Wednesday

How Do You Know You No Longer Have a Friendship with Your Husband

Good friends like good men are hard to come by and that is why some women will fight tooth and nail about their partners. They want to know that their partners will stick closer to them than they would their best friend. However, that is oftentimes not the case. Usually the friend outlasts all the relationships. You can’t help but think was the friend also responsible for some if not all the breakups? So how do you know that you are no longer your husband’s closest friend? Here’s how you can tell.

You don’t occasionally set some time aside to learn more about his interests and hobbies.

You do well listening to him when he tells you about things that matter like groceries, bills, doctor’s appointments, and children, but when he starts telling you about his game of golf, the workload at his job, or other things that you aren’t a least bit interested in, you zone out. If you remember, when you first dated him you managed to find a way to stay interested in what he had to say.

You talk negatively about him to family, friends and strangers.

When he does something right that doesn’t get as much of your media coverage as the bad news! Everyone knew about him screwing up the checkbook, destroying something in the house, or forgetting to get the car fixed, but when he does something thoughtful or nice, that news is buried somewhere between the celebrity news and the personals.

You lie to him without remorse.

You don’t have a problem telling him a story or two. In fact lies come off your lips faster than you can blink your eyes. Even if he knew the truth, you wouldn’t even feel a little bit sorry for what you said, because you don’t care. Now if one of your friends did what you are doing to your husband, you would chew her out! “How dare you lie to me! After all these years we have been friends. You know me better than that!” So why do you do that to your husband?

You cheat on him.

Maybe it was only one time, maybe it wasn’t really cheating just a peck on the lips, or maybe your old friend just tapped your behind, whatever “the it” was, would you be okay with him doing it to you. You may reason that he probably has already, but then again he probably hasn’t. Surely, you don’t want to carry that guilt around forever, repent of your sin to God and yourself and make some changes. He doesn’t need to know what you did unless you are sure he wouldn’t lose his top and possibly harm you!

You take money from him without asking.

Some women don’t mind taking their man’s ATM card or writing a check from his checking account. They may tell themselves, “Well he took money from me in the past. He promised to pay me back but didn’t. He won’t miss this and just a small amount.” Put yourself in his shoes, if you have plans to make a purchase with that money or pay a bill would you want you taking it? It’s just the principal of the thing.

You sell his things without talking to him first then keep the money for yourself.

So you didn’t bother to talk to him about his stuff that his been sitting over in that corner for months, does it give you the right to sell it? At some point he is going to want to look at his baseball card or stamp collection, that old dirty football with the signature on it, or take out his gun and give it a cleaning, what are you going to do, lie?

You abuse him mentally or physically behind closed doors or in front of others.

He may be a big man and you may be a little woman, but that big man has feelings. He may not look like he cares about what you say, but he does. He wants to know why you feel the need to embarrass him whenever family and friends come around. He wants to know why you don’t respect him. You may want to be an example to him and show him what love and respect looks like and maybe he will behave better with you too.

You blame him for everything.

Sometimes we all are in moods where it is everyone else’s fault but ours. But if that is your mood every day, see a doctor. There are vitamin deficiencies, hormonal imbalances, and other women related issues that cause us to feel angry, sad, depressed, or often irritated.

You often think of the past things he has done to you and act vengeful toward him.

How long is he going to have to pay for his mistake from years ago? You agreed to forgive him, but that doesn’t give you a license to keep hitting him with the same stuff over and over again. If you are still severely wounded by what he has done to you, get free, let him go.

You avoid talking to him intimately.

You refuse to share your feelings with him, because he isn’t worth it. Every time you attempted to in the past he was critical and threw things back up in your face, so now you just don’t bother telling him things. If this is the best way to handle your issues with him so be it. But if not, try sharing a few things and see what he does with them even after you have instructed him not to be critical or abusive with what you have told him. If he continues to act negatively, then go back to cutting him off until you see signs of change.

These signs have been picked because many women go through these changes in their marriages. They want to know if their husband is not only a provider, but there friend too. Sometimes it is helpful to re-evaluate your relationship to get the most out of it. The best relationships last 30 plus years because couples have learned to be each one's friends. They accept one another just as good friends do no matter what!

By Nicholl McGuire

He is Never There for Me When I Need Him Most

Have you ever felt like your husband or partner just doesn’t seem to understand what his role in your life is supposed to be? You have explained to him many times how you feel about him and how you want him to be pro-active in your life, but even with the long speeches, the cries, and the anger outbursts, he still proceeds in the relationship as if he doesn’t care about you or the things that matter to you most like your family and friends.

