Relationships, Friendships will Change

Why Your Ex Doesn't Want You Back

He has his issues with his ex-girlfriend.  She doesn't feel she can trust her boyfriend.  The more people keep inside the worse things can get.  This is why many relationships come to a swift end.  Your ex may not want you back for any number of reasons.  An important thing you should know is that if you should force something that isn't meant to be, sooner or later you will reap the consequences.

1.  An ex may have someone else that is showing him or her interest.

The two might not be dating, but whatever the chemistry, an ex is curious.  How can one emotionally compete?  Sometimes history together has little to do with those growing feelings inside that tell a former partner, "Why not explore new possibilities, he or she hasn't hurt you?"

2.  The influence of the ex's family and friends has a significant impact.

When an ex's ears are tuned into family there is little one can do.  His or her loved ones most likely warned the ex from the start of the relationship it won't work.  With enough pressure, an ex will not think about jeopardizing his or her relationship with relatives, especially those who give her or him much.

3.  You blew it when you wouldn't admit your wrongdoing.

Sometimes pride gets in the way and after awhile a partner gives up on seeking truth.  So if you aren't transparent and you continue to lie, deny, minimize, and blame every time a certain subject matter comes up, your former mate will shut down.

4.  You have someone else.

As strange as this may seem, but sometimes we chase after the one that got away because there is something with a new partner that just doesn't satisfy us.  Even though we know an ex isn't good for us and neither is the one we are dating, yet we let our minds and hearts at times direct us where we shouldn't be.  The ex picks up that your feelings are elsewhere, he or she isn't coming back.

5.  Your ex has simply moved on.

No explanation or analysis needed on why your ex doesn't want you anymore.  There isn't anyone else, he or she isn't the least bit concerned about what loved ones think, and couldn't care less about the time you two were together.  This person just wants to get on with life without you.

When you take a moment to think about things, you will feel that maybe you aren't in love or like as much as you think with an ex.  You may be lonely, in need of material wealth or money, feel like a failure, or whatever else that has little to do with winning an ex back, but has everything to do with getting personal desires met.  An ex might have seen negative things about you that you have yet to discover about yourself and if this is the case, why bother wondering anymore why he or she doesn't want you back, work on you!

Nicholl McGuire is an author and inspirational speaker.  She is also the blog owner.

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New Partner Plans? But Your Current Partner Doesn't Know

Some of you were with partners doing things like: watching the fireworks, saying prayers, sitting by the fire, listening to music or having sex when the new year came ringing in.  But you have a secret, you don't plan on being with your current connection for the entirety of this year.  Look your secret is safe with me!

A few times in my life, I just knew without a doubt that those jokers were not going to be around much longer.  My new year's resolution with one man, while I sat in church next to him, was to break up with him by spring.  I accomplished that task but not without six police officers showing up that sunny day in April.  They received a domestic violence call.  I had been previously abused many times and I was fed up--I fought back.

When you have grown weary of the make up to break up roller coaster, you mistreat the person without a care whether verbally or physically, and all you ever think about is ending the relationship, it's time!  This is the year that some of you will be FREE!  However, freedom doesn't come without a price especially when someone is still attached to you in some way.  This is why you have to break all connections slowly, methodically and then before long you no longer hear from him or her.

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I took my time breaking up in a violent relationship, I don't recommend you do that.  When there is a known history of violence, you get out of there as soon as possible.  Save money living somewhere else.  Look for a job from a safe location.  Pray for that person while you are far away from them.  Don't stay any longer!  However, if you aren't in a relationship that exhibits violence, but you know the person you are with is being difficult.  Stay away from the shared dwelling as much as possible.  If you don't live with him or her, you are in a great position to cut communication and dates.  For some they got a restraining order, moved out of the area, and others had to go so far as to change their names and use privacy preferences on their social media accounts.  Hey, you do what you have to do!

Plan to leave as soon as possible.  Be sure you have all ties financially, spiritually, and physically broken! 

1) Belongings are returned to the owner. 
2) Your name is removed from all shared accounts. 
3) You aren't updating mutual friends on the relationship status or your future plans. 
4) You no longer buy gifts or spend money on date nights. 
5) There is no parading a new partner overtly or covertly around your current one. 
6) Be mature through the process and try not to do anything that provokes an already angry partner. 

Sooner or later your date will catch on there is no love and no reason for the relationship to go on.  Communicate your concerns in detail only with someone who you believe you still love and you hope to make the relationship work.  Anyone else you simply speak your truth and move on.

Here's to an honest you, a person who realizes the relationship is over!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Too Much Too Soon Internet Dating Blues and the owner of this blog.