What Do Guys Really Want?

If you are a woman currently dating men who seem to be frustrating you about what they really want in a relationship, you might want to read this interesting article on Match.com.  Check it out here.

He Hates Me I Know It - The strange things we think about as women

You have a great relationship with your man normally, but sometimes he doesn't call you or come around during the day. Meanwhile, you are busily going about your day until someone says or does something to trigger a negative thought in you about your man, you think, "I wonder if he hates me...what if he still has feelings for his ex...he only bought me that gift the other day because he has something to hide." Now where did those thoughts come from? Remember you have a great relationship with your guy? Can we say paranoia, insecurity, or maybe even a mild case of schizophrenia has begun to set in all because you are listening to others or making a mountain out of a mole hill because he doesn't always call or come around you? Why do we do this? Take something so nice and mess it up with ridiculous, negative thoughts?

Most men just don't think like we do, and if they do, well you can put two and two together and he probably was around a lot more women than men and if so, he maybe just as crazy as you (LOL.) So he didn't call or come around, does he do it often? If you suspect something is going on with him, you need more than sporadic moments of him not calling or coming around you. Some women play head games with themselves and their men hoping they can find a logical explanation or an answer they can live with in the midst of game-playing. Adults don't play games, children do. The simplest piece of advice for any woman who is going through the "wonder what he meant by..." or "why is he acting this way" is to talk to him. Find a good time, when his favorite sports team isn't playing on television, and just talk to him.

We think we know so much as women, but the truth is we only know what someone or something tells us. If his signals say, "I hate you." Then most likely your gut feeling is correct if you have some proof to back it up. However, if a man has given you no indication that he hates you (maybe tired of you, but not hate you) why worry? A lot of our worry, as women, comes from things we have gone through in the past. There is a little woman inside of us who is still hurt. She won't allow any man to get away with what the last one put her through. So she is always talking, asking questions. "What did he mean by that? You know your ex told you the same thing." We start comparing what our new guy did with what the last guy did and so on. Now we have worked ourselves up and we are ready to give him a peace of our mind all because he said or did something that was out of the norm. Before long, your feeling of "he hates me I know it" does come to pass. As women, we can make things come to pass just by setting up the scenario we fear just by what we say and do. Telling the man what we really think of him when it would be better to take control of our emotions and be silent is one way. Meanwhile we could be waiting to see if our man will do or say anything that will make us feel better especially if he says he loves us.

When you feel out of control and those voices in your mind are talking a mile a minute, try telling yourself, "I will not put myself through this today. If there is anything I need to know I will simply ask."

Nicholl McGuire, creator of this blog. Feel free to follow @datingdramas on Twitter.

Relationship Mistakes Women Make

Relationships fail for a great many reasons but mainly because of jealousy, mistrust, poor communication, and irreconcilable differences and you can't always blame it on men. More often than not, it is the women who caused the break up when they make the biggest mistakes. Some of these mistakes are made by women who are looking for love in married or committed men because no matter how much he assures you that it is you that they want, he will never leave his wife or fiancée and live happily ever after with you. But if he does, could you possibly trust him to remain faithful to you?
There are no foolproof guarantees that your relationship will last forever but you have a better chance at it if you avoid the common mistakes in your relationship:
1. Compare your partner with your ex - it's a bad idea to talk about what your ex has and what your partner hasn't. Or talk about how great your ex was and expecting your partner to be the same. If you had to compare, don't say it out loud.
2. Judging your partner based on passed experience - just because your ex cheated on you or treated you badly doesn't mean your current partner will do the same. It's unfair to mistrust your partner or accuse him for doing something he has not done because of the emotional baggage you carry.
3. Disrespecting your partner - never insult your partner or call him names especially in public. It doesn't matter how angry he made you. It's not an excuse for you to make a scene.
4. Getting too jealous - just because your partner has female friends, it doesn't mean that he's romantically interested in them. Don't jump into conclusions; start monitoring his activities or worst, secretly reading messages on his phone. You're only making yourself look bad.
5. Too much nagging and complaining - if he's too lazy or forgetful, don't start ranting about it. If you remind him of things over and over again, he'll just end up ignoring you or it might even trigger a fight.
6. Don't try to control him - men likes independence and they also want to hang out with his friends. Let him be as long as he doesn't overdo it.
7. Over analyzing the situation - if your partner hasn't called when he's out with his friends or off somewhere else, don't start thinking negatively about what he could be doing. There has to be an explanation why he hasn't called so don't call him and start asking unreasonable questions.
8. Don't expect your partner to know what you're thinking - your partner is not a psychic and he can't read your mind. It's not enough to just give him hints and expect him to understand what it is you want. If you want something, say it.
9. Too much expectation from your partner - unfortunately, men are not like women so you can't expect them to naturally be more sensitive, understanding, and caring. If you need something from him, you need to let him know what it is and how he can help.
10. Don't try to change him - you need to accept him for who he is and what he loves to do.

Janet Grace Ortigas is a freelance writer and online blogger.

Dating Tips For Women - Understanding Men

Are You Looking for the "Secret Psychology" to Getting A Man Hooked for Good?

Here are three dating tips for women for better understanding men. If you pay attention to these three things (words and actions) early on in the relationship, you will have a better idea both of how well your relationship is going and how the man thinks it's going. Much of the dating tips for women don't mention that men sometimes don't use words at all when they are communicating with you.

Man Code Dating Tip #1: A Man Tells You He Needs His Space

This means you should take little notice of him and not call him. Men love the chase. The man will begin calling you wanting to know what happened. By not making yourself too available early on, you keep him on his feet, which is a good thing in the first stage of the relationship.

Man Code Dating Tip #2: He Calls You Every Night Just To Say Goodnight

Other than the obvious reason, a man tends to do this in the early stages of the relationship as a way of seeing if he still likes you. Calling you this soon into a relationship means that he is interested in you. If he continues to do this as the days pass, it is a good sign he is interested having a relationship with you.

Man Code Dating Tip #3: The Car Rescue

You are all set to meet up with him for a date and you plan on meeting him somewhere close to his house. All of a sudden you run into car problems. You contact him to say you ran into car problems and you can't make it. If he offers to pick you up, or better yet insists on it, he is telling you that he is interested in you more than just being a friend. Guys only go out of they're way for women they are interested in.

By Kyle Rieves
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