Dating Witchcraft Women, Seemingly Very Caring Women

Does Laid Back Really Mean a Future Lazy Partner?

When a date described himself as “laid back,” I should have known what he really meant was “lazy.”  We usually think of a person being laid back as someone who is not reactionary, chill, or cool.  However, what we don’t think about is if a person is too “cool,” they also don’t want to follow any rules too!  If a person is “laid back” or “chill,” they also don’t feel as if they have to cook, clean, organize, or take care of other responsibilities too!

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Be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it!  Mr. or Ms. Laid Back is nice to be when conversing or visiting new places, but you don’t want “laid back” when you have a list of tasks that need to be completed within a set limit of time.  You don’t need “laid back” when you are in a rush.  Mr. or Ms. Laid Back wants to do most things on his or her terms and who cares about what others’ think? 

When you hear a date sound like he is bragging about how laid back he or she is, ask questions and be observant.  “So what do you mean when you say you are laid back?  Do you mind giving me some examples of when you acted laid back?”  Don’t interrupt or share your personal opinion about laid back people, just sit back and listen.  You just might find out early on that your date may not be compatible with you.  Most hard workers do not describe themselves as laid back.  People who are passionate about their hobbies, jobs, children, and more don’t usually describe themselves as laid back.  Therefore, listen for clues that your date isn’t hard working, passionate about people and things that you might be or appears to care less about most things.

For many “laid back” types, they really enjoy an environment that is free of demands, schedules, and excitement.  They enjoy more times in front of screens rather than out on an adventure.  They prefer text over phone.  They like things more than people especially if they require much from them. 

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate, Laboring to Love Myself and other books.

9 Signs a Date is Uncompassionate, Cold-Hearted

Cold and uncaring, when a date like this walks into a room, you feel something strange.  Initially you can’t explain it and may even brush it off, but the energy isn’t good.  This negative vibe you feel is coming from a cold-bloodied person.  They don’t always look like a Stephen King thriller with a hollow look in their eyes; sometimes they appear engaged, kind, and intelligent.  However, these people when angry are downright unfriendly, unprofessional, and unintelligent!  So before you find yourself planning a future with a psychopath or narcissist, know the signs he or she sooner or later will care less about you!

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1)  They just seem far too interested in you at first.  They make you feel like they are too good too be true.

2)  They tell white lies and hope you will overlook.

3)  They don’t seem to respond to your stories genuinely.  It seems like they are forcing emotion especially when what you are sharing is upsetting.

4)  You feel like they are acting or pretending like they care to help you when you call upon them.  Yet, when they are working with you, they aren’t doing much or doing a lot but complaining.

5)  When you first started dating the person didn’t hesitate to find out how you are feeling or how was your day, but in time, that all changes.  The date doesn’t bother to ask anymore, “How do you feel, How are you, How was work, or Do you need anything?”

6)  When others experience a loss, your date doesn’t have much to say.  Once again, he or she appears to be concerned by faking emotion.  

7)  When your date forgets to return a friend’s item, damages or loses someone else’s belongings, he or she doesn’t bother to take responsibility without repeatedly being asked about it.

8)  He or she doesn’t care to discuss your feelings, you are considered emotional or like all the rest.

9)  When approached about one’s nonchalant behaviors, the date feels justified in behaving that way and doesn’t see why their unresponsive demeanor is a problem for you.  

When dating a person lacking empathy expect the following:  they will not care too much about what you are saying unless you create distance, they will not bother to resolve matters without you being firm with him or her about them, and they will not appreciate your honest feedback about what they said or did or will look for ways to make you feel miserable.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Too Much, Too Soon Internet Dating Blues and other books.