tis' the season some narcissistic moms take advantage of their sons and daughters this time of year.  Don't fall for the foolishness!  No sad tears this Mother's Day for you!

7 Sneaky Tactics Controlling Mothers and Mother-in-Laws Will Use

Dating Tips For Christian Men

Thought this site has some useful tips for those of you who love the Lord, but also desire a mate.

Dating Tips For Christian Men

Dr. Phil.com - Advice - Relationships/Sex

Every now and then, I check in with the Dr. Phil show to see what is the latest craziness going on with some couples and families.  I saw something interesting on his site today that is worth a look.  He has various quizzes you can take on the site that help with learning more about you and how might your issues be causing more harm than good in your relationship.  Click the following:

Dr. Phil.com - Advice - Relationships/Sex

When You Know You Are Headed for Breakup...

Living together or living apart?  You aren't ready to pack just yet those things you left over his or her house or those things you brought with you when you moved in together.  You also aren't ready to announce to the world you are single despite fantasizing about it often.  But what you are ready for is that slow mental break up.

Some of you know what I am talking about because you are in it right now.  You have sounded the alarm enough times through all those, "Let's talk" conversations.  You said things like, "I hope that we can do XYZ to improve the relationship."  Chances are you didn't really mean it.  You may have also said, "We really ought to make some changes here and there."  So you put some effort, but not much.  Then you threw in, "I sincerely do have feelings for you..."  But, you know this person is not your "one" anymore.

Maybe your partner was listening during your feel-good speeches, but obviously not…

Bad Women to Avoid

As much as we would like to forget the past, most of us women were bad girls before we became "good" women (which the term is "good" is being stated loosely, because we are all works in progress).

If you are a single man whether spiritual or not, you may want to read this article just to get a refresher on what kind of woman you really ought to stay away from.

Bad Women to Avoid

Negative Chatter about Your Mate in Front of Others? It Might Cost You Your Relationship

Keep talking negative about your partner behind is or her back long enough and then in time, how you really feel starts to show.  Some couples don' know how to behave in front of others when their partners are around.  They start teasing, making disrespectful comments, and pretending as if everything is a joke.  Those of us, who are discerning, can see through the front, the person making the hurtful comments about his or her partner is obviously not happy in the relationship and his or her partner trying to brush off the negativity is being nice for a time, but just wait until we leave from here!

We can avoid a lot of disputes if we just learned how to be on our best behavior with our partners.  The tongue is nothing more than a big problem for many of us.  It blesses and curses.  It yells and it pleasures.  It provides peace, but it also starts wars.  With all the highs and lows, it's any wonder any of us can keep a relationship.

Check out my poetry on intimate relationship …

Social Butterflies and Geeks: Can a relationship like this work?

In 2008, there was a reality show entitled, Beauty and The Geek.  It was advertised back then as a social experiment.  Beautiful women with low IQs were paired up with men high in intellect, but weak in social skills.  After watching episodes of this show and thinking back to my own dating experiences, I reasoned the only way that one could manage to stay with the other is if he or she would be able to compromise a big chunk of who he or she was when the lights and camera were put away.  Unless a person is constantly evolving and willing to try new things, in other words come out of his or her shell, a relationship like this simply can't work.

There are always those exceptions to the rule.  The married couple who have been together for 30 plus years.  The college guy dating the ditz.  The broke, busted and disgusted beautiful girl dating the geeky looking computer guy.  Kudos to them!  However, let's just be honest.  How many times did the thought go through their minds, "…

What Do Guys Really Want?

If you are a woman currently dating men who seem to be frustrating you about what they really want in a relationship, you might want to read this interesting article on Match.com.  Check it out here.

You Can't Make Someone Love You...

How many times have you argued with your mate and thought, "Does he/she really love me?  Why does this person keep causing drama between us by doing dumb things?  Doesn't he/she care about how I feel?"  Anyone who continues to do more of the same hurtful things to you, doesn't love you.  Therefore, why do you keep trying to make this person do things that he/she just isn't willing and/or capable of doing?

We have all been guilty of trying to make someone do something that we want in past or current relationships.  We try explaining our dos and don't list, manipulating situations to generate a desired outcome, and getting others to talk to this person.  Some of those past dates just didn't get it, so what did we do? We either kept trying until one or both called it quits.  You can't make someone love you, so we have heard in love songs.  But some of us, are hell-bent on making something work that obviously doesn't work anymore.

The relationship exp…

What You Should Know About Your Partner this Year

It's a new year, happy new year to you and yours!  You know when a new year comes, people can't help but start looking around for things to clean up.  One area of their lives they start to take a closer look at is their relationships--uh oh!  Now this article doesn't suggest any break up tips or anything that would cause more challenges in your relationship.  But what this article does do is encourage you to learn more about that person you are dating, living with, engaged to, or just creeping with on the side.  Oh yeah, some of you reading this have been playing two even three partners and you know that it's time to get serious this year!  Narrow your choice down to one, so that you can focus on other things like your career for starters!

So what should you know about your partner?  You should know more than your neighbors that's for sure!  Some couples are so busy doing other things that the neighbors know their schedules.  These couples are nothing more than roo…