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Men: When Single Women Say Most of My Friends Are Men
At one time I use to hear this often especially during high school years, “I don’t have many female friends, most of my friends are boys.” I didn’t think much of this statement back then because I use to be one of those girls who would say the same thing. I found that I had more male friends as a girl because there were certain attributes about me that boys liked more, so of course they would want to get to know me. Back then girls were jealous just like they are today of the same things such as: hair, body weight, skin tone, popularity, intelligence, and associations. If you were the one who was jealous of your share of females back in the day, then you may have been more likely to build friendships with boys because it was less threatening. If you were the one who was the victim of jealousy, then you leaned toward male friendships, because you didn’t trust females. However, sometimes there were girls who just had problems with other girls and their issues were deeply rooted as a result of what their mothers and other female relatives did to them as a child. It is unfortunate, but even now years later; some girls who are now grown women are reminded of their unresolved issues of the past so when they see their high school and college alum they continue to spread their venom of insecurities.
Once I became a woman, I gradually learned (and am still learning) that a discerning spirit is a must when it comes to stating who is really a friend whether male or female. Believers know about a discerning spirit and why it is so important to have one. This discerning spirit I speak of is a gift that helps you to identify whether a person is a friend or foe without any special training or education. It is an innate ability, a spiritual gift from God. Some of these so-called male friends back in the day were really just standing by hoping that one day they could be the next lover in a girl’s life anyway. I started thinking deeply about this statement of “not having many female friends” that I used to make (which now wouldn’t be true) and hear others still saying. It speaks volumes about you and your experiences and it also sends a loud warning to other women (and men), “She has issues, keep this woman at a distance!”
You see, a woman who says that she can’t get along with her own gender is like a black person saying that he can’t stand his or her own people so he moves far out into predominately white areas, marries someone outside of his race for reasons that have nothing to do with love, and disowns his own family, because he “just can’t stand black folks!” Surely, not everyone that you have encountered is bad whether black, white, female, male, rich, or poor. But these conversations go on behind closed doors, when you and I aren’t within earshot.
So here you are seated in front of a woman who says, “I don’t have many or no female friends.” As you get to know her, you learn a thing or two. She has a poor relationship with her mother or other female relatives in the family. She isn’t happy with who she is as a woman and often is very critical of herself and other women. She tells you how she can’t stand women! When the truth of the matter is that if you interviewed the women who she has had disagreements with, they will tell you the truth. Maybe she is a liar, disrespectful of another woman’s relationship, promiscuous, a religious freak, argumentative, easily offended, etc. I personally found that in the past my personal issue with women stemmed from listening to older women in my family warning us that most women could not be trusted. The sad truth was that their fathers and other male relatives told them that about women so that they couldn’t build a relationship with one another to find out anything about their lying, cheating husbands. What better way to keep women disconnected from one another is to tear them down and pit them against one another! Some men would tell their wives just to hide their infidelities, “I told you women can’t be trusted!”
This title of “friend” on sites like Facebook and MySpace is loosely used, because the way I see it my true friends are those who understand me even during those times when my smile is turned upside down! And lately God has been blessing me with relationships that don’t require much, a phone call here or there and an outing once in awhile (a time for just us friends not errand running, babysitting, husband watching, and party going types of visiting either!) and that’s alright with me! So I have women friends and I love them and I am no longer one of those women who say, “I don’t have many women friends or I just don’t trust females…” For every woman who has been wounded by another woman, I say, woman up (like man up)! Don’t let one rotten apple spoil the batch!
By Nicholl McGuire
Once I became a woman, I gradually learned (and am still learning) that a discerning spirit is a must when it comes to stating who is really a friend whether male or female. Believers know about a discerning spirit and why it is so important to have one. This discerning spirit I speak of is a gift that helps you to identify whether a person is a friend or foe without any special training or education. It is an innate ability, a spiritual gift from God. Some of these so-called male friends back in the day were really just standing by hoping that one day they could be the next lover in a girl’s life anyway. I started thinking deeply about this statement of “not having many female friends” that I used to make (which now wouldn’t be true) and hear others still saying. It speaks volumes about you and your experiences and it also sends a loud warning to other women (and men), “She has issues, keep this woman at a distance!”
