6 Reasons Why She Will Leave You So You Best Be Prepared

Your woman has come to you over and over again with all sorts of issues from how to put things back to whether or not you love her and over, over, and over again you have given her explanations and tried to listen to her. You know she loves you, but maybe you don’t know whether you love her. There are reasons why women leave their men or cheat on them.

One. She doesn’t think you are her friend.

You say that you consider her not only as a lover but a friend too, but do you really? When serious issues in life have come up, have you included her or did you run to your family, friends or an ex for support? Friends care about one another. They include them in on the significant things that happen to them in their lives.

When she upsets you, do you talk to her one-on-one or do you talk to everyone else but her? She has dealt with her share of backstabbing friends in the past, so the last thing she expected was her man going behind her back and bad mouthing her too.

She is a beautiful, intelligent, talented woman and everything she touches turns to gold. However, you secretly are jealous of her. You may think you should be doing more in your life, so rather than celebrate her achievements while working on yours, you are jealousy. You make her feel bad when something good happens to her, because you can’t seem to control your mouth. How many times do you think she is going to sit by and continue to let you down her, which brings us to the next point?

Two. She feels like you don’t care about her or what she does.

Most likely, she has expressed her feelings to you and those around her who love her. What are you doing that says, “You don’t care about her?” When she was ill, did you bring her a cup of soup and a kiss? Did you ask her if there was anything you could do, when her relative died? Did you offer to drive her some place when she couldn’t drive? Did you sit and talk with her when she was angry about something? When she stayed out all day and night, did you even act a little bit interested in what she was doing? When the children were crying and she felt her back was up against the wall, did you step up to the plate? If you can’t remember when you did something that impacted her so much that she could remember it on her deathbed then don’t wonder why she feels like you don’t care.

Three. When you hurt her feelings, you don’t bother to acknowledge her feelings and apologize.

Everyone gets angry from time to time, some more than others, but how we deal with the situation afterward is just as impactful as what was said during the argument. You may have yelled at her, name-called, put her down, pushed her or even broke a few items around the house, but did you sincerely apologize for your actions? Some people will apologize by only picking a few things they feel comfortable about saying their sorry for and then hoping it will be forgotten about the next day. Apologizing doesn’t just come from the mouth or a gift; it comes from a commitment of never doing it again and living up to it! Apologizing also comes from: the anger management courses you promised you would take, the therapist you would visit, the prescription medicine you said you know you need to take, the sacrifices you make for the betterment of the relationship and your family, and most of all it comes from the heart!

Four. You act as if you aren’t committed to her.

Driving around in an automobile without your partner and children, making people think you are single. Dining often alone to the point that none of the restaurant staff think you are married or in a relationship. Accepting lunch invitations from women without your wedding band displayed. These are just some of the examples that men do that make their partners feel like they are in a relationship all alone.

Company invitations, family events, and other opportunities come and go and you never bother to bring your mate along. Is there any wonder why she would feel the way she does?

Five. You both have very separate, distant lives.

She has her plans and you have yours. The only things you two share are a house and a bed. You see nothing wrong with it, because maybe you enjoy the space, but she has seen that this has been a problem for her for years, but didn’t want to nag you about it. Now she feels so distant from you that she doesn’t even know you and would rather be with someone else which brings us to the next point.

Six. You don’t allow her to get to know you like you once did. You are a stranger in her eyes.

You may have communicated to her in the past about your likes, dislikes, associations, interests, childhood memories, and daily activities, but now things are different not because you purposely wanted it to be that way, but just because you both have changed. She may have attempted to get to know you by clearing her schedule to go out on dates, send you phone messages, thinking of you cards and gifts, and do other nice things that say, “Let me into your world.” But you barely noticed or didn’t seem to care. Now you are so distant from her mind and heart that she can’t see a life with you anymore.

By Nicholl McGuire

7 Ways to Make Your Spouse or Girlfriend Think Twice About Leaving

The writing is on the wall in your home, you have recently found out that your spouse or girlfriend is thinking about leaving you. She may have quite boldly told you by giving you an ultimatum or secretly told her best friend and you overheard. However, you found out, now is not the time to let her walk out the door if you are not ready to open it. The following our seven actions you can take as soon as today to star building a new foundation for your relationship. It’s time you start getting into the mind of a woman! Hopefully, you won’t be doing too little too late!

