Counseling For Engaged Couples

Marriage is more than a long term relationship. And counseling for engaged couples is one of the places you first learn that. As long as you take responsibility for the effectiveness of the counseling, you may never find yourself ending this long term relationship called marriage. You can make pre-marital counseling more than something you check off your to do list, turning it into a rite of passage that helps you enter your new adult world of being married. And if this is your second or third time around the wedding vows, you can use pre-marital counseling to make this one last a lifetime!

In this day and age where so many couples have been together for years prior to the wedding day, here are some reasons to take counseling for engaged couples as seriously as you would if you had already been married for years and were going through a significant life change. People do not only seek out counselors with the words, "I need help with my relationship!" Some seek out counseling when a new baby comes along, when a significant family member is sick or dies, and when a new job is about to completely redefine the family. Whether the counseling comes free from a religious authority or is paid for, we seek assistance from those who have experience with life changes when we find ourselves there.

Getting married is a huge life change, no matter how long you have known and loved each other! So grab this opportunity to take responsibility for your relationship as the adults you are and turn it into a rite of passage that prepares you for crossing the threshold of marriage.

Marriage changes people and it changes relationships. Some of it is pragmatic; such as, you are now someone's son-in-law or daughter-in-law. Whatever they thought of you before, you are now family. Marriage has changed your status in the family and only death or divorce can change it. Your in-laws attitude cannot change your status!

There is also something mystical about marriage that creates an energetic change between the two of you. Some of that has to do with expectations that accompany marriage. When he was your boyfriend and then fiancé, he loved how you dressed! Now, suddenly, he's making requests for a little more modesty from you. And you find yourself resenting any single girlfriend who wants to borrow your husband's handyman skills around her house. This legal, spiritual bond is a living thing that permeates your lives and grows for the rest of your lives.

So when you accept counseling as an engaged couple in preparation for marriage with an open mind and heart and the willingness to learn something about yourselves from it, you take a stand that your intention to marry means something very significant. You are taking yourselves seriously as individuals and as a couple and it adds to the foundation of your "couple-hood."

In premarital counseling they will ask you to explore your thoughts and feelings about finances, how many children you want to have, how your relationships with your future in-laws are, etc. Each of those topics requires more attention than we can give here. In the meantime, let's finish this article with some helpful hints about how to keep that honeymoon glow alive between you as the years go by.

There are many ways to say, "I love you." For instance, giving thought to how he or she would like it done and taking action to make it so every once in awhile says, "I love you," pretty loudly! For instance, if she likes a clean kitchen, you just don't care, and usually this is no big deal because she cleans up after herself as she cooks; those rare times you take over the kitchen, clean up after yourself. It's an awesome way to show her you love her.

If he likes an early bed time and you're a night owl, instead of establishing a habit of going to bed hours apart, get ready for bed and climb into it at the same time anyway. You can read as he sleeps or get up after he's fallen asleep. Showing him you love him by respecting his desire is brilliant!

Little things go a long way in a marriage and there are millions of little ways to say, "I love you." With the internet at your fingertips there are really no excuses. Did you know there are sites that will create a message in a bottle as a unique way to send a love greeting? In fact, there are a number of sites solely dedicated to creating love greetings! If you want to tuck a love note in her briefcase or in his suitcase and have run out of clever things to say, you can visit one of these sites and they will help you say it in a way that truly impresses!
Whenever you are on a beach, write I love you in the sand. If as a couple you don't have "your song," it is never too late to find it. Whenever you watch a movie whose love theme mirrors your own, acknowledge it with a squeeze of the hand or an arm over the shoulder.

Opportunities to say, "I love you," cross your path each and every day. With little effort you can learn to spot them and take action.

Counseling for engaged couples may not sound exciting. But it is just the beginning of the two of you taking yourselves as a couple and your love seriously. You are worth the effort.

