Thank You for Reading This Blog

I just wanted to take this moment to thank the contributors of this blog and all those who have shared their entries.  I am so glad that so many singles and couples have found it useful.  I look forward to having an even better year!

At this time we are welcoming any contributors who would like to be featured for their dating or relationship tips or challenges on this blog.  Also any individual or business who would like to purchase ad space, do make contact.

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Nicholl McGuire is the manager of this blog, a self-published author, inspirational speaker, and business owner originally from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She has been a featured guest on television and radio talk shows on networks such as CBS and WPXI Channel 11.


Failed Relationships, Disappointments - A Blessing in Disguise

You probably thought the miserable relationship you or someone else is in is nothing more than a mere mess and all you want is to see yourself or a loved one out of it!  But not so fast, these failed attempts at make up and tearful moments thinking of all those disappointments and hurtful things said are actually blessings in disguise!

Take every argument, painful story, and other negative things related to a bad relationship and turn them all around for good!  Challenge yourself or the friend to do better in other areas of his or her life until you or the individual is ready to make a difference in the intimate relationship.  In the meantime, it goes on the backburner and you press forward using the hurt to get up off the floor of life and start playing again!

What in your life (other than a relationship) needs to be changed and rearranged?  What about other connections that are drama free--have they been nurtured lately?  Could you be doing something to make a difference in other people's lives while you think of a plan to break free from your own negative stuff?

You see the failed romance is a stepping stone on a bigger and greater you!  I know you can't see this right now, but it is!  Oftentimes we make mistakes, but learn not to do certain things again.  We get this on the job, when teaching young children and reflecting on our lives when we were teens.  So now use the same thinking now.  Sometimes it only takes one time to burn your hand on the stove or it just might take half your life to stop burning your hand on a hot stove, but you eventually get it and can then caution others.

Consider what those disputes, mistakes and mayhem is calling your attention to and what is it that you still have yet to accomplish in your life?  For instance, if a partner is cheating could this be a sign you need to step your game up and be more loving and caring toward yourself?  Notice I didn't say toward the partner--he or she messed up and will most likely cause further damage to the relationship.  Instead, you are going to use the pain you are suffering (whatever he or she did to you) and better you! 

People who undergo a true healing process don't fix themselves up for others.  These determined individuals learn to make changes to build up their own self-esteem, wealth, appearance, and more.  They redirect their focus from the bad that is going on in their personal lives and turn it all into something good in other areas.

This is what I have done myself for years and you can do it too!

Nicholl McGuire manages Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate, When Mothers Cry, and other blogs and has authored over 10 books and recorded many spiritual messages on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7. 


Regretting Meeting the Person You Are With Solves What Issue?

From the time you first laid eyes on one another to the day that you thought, "What was I thinking?"  In between the beginning and the near end of a challenging relationship are fillers.  Like stuffing inside a soft toy there are cushy things said to make the appearance of one in a relationship look quite appealing.  He makes promises and she believes.  He says how much he cares for her and she tells him how much she loves him.  Then there are those memorable places visited together, and even children born to one another, but the truth still remains that unsettling feeling that the person seated next to you or across the table is not The One or ever was.  You may trust him or her or that may have long left.

News flash:  there is no "One," a perfect being that is going to do all and be all for any of us.  That is a story for a great fictional work.  There is that person who might be attractive (and that fades fast along with the niceties).  The individual is flawed.  Like you, he or she makes a choice to either stick it out with you and your "issues" or not. 

It is quite easy to get along in a relationship initially because two people have never hurt one another and are just getting to know what buttons not to push or else ruin something they are starting to build or have been for quite some time.  But as the relationship gets older, the pair get quite comfortable saying and doing "whatever" without too much thought or care about the damage actions might cause in the short and long term.  There really is no single reason as to why things change in a relationship, they just do whether the influence was external or internal.  You either have the energy to weather the storm or you don't. 

The one mistake many couples make is to go all the way back to the good days and say things like, "How I never should have...Why did I?  I knew he wasn't right...She was trouble from the start!"  Well you slept with that person, dined with him or her, and did other things, so if he or she is a fool then what does that make you for keeping the individual around?  What current issue is going to be solved by looking back and regretting your every move with a lover/spouse while tarnishing what good there was or still is? 

Live for today, recognize what is happening now, and work toward change within and around you. 

On a side note, sometimes the person you are disputing with is the one that is meant to help you mature personally and professionally.  He or she may not be forever and always, but you do learn a lot about you good, bad and otherwise. 

Nicholl McGuire


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Dating Mr. Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Yet?

If you haven't met him yet, you will the longer you date.  He is sweet, patient and kind.  The gentleman acts as if he is very much in tuned to you.  He likes much of what you like and is very thoughtful and helpful.  Yet, there is another side to him that peaks through his exterior every now and again--a dark side.  The strange man appears moody for no apparent reason, stares off into space or stares too long at you, acts very impatient at times, and has said his share of troubling things to you and possibly others.  The wolf in sheep's clothes may have told a story that made you question whether he really is as harmless as he claims to be.

Sometimes we women dismiss what we know to be true when it comes to people because we want to give them the benefit of the doubt.  But as you will read in Nicholl McGuire's book, Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men, one should never ignore her gut feeling.  Get this nonfiction work today on Smashwords.  You are better off safe than sorry later!

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