One. Become her friend.

How do you do that? You start by sharing some details of your life you haven’t shared before. If you remember, people become fast friends because they have things in common and because they confide in one another about personal experiences. Give her something about yourself that you never shared before that is interesting without lying or exaggerating.

Stop doing everything that is harming your friendship with her such as: ridding yourself of negative influences and habits and changing the way you communicate with her. Remind yourself why you are making the effort to change, because you sincerely want to be with her. If this is going to be too difficult for you and you have no desire to work on the relationship, then let her walk.

Two. Do something different.

You may want to take the time now to start a new hobby. You see when she sees that you have other things going on in your life that she isn’t familiar, she can’t help but take notice. Let’s say you have been telling her for years you want to lose weight, then suddenly she starts seeing you eating differently, buying gym equipment or joining a gym, her attention will begin to focus back on you again and not so much on herself. Make her feel secure by making her feel that you are taking her advice or doing this for not only yourself but for her and the children if you have any. You want to live longer and you understand the significance of what it means to live healthy. Make the things that interest you more real to you, by researching them and motivating yourself to not only talk but walk the walk. The same action can be taken with religion, creating artwork, writing, music, job searching, etc. Do what it takes to not only show your partner you are changing, but that you sincerely want her to be there for you as you embark on this new journey in your life.

Three. Make her feel like you do care about her and what she does.

When she tells you about the things that are going on in her life, are you acting interested? Are you stepping up to the plate? When she needs financial help, are you able to help her or does she have to run to family and friends? These are just some of the things that drive women mad when men seem to only care about them when they are having sex; then afterward they get up, wash off, and on to the next conquest. Treat her as you would like to be treated. Take the time out of your day and ask one simple question, “What do you need me to do?”

Showing care can be challenging when you are dealing with someone who isn’t use to being loved or appreciated. They may look at your nice behavior as something to be suspicious of and wonder what you are expecting in return. Put them at ease, be straightforward in your approach. This means put your heart on the line even if you have never done it before. She may ask, “Why are you suddenly being so nice? Why are you acting as if you care about me now?” You will have to prepare yourself to answer her question. Do you really want her in your life or are you just trying to by time until you get on your feet if you rely on her? Are you sincerely acknowledging her needs or are you doing it because there is something in it for you that has nothing to do with being in a relationship with her? Question your motives before you open up yourself to her.

Four. Acknowledge her feelings after a disagreement and apologize.

There is still hope that the two of you can make the relationship work if you have the courage to reach out and acknowledge her feelings about past issues. You may need to rehash what happened ten years ago to get resolve today. You may have to say you are sorry a thousand times in a thousand different ways to make her feel that she can trust you again. You are going to disagree with the events of the past, but when you disagree and things get heated, try doing something you may have never done before say, “I apologize. Let me try saying this again. Forgive me, I didn’t mean to yell.” We live in a world where we want to see immediate results, start putting yours to action the day you sepak with her about the problems in the relationship.

Five. Be committed to her.

One of the major reasons why some good relationships end badly is because there is this tug and pull over commitment issues. You tell her she is your wife, woman, or girlfriend and so she expects to be treated that way. She wants to be a part of the decision making, she expects to be introduced to the family and friends, she thinks she is entitled to know who you communicate with outside of her, and if you fight her on these issues; rather than embrace her on them, then you are causing unnecessary stress for her and yourself. What’s wrong with telling someone, “Let me talk with my wife about that before I give you my answer?” When you decide that your partner is “the one,” then you need to let her into your world and most of all show her off to the world so that everyone is on the same page. Men who have ulterior motives will not let the world know that they are committed to someone. If you consider yourself a good man, then embrace your good woman.

Six. Find a way to build your lives together and close the gap of distance.

No one living under the same roof should have to feel nervous, afraid, or angry, but many people are living this way. They are holding grudges from the past, refusing to seek help for mental issues, and just living in conditions that aren’t fit for an animal let alone a human. If it’s too much material wealth or too little, do something to change your situation. If it’s too many unresolved issues of the past, find a way to resolve them. Distance comes when people refuse to problem solve. How many times is she going to keep telling you that she doesn’t like when you…? You fill in the blank. Now how many times are you going to keep doing XYZ? People grow weary of explaining themselves and waiting for the other to make some needed changes. If you can go on the Internet and search for a news story or the latest bargain in a store, you can put your problem in a search engine and read articles on how to solve it.