Joseph Malinak, owner of Creating Ideal Relationships, LLC, and co-author of "Getting Back to Love: When the Pushing and Pulling Threaten to Tear You Apart," is a relationship compatibility expert. Making use of his credentials as both a Jyotish Astrologer and Magi Counselor of The Cards of Your Destiny, he is uniquely gifted in helping people confront compatibility issues. The nature of his work allows an individual to receive help and advice with or without their partner's active involvement. Visit for more information on how you can benefit from a compatibility consultation.

Meddling Inlaws

Marriage. A new life together, Just the two of us?
Well so we thought. Too often the meddling in-laws start sticking their nose in or one of the spouses runs home to Mummy and Daddy at the first hint of trouble in the marriage.
Why do you think there are so many In-law jokes, actually there is no relationship that has more jokes attributed to it. These jokes can defiantly be funny, but in reality an in-law to close with no set boundaries is no joke at all and is the cause of all sorts of marriage problems.
When we enter into marriage we have expectations on the various roles each of us will play eg: finances, children, around the home. These sometimes take a bit of ironing out as we go but with good communication a good partnership is formed. Teamwork.
However, In-laws that are too close either emotionally or geographically can impose or push the boundaries too far on their amount of input regarding decisions to be made by the couple. Will they both work, have children, how many. These are emotional decisions so interfering can cause conflict.
We will all experience this so we need to learn to deal with it together not go running to Mummy or a Husband that disappears to the parents couch after an argument.
A parent will mostly naturally side with their child so should not be a mediator in a dispute as it is hard to remain objective. Sometimes conflict is healthy for a husband and wife as it teaches to be able to resolve situations by working through it together.
A child is where it really can become a problem if not addressed from the beginning. The innocent Grandparent is one of the great examples, especially because is generally good natured. The little "Oh don't discipline him he didn't mean to do it. It is well intentioned but completely undermines the parent's authority especially in front of the child. An in-law can interfere even more if you choose to bring up your child under a whole different set of rules and standards than your upbringing.
We have all had to learn how to deal with meddling in-laws. Communication about touchy subjects like this can be a challenge. Communication is just one of the many marriage subjects taught by Rob & Tess Davis of MarriageMap.
Dean Nicholl

Is the "Silent Treatment" a Case of Emotional Abuse?

The silent treatment, also known as the "cold shoulder treatment," consists of feigned apathy, total silence, and being distant on purpose. One person displays an attitude of complete disinterest for the spouse, as if the other person would be a complete stranger.

This form of emotional abuse can be very disorienting. Being ignored on purpose by your husband, your most intimate ally, crumbles your whole being. The experience can leave you thinking that you have been reduced to the level of a ghost, if your presence is systematically ignored and turned irrelevant.

Typically, the abuser does this as a form of non-physical punishment, with the purpose of showing his anger by making you feel less worthy, not valued, unimportant, and not cared about. Is a very strong negative message delivered in a way that doesn't leave external traces: there are no signal of physical abuse.

Between the lines, what your abuser is trying to do is to manipulate you in the area of your self image by making you feel reduced to nothing he can show interest on. If he is not seeing you, or your qualities, who are you? not more than a shadow! Here is a female voice:

"The thing that drives me the most crazy is when he has had his cooling off time, he comes out to me and he is STILL angry and silent. He stares straight ahead at the TV with this filthy look on his face and pretends I am not even there. Like I'm invisible.

"I really don't know what to do, or say. If I say "can we talk about this?" he will roll his eyes or tell me to shut up. He reconnects when and how he wants...while I wait in despair. I have truly lost hope. I don't know how much more I can take. When things are good between us life is incredible, but he has this Jekyll and Hyde thing going on... and I always feel like it is my fault, because I don't know how and why his cold shoulder towards me starts. What did I do to anger him so much as to be so cruel?"

In this kind of situation you will not notice you are in an emotionally abusive relationship because there is no physical contact or harm; only the feeling of being abandoned by him and his attention.