Every woman in this situation has a choice and the obvious one is you either put up with his nonchalant, insensitive attitude or you tell him goodbye. Why is it that some men behave in this way? The answer is quite simple they don’t understand women and aren’t interested in learning more about them either. A man who truly respects , admires, and most importantly loves his woman is going to do what it takes to make a relationship work. Sometimes he needs her to guide him to the self-improvement book, drive him to the relationship counselor, or walk him to the bedroom -- wherever the problem is in the relationship, it is up to her to give him the resources to help him along, but when you have done this repeatedly and he still doesn’t seem to want to make an effort to make things work, this is when you will have to do your part for your own sanity and redirect your focus from him to you. Whether it means start dating others, move out of the home you two share, find a hobby or interest, take a class, or spend more time with your family – whatever you choose to do he has to be shown that he is no longer the center of your world.

Sometimes women are caught in relationships hoping that if something really bad happens to them that somehow this man who never really acted like he cared, would suddenly care. That is the furthest thing from the truth. He may be attentive to you for a little while if he stands to lose or gain something, but sooner or later he will go back to his old ways again leaving you feeling alone.

I think of the time in my own life when I was in a financial bind and I think it was $20 I needed from my man to help me until payday. I had never asked him for anything during almost a year of dating; yet when he was in a bind that cost me over $800.00,I thought he wouldn’t hesitate to help me. Boy was I wrong! He had an instant attitude. Needless to say, I couldn’t help but think this man was not going to be beneficial to my life when I needed him the most, despite all of his claims that if I needed anything just ask.

I now look at every problem that comes up in a relationship as a test. It’s a great way to determine whether this person is a keeper. If he or she can be there for you when you are in a financial bind, diagnosed with an illness, your child is going through the motions or a relative passes away, then they are a keeper. I shouldn’t have to call a man all day or night, wait up for him, or talk myself into believing that he cares for me, he just forgot to call. Yet, there are those men that will demonstrate the upmost support until you are well and then they are expecting an immediate handout, they will bring up everything they did for you and expect you to do far more than they ever did. “Remember when I helped you,” he says. “Yes and I can’t help you right now but if you wait until…” you say. He doesn’t want to hear about waiting for you to do anything for him, like a pimp he wants his money, sex, or both now!

What good is a man if you can’t rely on him to help you when you need him the most? Why should you have to walk on egg shells hoping that he doesn’t ask you to pay him back with interest? I was told long ago that you never accept anything from a man unless you are willing to give something in return and usually what that something is falls somewhere between your stomach and your thighs!

There are women who are reading this thinking of the times when they thought the love of their lives would come through for them when they were in a bind, but failed them. Remember how your stomach dropped in shock, the ache settled in your chest, and you just cried! How could someone be so cold? You may have been like me at one time seated at work bent over with menstrual cramps hitting your stomach every few seconds and all you wanted was for him to come pick you up from work? You may have wished for him to be the one seated in the audience admiring you after one of your great performances. Wherever you were and whatever you had hoped from him, the bottom line he wasn’t there! He wasn’t there when your relative died, when money was short, when your child needed to be watched, when the rent was due, when you needed a car --- simply put he took more from you then you ever asked of him!

So how do you get a man to be there for you when you need him most? You start taking yourself seriously. You set boundaries. You allow him to wallow in his challenges without bailing him out. In time you turn your back on him and find someone who can demonstrate what it sincerely means to be your better half that is what you do!

By Nicholl McGuire

Saturday

After Finding Out She's Cheating

So she told him the other day that he wasn't affectionate enough.  He listened to her, then promised he would consider her feelings more and periodically kiss and hug her for no reason, but to say, "I love you." 

Days turned into weeks then weeks turned into months and business continued as usual.  He gave her a list of complaints.  Things like what she was and wasn't doing while never following up with anything that showed he appreciated her actions much less her existence.  He debated about frivolous matters and often ignored her.

One day he found out that he wasn't the only man in her life and that there wasn't just one, but many men in her life.  They all fulfilled a purpose, and for some strange reason, he wondered what role did he play.  The truth of the matter was right before his eyes, his role had been long revoked--he no longer played any role.  His woman had been mustering up the courage to tell him it was over weeks prior, but he found out before she was ready.