Seven. Allow her to get to know you.

Lastly, utilize opportunities to the fullest to share dreams, goals, and aspirations. Talk about the efforts you are currently making to get things done. Participate in the game of show and tell, what that means is bring something home related to your idea and talk about it, find something on the Internet and show her, use the television as a way to bring up subjects to talk about, and turn on the radio and tell her how a song makes you feel. Although these are little attempts at opening up your life to her, they do matter.

Now that you have seven things that can help you slow the process of her walking out the door, make a point to find seven more that you can put into action today. Timing is of the essence. If she leaves now, it may be the wrong time for the both of you and you may both regret it later. When you know in your heart that you love someone and that nothing in the relationship is so bad that it can’t be fixed, then you still have strong feelings for her and you better be willing to do what it takes to get her to focus back on you.

When a man allows a woman to have so much time on her hands that she has created a world that primarily consists of herself and you are no longer included, then expect her to eventually fall way from you and into the arms of another man (or woman) who knows how to give her the balance she needs. Whatever she desired from you that she told you about and she wasn’t getting, remember another man will fulfill her requests happily.

By Nicholl McGuire

Make Him Fall in Love - True Friends Make the Best Lovers

Doesn't it seem at times as though women all over the world are trying to find ways to make men fall in love with them? Are you one of these women? Have you been searching for the secret to make that man promise his undying love and devotion to you? There are some things you can do to move things along; continue reading to learn some ideas that can help you make a man fall in love.

The only place to begin if an enduring, loving relationship is what you are seeking is to connect with your man on an emotional level. You have to get through to his feelings if you want to get through to his heart. The secret is to bond deeply and honestly with your guy so that he will never have any doubts about your concern and support for him. Help him understand that you are his best friend, and you will always be there for him if he needs someone to talk to or someone to depend on during those difficult times that we all experience.

Next, win his admiration for being the special woman that you are. This goes much deeper than the way he already admires your appearance; this encompasses the love and pride he feels as he views your intelligence, your fun personality, and your compassion for others. These are the things that make you the special person that you are and will make that man fall in love with you.

The final suggestion is to wait for a while before becoming sexually intimate with your guy. The emotional connection that you must make often takes a back seat to sex if sex happens too soon, and this will hurt your relationship. Sex is thrilling and it is a wonderful part of any relationship; however, it cannot be strong enough on its own to provide the foundation for a lasting relationship.

These suggestions will help you achieve a deep, enduring connection with the right guy and are the secrets to making a guy fall in love. You can win any man that you desire if you put these thoughts to good use.

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

Men Wake Up! A Good Woman is Man's Best Friend

Yes dogs are loyal. They will stick by you to the very end. They will still love you even when you forget to feed them, stay away too long, yell at them, and so on. But dogs can't give you what you need when your spirit is reaching out for someone to complete you. Let's be real, dogs aren't a man's best friend, but a wise woman is. Notice the key word here is "wise." A foolish woman is a man's downfall. We see that all the time in the media. A political, entertainment, or sports figure decides to go out with a woman who has strategically placed herself at the right place at the right time to obtain one's material wealth. After attempting to destroy the man's reputation, she may find temporary fame and fortune (many women don't) and then when the lights are off she is by herself name-dropping to some friends.

Men overlook wise women all the time for the ditz. The reasons are endless from beauty to status, but whatever the reason, a wise woman will come out on top every time. For purposes of this writing, let's define wise as "having or showing wisdom, good sense, or good judgment, sensible, aware of what is going on, informed," according to the Webster's New Ideal Dictionary. So to be with a wise woman is essential for a young man striving to become a better man and an older man looking to make the remaining years of his life something special.

So why is it that men in the beginning of a relationship want the wise woman, but later on find her unattractive, boring, not what they had in mind, different, strange etc.? Could it be that the man overlooked beauty over brains? Maybe he still wanted to party and travel as a single man? Or he simply couldn't handle the challenge of thinking deeply, acting honestly, and being sensible? Not every man is ready for adult conversation and responsibilities. Some men as they grow older become weary of being the focused professional, able to handle challenges in a single bound. The superman title gets old for some. Just like women at certain times in their life just want to let their hair down and have a good time, there are men who want to do the same. But what's wrong with having it all with a wise woman who can be a help mate in fulfilling your dreams and aspirations?