Emotional abusers are far worse than physical abusers. You can feel more pain and sadness as the person you love banish you from his existence without closure and without a chance of knowing what went wrong (if anything) and the possibility of reconciliation.

Generally, silent treatment repeats over and over again. Silent treatment is a method of stabbing you without killing you. It murders your soul and mind for something you have supposedly done, that you don't know about, making learning impossible.

Why does the abuser uses this weapon of control over you? He does the "cold shoulder" to avoid an uncomfortable situation, having to clarify issues with you in your relationship and issues within himself. Probably is difficult for him to connect with you and express what is bothering him; or he knows that his grievance against you is completely irrational and based on his own childhood perceptions, and not in the here and now with you.

Whatever the cause, it is difficult to truly understand why the victims allows this behavior to continue. In fact, it usually happens abruptly at first, and it looks like the husband is only silent because something is worrying him. Or is he deeply considering some issues that he will later share with you and find solutions for? The silent treatment may last for hours and even for weeks. Her initial confusion cannot be sustained for a long time because this cold shoulder can continue for weeks and ends up being a comfortable situation for him.

Relieved of the need to explain, find solutions, negotiate with the wife and be honest with himself, the husband has found a shortcut that allows him to continue in a relationship without facing its real challenges. He will prefer the shortcut of punishing his partner regularly without owning his own shortcomings, so he can keep his own self image protected without reality checks.

In this delusion, most often abusers do not realize that they are abusing someone they think they love; they keep thinking that there is a lot of time for explanations in the future...

For her, there is nothing much worse than the feeling of being invisible especially if the person she loves makes her feel that she doesn't exist. Sadly, your abuser will only gain power by her submission and her begging him to stop the cold treatment.

Generally, silent treatment leaves a lot of damage and scars. Though the cold treatment can be finished, the inflicted damage can still lead to frustration and confusion due to unresolved rejection issues.

The issues are typically unresolved due to her fear that she will ignite verbal abuse or he could start another cycle of silent treatment if she voices her hurts. If this damage is not addressed immediately or if he won't put a stop on his systematic rejection of her, it will deepen to include suicidal ideation, anxiety, depression, eating disorders or drug and alcohol dependency.

Keep in mind that our purpose for being in a relationship is to feel that we are not alone and that we have someone to love and someone loves us back. If he makes her feel unimportant and there is no meaning in the relationship, then he is sabotaging the core of the same relationship he needs.

In this painful bind, she will have to consider how much can she survive without receiving much expected loving and supportive feedback from the same person she has chosen to be her permanent admirer. At the point where his controlling and manipulative behavior leaves her lonely and frustrated, there is the need for a decision about what kind of future is possible for this relationship.

Perhaps at this point in the evolution of this controlling marriage, she will need external help, as therapy, family or friends can give, to restore her self -esteem and be able to face life without emotional abuse.

By Louis Clichot

If there is any indication of control over one partner by the other using emotional abuse, then the whole future of the relationship is at stake. There is no relationship that can survive the destruction of the other's self-esteem as a means to maintain power and control.

You can learn more about how to survive this and other extreme forms of emotional abuse, reading "Healing from Emotional Abuse".

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Forgiving a Cheater is Possible