You and I have heard, personally experienced, or witness a similar scene play out with us, relatives and/or friends.  When the signs are right in front of us that something is wrong, we do one of two things:  either we try to help ourselves for the benefit of the relationship possibly holding on a little tighter to our mate or we look away usually thinking about someone else, our job and/or children.  What we may not think about is that we can help the cheater continue to do wrong by us when we choose to look away.  How will anyone become a better person if we allow them to hurt ourselves and others by doing and saying nothing?  There comes a point when one has to open his or her mouth and speak truth and take responsibility for actions or in-actions in the relationship.

It is true that we can't make a person change, but what we can do, is be accountable for ourselves.  Playing the game of "payback" is not going to render the results we want, nor is it going to make the hurt feelings go away inside of us.  Rather, we must orchestrate a plan to move on--to get past the rejection and pain.  We must allow ourselves time to heal--ALONE.  Too many hurt people walk the streets spreading their infectious disease of hurt feelings (amongst other things) when they should be at home on bed-rest.

Some of us will run into the arms of someone else in the hopes that things will get better mentally and physically for us, but unfortunately nothing really changes (but a face, a name and an address.) Even worse, sometimes we only find ourselves jumping from hot water into a frying pan.  It is best for us to just settle down and think about what we need to do to find sincere happiness--it may not be meant for some of us to ever have a partner and we must learn to accept that--not everyone was meant to be in a relationship (read books about people who are happy being single.) 

Whatever we discover about ourselves after such a hurtful experience like being cheated on, we should remember not to repeat the same behavior on someone else.

Nicholl McGuire

Tuesday

10 Actions You Do that Make Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Think You're Cheating

So you haven’t been in a relationship that long and you are already being accused of cheating when you know you haven’t. Chances are you are conducting yourself in a way that is making your partner feel insecure. What could you be doing to make him or her feel that way? Here are some tips.

1) Being extremely private. One can understand in the days of identity theft that you want to be extra careful password protecting your accounts, watching where you leave your cell phone, and locking up your private files, but when a situation comes up where you may need your partner’s assistance or need to share information between one another and you act overprotective with him or her about it, you are giving them a reason to suspect you are up to something whether you are or not. Some couples will share a password only temporarily and then as soon as their partner’s back is turned they change their password. This sends a message that “I don’t trust you. I have something to hide” even though you may not.

2) Decreasing affection. Everyone has their share of moods from one day to the next, but if yours is consistently declining without notice to your partner then he or she has no choice but to think that your feelings have changed. Once he or she feels like you aren’t interested in him or her anymore and you are not doing anything to make them feel validated in the relationship then the snooping may start to begin.

3) Lying. The day you are caught lying about something small or big such as being registered with a social networking site, calling an ex, hanging out with friends when you are supposed to be at work, or other things that can raise your partner’s eyebrows, you might as well have put your name on the list of the most wanted. Everything you say and do will be second-guessed, your privacy is a thing of the past, and be prepared to be punished for years.

4) Traveling alone often. Let’s say you use to invite your partner for car rides and ask them to accompany you to events, now you are suddenly going places without notice and not bothering to invite him or her, you are putting yourself in a bad light. You see, serial cheaters look for any excuse to get away from their partner so that they can be with someone else. So if you were watching television and then suddenly, after looking at your cell phone you leave, with cell phone in tote whether out in the open or hiding it, you look suspicious. Maybe you felt the need to leave because you saw a great fast food commercial for something you would like to try or you thought about something you need from the grocery store, it all seems innocent to you, but your partner who has been lied to in the past, deprived from affection, and notices how private you are is thinking, “What is he up to now? Where is she going?”

5) Avoiding intimate communication. You may have been a talkative couple in the early days and that too has declined over the years or suddenly. If this is the case, you may be getting a little bit bored with the conversation or feel comfortable enough in the relationship that he or she should know enough about you that you shouldn’t have to communicate so often as before. This all seems innocent enough, but not to your partner who wants to be reassured that everything is okay with the two of you. Solve this issue by talking about all sorts of things and reminding your partner that he or she is loved and appreciated!

6) Being irritated or emotional when asked questions. You may not like having to answer to someone, but in relationships there will be times when you will have to answer simple and complex questions and it is up to you to be as honest as you can and help your partner quiet the inner voice within that says, “He’s cheating on you. She is with seeing another man.”

