Dating Advice, Relationship Problems

Hello, lovebirds and hopeful romantics! Let’s get real for a moment. If you’re out there searching for that special someone, but your life feels like a chaotic rom-com gone wrong, it’s time to hit the pause button. Before you dive into the dating pool, let’s talk about why it’s essential to get yourself together first—and I promise to share some fantastic resources along the way. Why Self-Improvement is Key Picture this: you’re trying to bake a cake, but your oven is broken. Would you invite friends over for dessert? Of course not! The same principle applies to dating. If you’re not at your best, you might end up in a relationship that’s more of a disaster than a delightful experience. Taking the time to work on yourself means you’ll bring your best self to the table (or the couch for a cozy Netflix night). Confidence is magnetic—like a beacon for quality partners. So, let’s get you shining! Helpful Resources to Get You Started Therapy Apps : BetterHelp : A convenient way to chat with ...

Deciding when to date or marry again after a breakup or divorce can feel overwhelming. It’s a big step, and it’s important to approach it thoughtfully. Here’s some things to think about. Before you jump back into the dating pool, take a moment to reflect on your emotional state. Ask yourself: Are you still feeling bitter or sad about your previous relationship? Have you taken the time to heal and process your feelings? Are you genuinely interested in getting to know new people? If you find yourself answering “yes” to the first two questions or “no” to the last two, it might be a sign that you’re not quite ready to date yet. It’s crucial to ensure you’re not seeking a new relationship just to fill a void or escape loneliness  [2] . One of the most important steps before dating again is to cultivate self-love. This means treating yourself with kindness and respect, both physically and emotionally. As you learn to love yourself more, you’ll attract partners who treat you well. Remembe...

Ever find yourself dating the same type of person over and over, only to end up frustrated, heartbroken, or completely drained? Maybe you’ve tried the nice guy, the bad boy, the emotionally unavailable one, or the love bomber who comes on too strong—only to realize, months later, that the ending is all too familiar. If you’re nodding along, you’re not alone. Breaking toxic dating patterns is tough, but it’s absolutely possible.   Here’s how to stop repeating the same mistakes and start attracting the love you actually deserve.   1. Get Honest About Your Patterns  Before you can break a cycle, you have to recognize it. Take a hard look at your dating history. What types of people are you drawn to? What red flags have you consistently ignored? What emotional needs do these relationships fill, even if they’re unhealthy?   Ask yourself:   - Do I fall for charm over consistency?   - Do I excuse bad behavior because “we have good chemistry”?   - Do I lose my...

Dating can feel like a rollercoaster—full of thrilling highs and stomach-churning lows. You might think you have it all figured out, confidently swiping right and left, believing you can handle whatever comes your way. But then, out of nowhere, you find yourself in a situation that leaves you feeling lost and confused. The Wake-Up Call This year, you might have been seeing someone you really liked. Everything seemed perfect until one day, a miscommunication spiraled into a huge argument. You found yourself sitting on your bed, feeling completely overwhelmed. For so long, you may have dismissed the idea of seeking dating advice—after all, weren’t you doing just fine? But in that moment, you realized you needed help. That’s when you turned to a dating blog or video like this you had stumbled upon. It was filled with stories from people who had faced similar challenges. Reading about their struggles and how they navigated tough conversations made you feel less alone. It was like hearing a...

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Every time you go out with someone, you feel something is missing.   You try to figure out what it might be, but you can’t.   Your dates have noticed at times you are distant, confused, and negative.   You often point the finger at your dates.   However, have you thought about what you might be doing or saying that is making your dates not want to ask you out on another date? It can be hard to believe that your dates are coming to a quick end because of you.   Ego gets in the way and says, “It’s not my fault.   I didn’t cause the problem.”   Yet, the issues may lie with you from the start.   What is missing in your life?   Do you have any personal interests?   Are you being honest with yourself in area of your life such as money, relationship, job, etc. When one isn’t happy with self he or she is not going to make anyone else happy.   Rather than bring positivity, one who is troubled is going to bring all that is negative to a...

When a date described himself as “laid back,” I should have known what he really meant was “lazy.”   We usually think of a person being laid back as someone who is not reactionary, chill, or cool.   However, what we don’t think about is if a person is too “cool,” they also don’t want to follow any rules too!   If a person is “laid back” or “chill,” they also don’t feel as if they have to cook, clean, organize, or take care of other responsibilities too! Photo by Hamza Bounaim on Unsplash Be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it!   Mr. or Ms. Laid Back is nice to be when conversing or visiting new places, but you don’t want “laid back” when you have a list of tasks that need to be completed within a set limit of time.   You don’t need “laid back” when you are in a rush.   Mr. or Ms. Laid Back wants to do most things on his or her terms and who cares about what others’ think?   When you hear a date sound like he is bragging abo...

The regrets one experiences when he or she decides to have a serious relationship with someone who you later realize you should have never committed to or worse met can be upsetting.   Your personal and professional goals may be impacted so much that you no longer bother to work to achieve them. In a turbulent relationship, you work harder than most to communicate, meet your partner’s needs, and more while fighting often.   You or your mate may be exhibiting signs at times that you no longer care or want to be in a relationship with one another.   When this occurs, thoughts of cheating or actually seeking out someone to have sex with may happen.   You have mental and bodily anguish that at times is unexplainable--even leaving doctors scratching their heads.   When your health woes subside and you and your partner are not disagreeing as often, you attempt to be positive, but emotions and behaviors simply don’t last for long.   Again, you suffer through...

It can be quite stressful dating someone who is stressed about any number of things on any given day. Whether it is family concerns, a money problem, unruly children, or a crazy ex , your date's troubles can rub off on you! No matter what the issue someone else is facing, you don't need to let their problems consume you.  You are empathetic, but you have a life.  You are sorry that they are going through much and offer assistance, but you know you can't afford to lose it too or go broke.  Life goes on, there are highs and lows and hopefully your date will rise above his or her blues, but maybe not. Now if your date is using the time you spend together to vent, allow him or her to do just that, but also provide suggestions that will help your date calm down a bit.  From a favorite drink to a nice massage, think of ways to help him or her relax.  You will discover what type of person you are connecting with by the way he or she responds or doesn't to your eff...

Over and over again a single woman is let down by a date. She swipes, scrolls, and taps looking for her next encounter that will make her forget about her last unsuccessful meeting. But to no avail, he seems to be more problematic than the previous male that caught her eye. A single man finally decides to make arrangements to date again only to find out the dating scene hasn’t changed much. He is often disappointed with what appears to look good on a dating profile but falls flat once seen in person. What is the problem with these two as well as many other hopeful singles? There is no single answer and with every online or offline exchange with a fellow single, you just can’t avoid the things you simply don’t like about people. It goes back to what I mentioned in a previous blog entry some years back, you have to accept the bitter with the sweet, the cons with the pros, if you are determined to make things work with someone. I recall setting my standards both hi...

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