When a husband or wife discovers that their spouse has cheated on them, they have two choices: they can end the marriage or they can try to forgive their spouse and rebuild their relationship in an effort to save the marriage. Forgiving a cheater is an often difficult decision, that takes a valiant effort on the part of both the person who was cheated on and the person who cheated. Forgiving someone who you love who has hurt you in this way may well require more effort than anything you have ever done before.
The forgiveness process will take time and there will be lots of sadness, anger and confusion to wade through. It's important to know that forgiveness does not mean you are condoning the actions of your spouse. It also does not mean that you will forget what has happened. What forgiveness does mean is that you want to move past the cheating and toward the future. The only way your marriage can recover from this damaging event is through the act of forgiveness. If instead of trying to forgive, you hold onto the angry feelings, there is no way your relationship can be restored.
You also need to remember that while you are offering the forgiveness to your spouse, forgiveness is really more important for you. A person who is unwilling or unable to forgive will literally become filled with the anger and bitterness that is created by holding onto the hurt you feel. Refusing to forgive won't change what has happened and will ultimately hurt you more than you have already been hurt.
Many people struggle with forgiving a cheater because of things they hear others say. Well meaning friends and family may ask "how can you forgive" or "I couldn't forgive" or "you are being a pushover by forgiving". Trust me when I tell you that while these people do mean well, they don't know what you are going through. It takes a lot more strength of character to forgive and try to salvage the marriage than it does to hold onto the anger or walk away and file for a divorce.
As was previously mentioned, forgiving your spouse for cheating takes time and effort, but couples who put in the time and effort will find that their relationship will be stronger in the end. Many times some type of professional help is needed to help both spouses work through the aftermath of an affair.
By Dena Tilson

10 Questions To Ask Your OB-Gyn When You Are Trying To Conceive

When you and your partner make the decision that you are ready to start your family it can be a very exciting time in your life. First of all, you get to use baby-making as an excuse to rekindle some romance that may have slipped away with the daily routines of your lives. Second, the anticipation of a little one running around, while a bit scary, is invigorating. Finally, you're ready to join the mommy club.
You and your partner try month after month with no success. You're not worried yet because it has only been a few months. More than six months pass and you still are not pregnant. You start to become a little flustered. What do you do now? If you are under the age of 35, most doctors will tell you to try another six months before you consider alternative methods. Instead of just "trying" for twelve months, which can seem like forever when you want to conceive, I recommend talking with your doctor about some inexpensive initial fertility testing to rule out common problems, such as ovulation irregularities. However, if you are over age 35, then my advice is to talk with your doctor about fertility treatment options and the possibility of a referral to a Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE).
If you are new to the topic of infertility, you are probably not sure what to ask your doctor or where to look for resources or information. Below are ten important questions to ask your Ob/Gyn:
1. Do they take a reproductive history to determine if you have any infertility risks such as endometriosis, fibroids, recurrent miscarriages, etc.?
2. If your doctor hasn't done preliminary fertility blood testing, ask for a full-range of tests to determine if you have any infertility risks. It is important to be aware that some of these tests must be done at certain times in your menstrual cycle. Ask your doctor to explain why she is doing the tests when she is, so that you can be certain that your doctor is performing the test at the appropriate time.
3. Do they perform a semen analysis on your husband/boyfriend/partner? For example, if your spouse has sperm issues there would be no reason for your Ob/Gyn to prescribe Clomid (a common drug to stimulate ovulation). The goal is to minimize the drugs to which your body is exposed, the expense, and the emotional ups and downs you may experience.
4. What advice does your doctor offer for life style changes? For example, dietary changes can help increase your fertility as can regular exercise. However, sometimes even diet and exercise are not enough to resolve your medical issues.
5. What medications do they recommend or procedures do they offer for your condition(s)?
6. How much experience does he/she have with helping patients overcome their fertility issues? This is an extremely important question, as you do not want to stay with an Ob/Gyn who "dabbles" in fertility treatments because it could cost you time as well as money.
7. Who within their office can help you understand your health insurance benefits so that you can maximize your coverage for the fertility testing and treatments?
8. If they suggest Clomid, how many cycles will they recommend before considering additional testing or more advanced medications or treatments?
9. If they offer artificial insemination, known as intra-uterine insemination (IUI), do they monitor the number of follicles you produce via ultrasound before the insemination procedure takes place? Monitoring the number of follicles will alert them/you of the risk of twins or a high-order (three or more babies) multiple pregnancy.
10. Which REs do they recommend if advanced procedures are required?
There are four main organizations dedicated to helping the infertile community gather information as well as provide support either through articles, chat groups, or peer-lead support groups. RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association was founded in 1974 and advocates for the community in many ways, including mandated insurance coverage initiatives (see RESOLVE's website for information on the Family Building Act of 2007). INCIID, the InterNational Council on Infertility Information Dissemination, Inc., was founded in 1995 to provide infertility information and support. INCIID hosts discussion forums on its website. The American Fertility Association was founded in 1999 and offers easy to read informational and educational content on their website. Finally, Fertility LifeLines is a new educational resource for the community and offers discount coupons for certain medications.
Two of the most effective methods for surviving your fertility journey are to gather information and ask questions. For most of you, your Ob/Gyn will be your first step in the information gathering process. I urge you not to waste the opportunity to both gain as much knowledge as possible from your Ob/Gyn and to know when it is time to move on and seek the assistant of a fertility specialist.
Kelly Damron is the mother of twin girls conceived via IVF. She lives in Phoenix, AZ with her husband, Dave, and their daughters. She is an active volunteer with the March of Dimes and RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association. She wrote Tiny Toes: A Couple's Journey Through Infertility, Prematurity, and Depression 