You see, a woman who says that she can’t get along with her own gender is like a black person saying that he can’t stand his or her own people so he moves far out into predominately white areas, marries someone outside of his race for reasons that have nothing to do with love, and disowns his own family, because he “just can’t stand black folks!” Surely, not everyone that you have encountered is bad whether black, white, female, male, rich, or poor. But these conversations go on behind closed doors, when you and I aren’t within earshot.
So here you are seated in front of a woman who says, “I don’t have many or no female friends.” As you get to know her, you learn a thing or two. She has a poor relationship with her mother or other female relatives in the family. She isn’t happy with who she is as a woman and often is very critical of herself and other women. She tells you how she can’t stand women! When the truth of the matter is that if you interviewed the women who she has had disagreements with, they will tell you the truth. Maybe she is a liar, disrespectful of another woman’s relationship, promiscuous, a religious freak, argumentative, easily offended, etc. I personally found that in the past my personal issue with women stemmed from listening to older women in my family warning us that most women could not be trusted. The sad truth was that their fathers and other male relatives told them that about women so that they couldn’t build a relationship with one another to find out anything about their lying, cheating husbands. What better way to keep women disconnected from one another is to tear them down and pit them against one another! Some men would tell their wives just to hide their infidelities, “I told you women can’t be trusted!”
This title of “friend” on sites like Facebook and MySpace is loosely used, because the way I see it my true friends are those who understand me even during those times when my smile is turned upside down! And lately God has been blessing me with relationships that don’t require much, a phone call here or there and an outing once in awhile (a time for just us friends not errand running, babysitting, husband watching, and party going types of visiting either!) and that’s alright with me! So I have women friends and I love them and I am no longer one of those women who say, “I don’t have many women friends or I just don’t trust females…” For every woman who has been wounded by another woman, I say, woman up (like man up)! Don’t let one rotten apple spoil the batch!
By Nicholl McGuire
What Do Women Want in a Relationship? Here Are the Most Vital Things Women Want in a Relationship
Men need to know how a woman feels, what makes her tick and what she expects out of a man. To know all this, one has to really understand a woman's psychological make-up and what she wants in a relationship. Most women look for certain things in a relationship that will ensure happiness and success. A quick look at these points below will give you an insight into a woman's expectations.
Women need to be satisfied on all counts
This means that she needs you to satisfy her mentally, physically and emotionally. This sounds like a tall order but if you really look at it - all she is asking for is pure attention and love which is not difficult to give considering you love her.
Commitment
Very rarely you would come across a woman who is not looking for some sort of commitment in a relationship. No woman likes being taken for a ride. Neither does she like to be dumped after a while. So if you are a man who is willing to take a step towards commitment - you will make her very happy and content.
Honesty from her man
A woman can't stand lies and infidelity in a relationship any more than a man does. Honesty and truthfulness from her partner will make her secure and relaxed. A partner who is a cheat will only ruin the relationship.
Help and support
By this we don't mean that it is absolutely necessary for you to tie on an apron and help out in the kitchen - though many men are more than wiling to do that much to the delight of their women - but women are looking for men who are willing to be there for them.
A sexually satisfying relationship
Women need to be sexually satisfied and love a man who is physically compatible. Though sex is just one of the factors that are necessary in a relationship, it is an important one. The man should know how to keep the excitement and the flames of desire burning.
A need to be loved
A woman wants her man to love her and show it by hugging, kissing and telling her so. She will automatically be happier and have no moods if she you can prove to her that she is loved and cherished. If she is not sure and unhappy then be prepared for nagging as she will make your life a nightmare!