7) Working late frequently. You may be a workaholic or love your job more than you do your personal life, or simply enjoy making additional money, whatever your reason talk to your partner about it. When you reach out to him or her and explain to them what your motivation for working late is and why it is important to you, they can respect you for it. Be sure to call from your workplace and accept an impromptu visit from you r partner. Working late has received a bad rap over the years and unfortunately you will have to do the best you can to make sure you aren’t guilty of using this as an excuse to cheat or stay away from your partner.

8) Spending more time with friends. All of your close friends may be the same gender or some of them may be the opposite sex. Unfortunately, friendships outside of the relationship have been viewed negatively over the years because of the bad influences that friends bring to the relationship. From friends having sex with one another to strip clubs, these issues among others should be discussed with your significant.

9) Putting off introducing them to your family or showing no desire to meet his or her family. No matter how a person feels about their family, when good things happen to him or her they want to let the world know about them. So when you don’t act interested in meeting his or her family and you don’t bother to take the time to let him or her get to know yours, he or she may feel like you have something to hide like a spouse he or she doesn’t know about.

10) Keeping secrets. There may be some things that you have been keeping from your partner that are serious issues to you, but not so serious to him or her, if only they knew. Your partner may have tried to get you to open up, but you haven’t budged. Your partner could be thinking that you are being open with someone else since you can’t seem to converse with him or her about your life, emotions, and other things about yourself.

There are good men and women in this world that honestly love their partners, but have a hard time expressing their emotions and aren’t very educated about the opposite sex. It is up to you to learn more about your partner and find out what you can do to put them at ease and make him or her feel like they can trust you. If you feel like you don’t want to change your habits or acknowledge his or her feelings and rather place blame, then you aren’t sincerely interested in a relationship. Experts have preached for years that it takes two to work on a relationship, not one. Do what you can to help your partner show you the love and appreciation you feel you deserve by doing your part to make them feel happy and secure in the relationship.

By Nicholl McGuire

Monday

How to Free Yourself from a Dead End Relationship

When you first met your partner you didn’t see him or her as being flawed. Rather, you have seen a human that fulfilled your needs at the moment. For some of you reading this, you had a need for a companion, financial issues to contend with, a bad relationship previously and other circumstances that gave you the motivation to want to start over again in a new relationship. Notice there is no mention of love. Because love usually is not the driving force in relationships that start off in this way. You most likely came to the realization already that love was never what you felt, but an excitement, lust, and just an overall feeling of temporal peace because you now have someone who will lay beside you at night and go to events with you periodically. This may have worked in the past, but now you know it is no good for you.


You tried repeatedly to make things work and he or she gave you the cold shoulder, cursed you, or even worse cheated on you. You forgave them for their misdeeds, but still you have no peace in the relationship. You realize you need to move on, but how do you when this person is still a big part of your mind, body and spirit?  Here are some things you will want to try to get out of a dead end relationship.

First, you must get the passion back for the things you either use to do, currently do, or hope to do. This means that if you always wanted to go to college, switch careers, relocate, or do some other major thing in your life, now is the time. Once you have allowed yourself to begin to pursue your goals, you will find yourself overwhelmed with what you need to get done that you will find yourself forgetting about your partner.

Second, as you partake in your new activities, thoughts about your partner will come and distract you from your plans. There is nothing wrong with that and don’t beat yourself up about it. But if you can see the good and bad in all that you think about concerning him or her, your fight to move on will become less difficult. The reason why many people struggle with trying to get over their exs is because they are too busy trying to get over their exs. Why fight the thoughts? Allow them to come and then allow them to go. Now if you act on those thoughts like rekindle the relationship knowing that you don’t want it or expressing how you feel to your partner when you know that those feelings came as a result of past memories then you have a problem on your hand. You will be putting yourself fin a position to stay in the dead end relationship all over again.

Now, that you have focused on your new activities and have thoughts about the partner but haven’t acted on them, it is time to garner up some support. There are those around you that will always be optimistic about the relationship no matter what. They are actually your worse advisers and listening to them will keep you confused. When you know that your relationship is not working anymore, you don’t need anyone providing you with a false hope. This is the best time to start leaning on those friends that tell you, “Go date…hang out with us…have some fun!” You see in the past they may have not been good for the relationship, because they were doing things that could actually cause problems for you and your partner. However, things have changed and you are not in a relationship anymore.