Dating Mistakes to Avoid - Why Your Girlfriend Left You and How You Can Win Her Back

Has this ever happened to you?
You believe you've found the girl of your dreams. She's beautiful, intelligent and you both gel together remarkably well. You've introduced her to your family and friends and they like her. She's introduced you to her family and friends and they like you too.
Simply put, she's the ONE.
You treat her like a pure diamond rock found in the mountains of Sierra Leone. It's apparent to everyone that you really care for her.
Then all of a sudden things begin to change.
She no longer seems excited to go out on dates with you. While you used to have rich and fun hour long conversations with her in the past, you now struggle to keep her attention for 5 minutes. Then it finally happens. She calls you up and says she doesn't love you and she's started seeing someone else.
What happened, you ask. I thought she was meant to be the one.
Many guys have been in the same boat as you and have asked the same question. The answer to your dilemma lies in the fact that you flushed out the "attraction Juice" from your relationship. When a woman is no longer attracted to you, it can spell the end of a once vibrant relationship.
Are you making any of these 4 mistakes that could potentially cause your girlfriend to find another?
1. Regularly Declaring your Love
A woman wants a man and not a kid who cannot stand to be separated from his puppy dog. Declaring your love over and over again will cheapen the very thing you're trying to express to her.
2. Calling her too often
While you might have great intentions, this will come across as you being too needy and wanting her attention. Just remember that absence does make the heart grow fonder so easy with the phone calls.
3. Making her the Boss
What do you think when you see guys who answer to their woman's every beck and call? Wimps, right? Of course! Now a woman wants a strong man who is confident and able to stand his ground. If you cannot stand your ground against her, then what should make her think you'll be able to stand your ground against anyone or anything?
4. Being Over-sensitive
The main reason she went out with you was not for your sensitivity. Women are looking for a rock and once she detects you've turned into a rose flower, she'll begin to resent you. This is not to say you cannot express yourself emotionally but when this becomes the rule instead of the exception, then you're on the road to a break up.
Being a good guy is not enough to keep your girl. You have to learn how to maintain the attraction juice in your relationship to ensure the spark in your relationship never dies.


How to Build Trust in a New Relationship

Building trust in a new relationship is like building a fortress one block at a time. It may become deep and impenetrable or it may become sloppy with tiny holes. It all depends on how much effort you put into it and how solid you make the foundation.

You of course want a solid foundation with no holes because it can be hard to fill those holes in later. Those holes, or suspicious moments, hang around in the back of people minds and get referred to when another 'hole' appears. The more holes you have the less stable your relationship is and the harder it becomes to make it solid.

Here are a few things to remember when building your fortress of trust.