A shoulder to cry on
No matter how mature the woman is, she will always want a shoulder to cry on. She expects her guy to be her best friend, someone she can confide in at any time and someone who she can share her worst fears with.
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By Rahul TalwarDating Advice For Men: The Void In Dating Wisdom
Relationships and dating is definitely the biggest part of our life. We talk about them without pause. They affect us emotionally more than most things in life. We get more rattled, sulky, peaceful and enlightened because of relationships.
Yet it is the area of our lives where we 'bungle' more. The area that we understand the least. You can be a high-flying professional with stellar academic and career background and still be an absolute failure when it comes to dating and relationships. This is despite spending more time talking about it... Scanning information about it... placing questions in forums about it.
Despite our best efforts and investing more time in it from birth than any other area of our lives. We are as a population less knowledgeable about this part of our life than any other. We don't have much understanding of it. We are less able to guide the outcomes of this part of our life to success, and avoid failure, as a consequence. Because we often do not know what is a right or wrong action or behavior.
The proportions of the difficulty is indicative. Based on my understanding I can state that around 20% of the knowledge that persons have about dating is real. That indicates that 20% of the knowledge they have is adequate and usable. Only 20% can help them to make good decisions vs. wicked decisions.
Why is 80% of the knowledge unsound?
1. Limited research of dating / relationships historically: Our scientists were focused on other subjects from medicine to telecoms and media.
2. No formal dating self-education: There was not any self help or formal education to turn to.. The best you got during your studies was sex education, and that was pretty futile. If you were born under a lucky star it prevented you from getting someone pregnant. There was where it reached its conclusion. Stores had books available for sale that were not helpful to you at all in your quest to educate yourself.
3. Inhibited communication of true relationship experiences: Do you tell your friends exactly what happens in your relationships? on your dates? or is it a distorted version of the truth. Visualize it. Venture into this field. Everyone is doing it.
4. Popularized confusing/ false messages about relationships: Films and media all tell the same stories. We have grown to love these stories. But there is a void.. of it is unerring. The world does not work that way. One perfect match. Real passion. Sadly it is not factual.
Check out any valid survey stats (suggestion: do not trust what an online dating service says, find independent and objective surveys) on the divorce rate, on relationship satisfaction, dating satisfaction and success rates etc. You will find them to be pretty negative in conjunction. Is it unsettling? NO.
The proof of the dating knowledge gap is staring you in the face.
The Good News: A revolution is coming. Today there is real valid research on dating and relationships coming out by the truck load. There are useful writings that are based in science. There is dating education by dating tutors who are GENUINELY successful (What a strange phenomenon!). There is dating advice for men that actually works. Getting the hang of how to succeed with women is definitely a possibility.
There is 'truth' out there to lay our hands on. You have to look beyond your buddies, beyond the locations that you traditionally used to get knowledge from - where you received your mistaken beliefs and where you acknowledged that it was unexplored. Get keyed up. Look for the truths that are growing in accessibility in a maturing market geared towards dating advice for men. There are many who are going from complete disasters to fantastic results. To fulfillment. All they are doing is staying critical, being vigilant about the teachings they acquire - and searching out the facts. They are finding sterling knowledge, taking it in, using it and 'taking the outcome of their relationships in their own hands'.
Let's light the flame within... If you haven't been successful in this meaningful part of your life. Step up. Take control. Seize the revolution and reach out to fulfillment in this essential part of your life.
See more about how the dating knowledge gap has come about. Imagine if you could meet and attract the women you wanted every time? That you knew how to succeed with women? Develop relationships that are full of life, resilient and successful? Explore dating advice for men and find the best dating advice available for men from 100s of dating coaches and authors based on reviews by real people.
By: Angel Donovan
Angel has a strong interest in the power of self development to transform individuals and organizations. He turned that focus to dating mastery in 2001.