I have personally talked with men over the years who are confused as to what it truly means to have a serious relationship with someone. Their take on a good relationship is similar to that of a high school crush. They expect to be in love forever--holding hands, kissing, and playing under the covers. However, they don't anticipate the stormy days when they aren't the likeable, funny guy that their mate fell in love with in the beginning. These clueless men's feelings become easily wounded when she objects to a silly joke, wants some space, or finds fault with them about something. They have associated a bad day or bad mood with a "throw the baby out with the bath water" type of relationship drama. Before you know it, they are holding grudges and looking for the next woman who they can feel those butterflies with. Yes, there are women who act the same way, but this article is not about them, it's about men who need to understand the importance of having a relationship with a wise woman and not a foolish one.

The men that I have talked to unfortunately didn't have a mother or a father around them who taught them what type of woman they needed that could be an asset to their lives. Instead, they were told to get involved with certain women for shallow reasons such as "she is pretty, she is older, and she has money..." But what they weren't told was that the woman who can complete them is the one who will be a beacon to their lives. Like a lighthouse, she will show you the way in a storm. When you have lost your job, succumbed to illness, witnessed a relative die, or fell into a depression, she will pick you up and usher you were you need to be in life.

So what are the character traits of a wise woman? She is kind, considerate, and respected by family and friends. She is a planner, organizer, and detailed oriented. She is an independent thinker and no longer needs her mother, father and other relatives to guide her life. She has stopped saying, "Well my mother said...grandma told me...daddy reminded me..." She has a faith and is spiritually gifted. She may possess any one or all of the spiritual gifts as defined in the Christian Bible. For those who do not understand her, she is looked upon as a know-it-all type. Wise women who have allowed compliments to go to their heads are not looked upon with favor by those closest to them, because they are not disciplined enough to know how to communicate with others in a loving manner. However, in the public, they are admired. These women also tend to be bossy, arrogant, and sometimes unforgiving. They use their intellect to cast revenge and anger on others purposely. "God told me to tell you...You are stupid...You are a fool...that's why you are going to hell!" These are the kind of things that wise women will say that make them look no better than a fool! They can be too wise in their own eyes at times and turn people completely off. "You should do this...why don't you say that...do this because I said so..." She is always talking, but never listening. Yet, a wise woman who is in control of her emotions, humble, and loves others is a person who can be cherished. She is saying, "I am here for you, if you need me."

A wise woman watches your back. She sees trouble coming from all angles even from your own family and friends. She may have never interacted or seen some of them, yet she knows that this person(s) is a potential problem or may threaten the household in some way. When your mother or other family members are being controlling and want to make you do what they want you to do when they want it, a wise woman will remind you about your current responsibilities and advise you to take a stand. For those of you who are married, you should already know this, and if you don't then here's your wake up call. A wise woman will tell you about that gut feeling she has about certain women at your workplace and although you maintain your innocence it doesn't mean that you won't slip up, so watch what you say and do. Wise women will also warn you when things in the house aren't working, the car needs a tune up, and the children are misbehaving. She isn't telling you these things to aggravate you, but she wants you as the man of the house to do your part. She knows she can't do everything and she doesn't want to take over unless pushed. And being pushed is never a good thing for anyone. You can defile your wise woman at home and turn her into a bossy nag who will make you wish you never laid eyes on her! However, if everyone does their part the household will run efficiently.

A wise woman will create a schedule on how the household should best operate. She will manage dates and times so that everyone knows what is ahead. She isn't trying to control your free time, but she wants to be sure of the following: there is time for the two of you, time for the children and time for the extended family and friends. She knows that if she doesn't make some time for all parties particularly the in-laws, she will be blamed and looked at by your family as someone who is keeping you away from everyone while henpecking you for her own benefit. She knows how people think and she wants to be sure that you and the family is always looked upon with favor.

Wise women are very good at saving money. She isn't interested in spending every dollar in the house for herself; rather, she knows that bills need to be paid, groceries, toiletries, and other household goods are needed. It makes sense to her to buy in bulk and save; rather than buy in singles and pay double. She is the master at seeing what the future holds. She knows that an emergency savings will be necessary, an education fund will need to be set up, holidays are coming, and so much more. So she spends hours researching, heads to the store with sales papers and coupons in tote looking for the best deals.