Be the real you at all times - If you are acting a certain way trying to please your partner you have to know that one day you will feel comfortable enough to be your real self. When that day comes your partner will wonder where the other real you, who was really the fake you, went. This is not just a hole but a huge missing block.

New relationships should be about learning what each other's likes and dislikes are and how compatible you really are together. You need to be honest and truthful at all times about who you are, even if you think it may hurt your relationship. Chances are it won't and if it does then it is better sooner than later.

Remember that actions speak louder than words - You may say that you like their favourite restaurant but if you sigh and make faces the whole time you are there then your actions are showing otherwise. No matter how much you say you like it you will not be convincing if your actions do not show it.

This leaves the other person to guess at what you 'really' think about the restaurant and, worse, it leaves it to their imagination.

Always keep your actions in line with your words to avoid trust issues that get propelled by imagination.

Communicate about everything - Proper and effective communication is the single biggest thing you can do to build trust in your relationship. If you are open and honest about everything then why would your partner have any reason to distrust you?

Plus sharing your thoughts, beliefs, and feelings with someone creates a tighter and tighter bond the more you do it. The tighter bond you have equals the more trust you have.

New Relationships take some work but you can build a solid and amazing relationship if you put the effort into it.

Bellaisa is an advocate for happy and stable relationships with yourself and with others and she has put together a site that has tips, articles, and resources for every stage of relationships called The Relationship Circle.


When to Give Your Girlfriend a Promise Ring

When you are in love, you may say and do things that later you might regret. You may tell a special someone you love them; meanwhile, there is someone else you have recently met you feel you just can't live without. So how do you know when is the right time to commit to a woman? The simple answer is when you have that gut feeling, little voice, or realize this is someone you would regret ever letting go. However, for the man who has already realized that his girlfriend is "the one," but isn't quite ready for marriage, there is always the promise ring.
One. Think about her style.
When choosing a promise ring, keep in mind the kind of jewelry you typically see her wear. Does she like big, showy items such as large hoop earrings, large stones in her rings, and big face watches? If so, then you want a very interesting ring with various cuts and most of all sparkles. However, if she is the conservative type but has a favorite color, then get her something that isn't too flashy with a stone that represents her favorite color. Avoid getting birthstones since you are trying to make a personal statement about your commitment to the relationship. Save purchasing birthstone jewelry for her birthday.
Two. Plan what you are going to say at the time you give her the ring.
This is crucial! Let's say you don't plan anything to say and just give her a box, she will be thinking, "Oh my God, he is proposing!" You don't want to do that! Rather, talk to her about how you would like to give her something to show your love, appreciation and commitment to the relationship and as the relationship matures maybe one day you would be willing to take it a step further. Choose your words wisely otherwise you will lead her into believing something that isn't true to what you are feeling.
Three. Write down a note reinforcing your feelings and what the ring means to you.
This is also important, because sometimes when a person is excited, he or she isn't paying much attention to what someone is saying. So the note will be something to reiterated what you told her prior to her opening that special little box. It is also a nice keepsake for her.
Four. Consider when you will give her the ring.
Since this is only a promise ring, do not invite family and friends to observe the event. A promise ring can be given between the two of you while sitting in a car, walking around at a park, after things have cooled down from an argument, or placed at a special location for her to find it along with your note.
Five. Avoid the temptation to treat the ring like a marriage proposal.
If you aren't too careful and make a big deal surrounding the ring, then it will make her feel like your presentation is more of a marriage proposal than just a simple declaration of love and commitment.
When you are ready to take things to the next level such as presenting her with an engagement ring, go all out!

Article written by Nicholl McGuire

Why Your Dream Girl is Now Your Worst Nightmare

When you both started going out things were great! Of course, they were, she never said a single word to hurt you and you never did anything to make her feel bad -- you were both still getting to know one another! But one day or many days of fighting changed all that! At first you said nothing and excused her emotions as her just having a bad day, but her mood swings became more frequent. Meanwhile, she accuses you of changing too. "You just aren't that great guy anymore either. What happened?" she says. You are thinking, "How did this beautiful woman go from saying 'Please, thank you, I can't live without you'" to "I hate you! I wish I never met you! Just get me what I ask for!"