Currently, he is the Founder and Editor of Dating Skills Review, a database of unbiased reviews of dating advice for Men.
Also check Pick Up Lines Central for collections of best and funniest pick up lines.
Yet it is the area of our lives where we 'bungle' more. The area that we understand the least. You can be a high-flying professional with stellar academic and career background and still be an absolute failure when it comes to dating and relationships. This is despite spending more time talking about it... Scanning information about it... placing questions in forums about it.
Despite our best efforts and investing more time in it from birth than any other area of our lives. We are as a population less knowledgeable about this part of our life than any other. We don't have much understanding of it. We are less able to guide the outcomes of this part of our life to success, and avoid failure, as a consequence. Because we often do not know what is a right or wrong action or behavior.
The proportions of the difficulty is indicative. Based on my understanding I can state that around 20% of the knowledge that persons have about dating is real. That indicates that 20% of the knowledge they have is adequate and usable. Only 20% can help them to make good decisions vs. wicked decisions.
Why is 80% of the knowledge unsound?
1. Limited research of dating / relationships historically: Our scientists were focused on other subjects from medicine to telecoms and media.
2. No formal dating self-education: There was not any self help or formal education to turn to.. The best you got during your studies was sex education, and that was pretty futile. If you were born under a lucky star it prevented you from getting someone pregnant. There was where it reached its conclusion. Stores had books available for sale that were not helpful to you at all in your quest to educate yourself.
3. Inhibited communication of true relationship experiences: Do you tell your friends exactly what happens in your relationships? on your dates? or is it a distorted version of the truth. Visualize it. Venture into this field. Everyone is doing it.
4. Popularized confusing/ false messages about relationships: Films and media all tell the same stories. We have grown to love these stories. But there is a void.. of it is unerring. The world does not work that way. One perfect match. Real passion. Sadly it is not factual.
Check out any valid survey stats (suggestion: do not trust what an online dating service says, find independent and objective surveys) on the divorce rate, on relationship satisfaction, dating satisfaction and success rates etc. You will find them to be pretty negative in conjunction. Is it unsettling? NO.
The proof of the dating knowledge gap is staring you in the face.
The Good News: A revolution is coming. Today there is real valid research on dating and relationships coming out by the truck load. There are useful writings that are based in science. There is dating education by dating tutors who are GENUINELY successful (What a strange phenomenon!). There is dating advice for men that actually works. Getting the hang of how to succeed with women is definitely a possibility.
There is 'truth' out there to lay our hands on. You have to look beyond your buddies, beyond the locations that you traditionally used to get knowledge from - where you received your mistaken beliefs and where you acknowledged that it was unexplored. Get keyed up. Look for the truths that are growing in accessibility in a maturing market geared towards dating advice for men. There are many who are going from complete disasters to fantastic results. To fulfillment. All they are doing is staying critical, being vigilant about the teachings they acquire - and searching out the facts. They are finding sterling knowledge, taking it in, using it and 'taking the outcome of their relationships in their own hands'.
Let's light the flame within... If you haven't been successful in this meaningful part of your life. Step up. Take control. Seize the revolution and reach out to fulfillment in this essential part of your life.
See more about how the dating knowledge gap has come about. Imagine if you could meet and attract the women you wanted every time? That you knew how to succeed with women? Develop relationships that are full of life, resilient and successful? Explore dating advice for men and find the best dating advice available for men from 100s of dating coaches and authors based on reviews by real people.
By: Angel Donovan
Angel has a strong interest in the power of self development to transform individuals and organizations. He turned that focus to dating mastery in 2001.
Currently, he is the Founder and Editor of Dating Skills Review, a database of unbiased reviews of dating advice for Men.
Also check Pick Up Lines Central for collections of best and funniest pick up lines.
Ten Dating Tips For Men
1. Smell Good
Being clean is a huge plus when you show up for a first date. Take some time to take a shower, shave, brush your teeth and make sure you smell good. A woman will judge you on how clean you are the same as you will judge her on how she looks.