A gift that most wise women have is one of instinct also known as women's intuition. She may have tapped into it in the above examples when she came to you with a series of warnings and questions. Some of these wise women have dreams, visions, and unexplained feelings. They just know when something is wrong or when it is right. She may tell you suddenly to do something that you would have rather put off or stay away from something or someone, if you listen to her and do what she says at that time, you may benefit. She also knows when she is being lied to or betrayed, but she won't always say, because if she is one of faith, she knows that God will deal with you or those around her accordingly. It is better to avoid lying to a wise woman at all costs. The consequences aren't ever worth the price of putting your relationship with her at risk.

So before you do the following: write that smart woman off who may be interested in you, end your current relationship, or think the grass is greener on the other side, consider this, wise women are rare nowadays. There aren't many who come from stable homes with a mom, dad and siblings. There are few who aren't materialistic and even fewer who grew up amongst prayer warriors. If you are one of those men who have fallen out of love with your wise woman, then work real hard to fall back in love with her. Take some time out and remind yourself about the good ole days and do something special for her and yourself. A wise woman is a keeper.

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Things You Should Do to Get a Woman

Let's face it, it isn't easy getting the woman you want, there is alot of work involved; and then even after the fresh haircut, new wardrobe and some extra cash, things still don't work --it can only mean one thing, back to the drawing board!

If you are willing to invest in your look, then you are willing to invest in the education of "How To" get a girl and we aren't talking about freebie tips from the Internet. Visit www.improverelations1.blogspot.com It is at this link you will find some books written by experts skilled in solving relationship issues. Proven strategies that work. So put on your thinking cap and click today!

But if you still would like a few freebie tips to get you started finding the woman that is right for you, then do the following, if you haven't already:

1. Revaluate you appearance and body. Oftentimes men are in search of women without a care about their extra belly fat or smelly breath. Ask a close relative or friend what is it about you that would turn a woman off. You may already know the answer to that one, so do something about it!

2. Find an interest or hobby that will make you stand out in the crowd. Women know about men's love of sports and lazy weekends in front of the television and if you do this, then you need an upgrade. There is more to a man besides his penis and money. Smart women know this and will not settle with you for long if you have nothing more to offer besides who is the best basketball player and which baseballplayer has the most homeruns in history- big deal!?

3. Stop involving yourself with so many affairs. The women friends, the guy friends and everything else in between. Some of you are so interesting and outgoing to the point that you don't know when to settle down. A woman would like a man who knows how to balance his time. There is the day out with the guys, but there are no days out with the girlfriends, so if you think that once a woman has sex with you she will continue to be fine with that, think again. The best advice you should take is keep women friends at a distance and if you must be involved with the woman friend make the time to introduce her to your new significant which leads to point four.

4. Don't keep secrets. Whatever you did in the past and you know it won't resurface then keep that to yourself. But if you have, a stalker, outstanding credit card debt, you shop at the local discount store and you have parking tickets, then be honest. Don't be flamboyant with your money when you know you don't have any or hide behing a bush when your stalker is in the neighborhood!

5. You have a history of physical abuse and/or verbal abuse. If you never sought counseling the last thing you need to do is get a girl. Do you really think that when times get rough in the relationship that she will not yell at you, possibly throw something and you won't be tempted to hit her? The reality is you will hit her, so don't test yourself, get the help you need before you start dating again.

6. Don't get your family involved in everything you do in trying to find your girl. If you get them involved in everything early on, they won't suddenly stop asking you questions and wanting for the two of you to make it to every family event. Be private about some of the things you desire in a relationship. Avoid calling everyone so often during the week that you find yourself trying to think of something to say.

7. Keep your desires to have a baby and a wife to yourself. Not all women are going out with a guy looking for a husband and a baby. Nowadays more and more women are putting off the wedding gown for a business suit. They aren't interested in being a homemaker as much as their mothers were and so if you feel a woman should be thinking that way, staying home and being a parent to your children, you may want to strongly consider whether you want an American woman. There are some women who think this way, but a vast majority aren't as interested at least not early on the relationship. So ask questions, but don't be so quick to speak about your views.

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