You will need to start brainstorming if you haven't received a clear answer from her on what you could be doing to drive her crazy. She may have already told you, but she was talking so fast, crying, screaming and doing other things that you simply forgot what you were supposed to be doing. If you really want to save the relationship, you will do what you can to restore peace on your end, but if you don't, why bother reading anymore?

She caught you in a lie.

This offense is more popular then you realize whether the lie was small or big whether you caught her in a lie a time or two, the point is she could still be holding an old lie or two over your head. If you ask any woman who has been dating on and off, she will most likely tell you that she caught her former lover in a lie. He said he loved her, but there was another woman. He said he would be staying late at work, but he hung out with the guys without telling her. He said he would be going to the store to pick up some groceries, but he really went elsewhere (like the porno shop.) There are many stories that both sexes tell, but since this article is about what possibly drove her crazy about you, we will stick to what's relevant. Women don't take too kindly to liars, so think about the lies you know she caught you in then think about the lies you think she doesn't know about. She may have a lot of pent up anger she doesn't know what to do with yet, so it may come out at its worst nearing her menstrual cycle and then trail off once its over. Sometimes unresolved anger just comes out when you have hit her trigger point (or last nerve.) Avoid talking to her when you think she is being unreasonable. Try again when things are better with her physically and she has been acting a tadbit nicer to you.

You didn't meet her expectations.

You may have told her how much you make per year, bragged about living in a great neighborhood, and presented yourself as having it altogether. However, now that the relationship has gotten older, she has found out you are really broke, busted and disgusted, your neighborhood is full of weirdos, and your idea of a great time is staying at home watching a movie on most weekends. No offense, but a penniless couch potato living in an insane neighborhood will drive anyone mad!

You thought you got rid of all the evidence of your exs.

She may have stumbled across something in the top drawer towards the back, up underneath the socks in a small box inside another compartment get my point. Your partner may be giving you a different look these days. She may be bringing up what seems to be odd ball statements mixed with a little craziness. You have a choice: go through all your old mementos and throw away photos, erase exs' phone numbers out your cell phone, destroy videos and anything else that could possibly be casting a negative light on your relationship or keep your stuff and get rid of her! But whatever you do, until you take care of the offensive evidence, she will keep on acting strange.

She discovered your not that great in bed.

Now let's face it, some men just love to talk about what they can do in bed, how great they can do it, where they like to do it, and on and on. Yet, the reality is some don't know how to move their hips, their private member may be shorter than what their new lady friend is use to, and suggested sexual positions do nothing more than give her gas. If this is her problem, it's only a matter of time that she will just blurt out something about your wiener, your tongue or both after you called her a few choice names. The best thing to do is interview, interview and interview some more when it comes to finding out what satisfies her.

You didn't meet family and/or friend requirements.

All women talk to someone in their immediate family or a friend about their relationship. Chances are if you feel uncomfortable around her family, you have every right to be, because there is more to their negative mannerisms than meets the eye. You may have talked about your relationship issues with her until you are blue in the face and she may have told you a million times she is sorry, but her family, they would prefer to put your head on a platter and serve it to the pet or better yet convince her how bad you are complete with a plan of escape for her.

Now all of these things may not apply to many of you, but to the few men who are trying to get to the root of his woman's craziness, this just might help. Do what you can to communicate, even if all your doing is a bunch of yelling. At some point someone will have to shut up and listen. Once you have spoken to her about the issues that make her crazy about you (both good and bad,) try to adjust your behavior even if she isn't so quick in changing her evil ways. If she sees you are making an attempt to better the relationship, she just may follow your lead. But if she doesn't, well you know what to do, compromise or get out before she drives you crazy enough to do something you may regret for the rest of your life!

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