2. Be on Time
Being late to a date is one of the most disrespectful things you can do, especially on a first date. Don't keep her waiting. It's a bad first impression and she may not even wait for you.
3. Bring a Gift
Take what you know about your date already and get her a gift that she will like. Flowers are good, but she will appreciate something more creative. If you know what her hobbies or interests are, parlay that into a gift. She'll be impressed at your cleverness and the fact that you remembered what she likes.
4. Practice Chivalry
Make a great first impression by opening the doors for her and paying for the entire evening. Hang up her coat if she has one and pull her chair out for her. Chivalry is a forgotten are and she will enjoy being treated like a lady.
5. Bring the Compliments
Before asking her how she is, tell her how beautiful she looks. Pepper some more comments throughout the night, but no more than three or four more. More than that and you will seem insincere and needy.
6. Keep the Conversation Going
Lulls in conversation can be awkward on a first date. If you know some things she is interested in, do some research about those topics so you can ask her questions about them.
7. Listen
Be genuinely interested in what she has to say and show it. Make eye contact when she is talking and ask questions about what she said. This will show that you are listening and you are interested in what she says.
8. Use Your Gut Instinct
Everybody dreads the "goodnight kiss" part of a first date. You never know if you will offend her by trying to get a kiss or if you will offend her by not trying. Pay attention to her body language and your gut feeling and go with that when making your decision.
9. Call Her
If you are interested in a second date, let her know and tell her you will call her or set up another date right there. However, do not say you will call her if you do not intend to. That is rude and unacceptable.
10. Avoid Dirty Talk
Men have a tendency to talk about bedroom stuff before it's time. Do not ask her any personal questions during the first date or else she may think you are only after one thing.
By Jeff Lundquist
If you are looking to start dating, http://www.Readytodate.com is a free online dating website that has helped singles find dates since 2002
Being clean is a huge plus when you show up for a first date. Take some time to take a shower, shave, brush your teeth and make sure you smell good. A woman will judge you on how clean you are the same as you will judge her on how she looks.
2. Be on Time
Being late to a date is one of the most disrespectful things you can do, especially on a first date. Don't keep her waiting. It's a bad first impression and she may not even wait for you.
3. Bring a Gift
Take what you know about your date already and get her a gift that she will like. Flowers are good, but she will appreciate something more creative. If you know what her hobbies or interests are, parlay that into a gift. She'll be impressed at your cleverness and the fact that you remembered what she likes.
4. Practice Chivalry
Make a great first impression by opening the doors for her and paying for the entire evening. Hang up her coat if she has one and pull her chair out for her. Chivalry is a forgotten are and she will enjoy being treated like a lady.
5. Bring the Compliments
Before asking her how she is, tell her how beautiful she looks. Pepper some more comments throughout the night, but no more than three or four more. More than that and you will seem insincere and needy.
6. Keep the Conversation Going
Lulls in conversation can be awkward on a first date. If you know some things she is interested in, do some research about those topics so you can ask her questions about them.
7. Listen
Be genuinely interested in what she has to say and show it. Make eye contact when she is talking and ask questions about what she said. This will show that you are listening and you are interested in what she says.
8. Use Your Gut Instinct
Everybody dreads the "goodnight kiss" part of a first date. You never know if you will offend her by trying to get a kiss or if you will offend her by not trying. Pay attention to her body language and your gut feeling and go with that when making your decision.
9. Call Her
If you are interested in a second date, let her know and tell her you will call her or set up another date right there. However, do not say you will call her if you do not intend to. That is rude and unacceptable.
10. Avoid Dirty Talk
Men have a tendency to talk about bedroom stuff before it's time. Do not ask her any personal questions during the first date or else she may think you are only after one thing.
By Jeff Lundquist
If you are looking to start dating, http://www.Readytodate.com is a free online dating website that has helped singles find dates since 2002
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