Lastly, you will want to make any and all changes in your life that do not include your former partner. That means that if you have a bank account together, a membership at the same organization, a house in both your names, whatever your issue, it is now time to cut it off! If you skip this step and reason that you will get a divorce later, handle business matters another time, or put off taking their name off of certain business documents, you will run into some serious trouble down the line! You may meet someone who you may fall in love with and the last thing they will want to hear from you is, “I can’t marry you because…I can’t buy this because…my ex did this…my ex did that…” Allowing your unresolved issues of the past to creep into your future will make things worse, so leave your dead end relationship right where it needs to be in the past so that you can move on into your future--guilt free, debt free, and pain free.

By Nicholl McGuire

Sunday

6 Reasons Why She Will Leave You So You Best Be Prepared

Your woman has come to you over and over again with all sorts of issues from how to put things back to whether or not you love her and over, over, and over again you have given her explanations and tried to listen to her. You know she loves you, but maybe you don’t know whether you love her. There are reasons why women leave their men or cheat on them.

One. She doesn’t think you are her friend.

You say that you consider her not only as a lover but a friend too, but do you really? When serious issues in life have come up, have you included her or did you run to your family, friends or an ex for support? Friends care about one another. They include them in on the significant things that happen to them in their lives.

When she upsets you, do you talk to her one-on-one or do you talk to everyone else but her? She has dealt with her share of backstabbing friends in the past, so the last thing she expected was her man going behind her back and bad mouthing her too.

She is a beautiful, intelligent, talented woman and everything she touches turns to gold. However, you secretly are jealous of her. You may think you should be doing more in your life, so rather than celebrate her achievements while working on yours, you are jealousy. You make her feel bad when something good happens to her, because you can’t seem to control your mouth. How many times do you think she is going to sit by and continue to let you down her, which brings us to the next point?

Two. She feels like you don’t care about her or what she does.

Most likely, she has expressed her feelings to you and those around her who love her. What are you doing that says, “You don’t care about her?” When she was ill, did you bring her a cup of soup and a kiss? Did you ask her if there was anything you could do, when her relative died? Did you offer to drive her some place when she couldn’t drive? Did you sit and talk with her when she was angry about something? When she stayed out all day and night, did you even act a little bit interested in what she was doing? When the children were crying and she felt her back was up against the wall, did you step up to the plate? If you can’t remember when you did something that impacted her so much that she could remember it on her deathbed then don’t wonder why she feels like you don’t care.

Three. When you hurt her feelings, you don’t bother to acknowledge her feelings and apologize.

Everyone gets angry from time to time, some more than others, but how we deal with the situation afterward is just as impactful as what was said during the argument. You may have yelled at her, name-called, put her down, pushed her or even broke a few items around the house, but did you sincerely apologize for your actions? Some people will apologize by only picking a few things they feel comfortable about saying their sorry for and then hoping it will be forgotten about the next day. Apologizing doesn’t just come from the mouth or a gift; it comes from a commitment of never doing it again and living up to it! Apologizing also comes from: the anger management courses you promised you would take, the therapist you would visit, the prescription medicine you said you know you need to take, the sacrifices you make for the betterment of the relationship and your family, and most of all it comes from the heart!

Four. You act as if you aren’t committed to her.

Driving around in an automobile without your partner and children, making people think you are single. Dining often alone to the point that none of the restaurant staff think you are married or in a relationship. Accepting lunch invitations from women without your wedding band displayed. These are just some of the examples that men do that make their partners feel like they are in a relationship all alone.

Company invitations, family events, and other opportunities come and go and you never bother to bring your mate along. Is there any wonder why she would feel the way she does?

Five. You both have very separate, distant lives.

She has her plans and you have yours. The only things you two share are a house and a bed. You see nothing wrong with it, because maybe you enjoy the space, but she has seen that this has been a problem for her for years, but didn’t want to nag you about it. Now she feels so distant from you that she doesn’t even know you and would rather be with someone else which brings us to the next point.

Six. You don’t allow her to get to know you like you once did. You are a stranger in her eyes.

You may have communicated to her in the past about your likes, dislikes, associations, interests, childhood memories, and daily activities, but now things are different not because you purposely wanted it to be that way, but just because you both have changed. She may have attempted to get to know you by clearing her schedule to go out on dates, send you phone messages, thinking of you cards and gifts, and do other nice things that say, “Let me into your world.” But you barely noticed or didn’t seem to care. Now you are so distant from her mind and heart that she can’t see a life with you anymore.

By Nicholl McGuire

Friday

He Lives His Life as if We Weren’t Married; He Rarely Considers Me

Driving in his beautiful sports car, he is turning heads! He feels and looks good these days and you are happy for him. But this has been the latest stunt he has pulled in a series of selfish moves. Family and friends tell you that they have seen him at this person’s house, this club, this event and so on and you don’t even know about half of these places and the ones you do know about you know that they are up to no good! You want him to start living his life as if he is married to you and you want him to consider you, so what do you do?

First, you need to identify where you have gone wrong in this relationship to win his respect. He unfortunately has learned that whatever he does is okay with you. You may have allowed him to get away with what he does because you didn’t want to appear as if you are a nag. You can still appear that way, by stating your point and if it doesn’t get through to him going to your plan B. Now you may say, what is a plan B. A plan B is the plan you use when the first one doesn’t work. What’s yours? How do you get an adult male to listen to your wishes? You back it up with action. Some people use suttle actions like giving him the silent treatment (that rarely works) others take bolder steps like taking a sudden vacation, moving out, or getting a male in the family to come over and have a man-to-man conversation with him. All of these do work temporarily, but he shouldn’t have to be forced to do anything. The truth of the matter is a man who sincerely loves a woman will just examine his actions and work to make some changes. Tricks and power persuausion tactics shouldn’t be necessary.

Next, once you see that he is listening to you, praise him. Tell him that you appreciate him considering your feelings. Reward him like you do anyone who does something nice for you. However, if he isn’t making any changes and you have given him plenty of time to get his priorities straight (only you and he know how much time you need) and he still refuses to consider that you are his wife, then you will need to ask him the hard questions, does he really want to be married? He will most likely say, yes. But he isn’t acting like it, so if he can’t start acting like a husband he is leaving you no choice but to make an appointment with an attorney. If after you say this and wait for about a week or two and still no changes, then you will need to start making arrangements to move out and file the necessary paper work for a divorce. Some people will wait years and years hoping that someone will change, but if you know you aren’t patient enough to wait years then do what you must.

Third, he may have gave you some signs he wasn’t ready for marriage, but you ignored them. You may have been the one standing on your soap box debating on him why you think it is best for the both of you to get married. Your platform could have been because the Bible said we should, because we have children together, because your family likes me, because of all the wonderful things I have done for you.” These are very good arguments and persuasive, but they don’t keep people married, love does and he may have been trying to figure all of that out while you were picking out your wedding gown.

Fourth, once you have thought about the signs you have overlooked. Go to him with your concerns and ask him like you would a friend the same question you may have asked him on a different day, “Do you really want to be married?” He may be offended at this point that you would ask him again, but if he isn’t making any effort to change his bachelor ways, then you have no choice but to ask and tell him so.

Fifth, consult with a professional about areas in your relationship that you can’t seem to figure out. Yes there is much information on the Internet, but it can be confusing and it isn’t always the best advice. You need someone who will guide you to the advice you need tailored toyour situation. You can aseek this ort of individual counseling via the Internet, but if you can meet with a person face-to-face or discuss your issue over the phone do it.

Sixth, consider attending a marriage seminar. At these seminars you both will hear from speakers who will discuss the challenges of marriage and how you can solve your problems. You don’t have to worry about someone telling you to share your problems with an eager audience. You both can just sit back and listen to what the speakers are saying then go back home and apply those principals to your life.

Seventh, create a list of things you may not have wanted to discuss with him about how you feel he acts about being married. Drop the list off in a place you know he will get it and no one else will intercept it, like on his dresser, desk, in the bathroom, or on his favorite chair. He may begin to do the things you ask, because a note is less confrontational.

Eighth, of you do have a faith now is the time to use it. He knows exactly where you stand in the relationship and your prayer is that he will learn how to act in his role as your husband. You will also pray for guidance on how you are supposed to act as a wife to him. Study the Bible and other books on communication in relationships.

Ninth, observe those around you and read stories on the Internet about other women who have been in a similar situation as yourself. Some women will tell you that prior to having children he was still behaving like a single man, but after the children he became more of a family man. Others may talk of the difficult times that occurred in his life that enlightened him. Sometimes it takes the death of a parent, a murder of a friend, or someone lying on their deathbed to get through to people. However, some people will never change no matter what happens to them or those around them.

Tenth, after you have done all that you can do, back off. He doesn’t need more letters, conversations, and other things reminding him that he is not acting like a husband. Rather, focus on you and be sure that you are acting like a loving and kind wife.

There are many women like yourself who married men who are immature and don’t know much about being married except what they have learned from their parents or those around them which at times are poor examples. You may be the only source of information that will help him know his role as your husband, don’t take your service lightly.

By Nicholl McGuire

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