Dating Advice, Relationship Problems

Are you sure?

When it comes to the things that matter in his life, you notice he is talking to everyone but you.   When exactly you noticed his behavior doesn’t matter, he could have suddenly acted this way or he could have gradually became distant.   All you know is that he is different and you need some help analyzing why, so that you can put your plan B into motion, that is if you have one.   So review the signs that follow then create a plan for yourself and/ or relationship that will bring you love and peace. In the beginning of the relationship he was “all smiles” with you.   He shared stories of his daily events, how you made him feel, and future plans of how he hoped to spend life with you.   Nowadays he isn’t saying much more than a “hello” and a “goodbye.”   Here’s what may have happened.  Use this list of possibilities to start a conversation with your boyfriend. He doesn’t feel comfortable talking to you.   There may have been moments where he said or did something that upset you i

You might have made up in your mind this is the last relationship, last date, last friends with benefits arrangement, last marriage, or cheating you will do with someone.  But what happens when you are officially done with this connection?  What might replace the void left behind? Sometimes people end up going back to unfulfilling connections once they are so-called over, because they never bothered to consider what might bring peace to them long after the thrill has gone with someone.  It isn't too soon to start thinking about the break up , your new life, and what the future holds for you.  When you are truly ready to make something your last, you either will stick with him or her or let that person go altogether.  Your mind is only going to get along or go along with someone before it screams one day, "Now why are we in this?  Don't I deserve better?"  "Better" doesn't come from another  human being it comes from within.  If I want "better&q

Whether he or she is Caucasian, African American, Mexican, Chinese, Korean, Filipino, or something in between you need to be understanding of one’s culture and be prepared for how society will treat you both. When one is in love there are no color issues.   He or she only sees a person who is kind, considerate, loving, sweet, beautiful, and everything he or she has wanted and more.   They couple might fantasize about getting married one day and having children.   It’s easy to feel this way behind closed doors, sitting in a car with steamy windows, or living in a neighborhood where people don’t think twice about an interracial couple.   However, what happens when you make your pledge of love to your significant in front of God, family and country?   Not everyone will be celebrating your new relationship .   Some will smile in your face and talk about you and your mate behind your back.   To this statement, most couples will say, “So what?”   Family and friends’ reactions to your

If you didn't intend to give him an excuse to go out and cheat , he just might use the following to do it.  Not every man is guilty of cheating, but give them a reason and who knows what might happen? One.   Telling him, “Go to her…Find someone else I don’t need you anyway!” when you don’t really mean it.   Some men whether they have someone else they are seeing will take you up on this statement.   When you are arguing , try to refrain from telling him this if you still want to be with him. Two.   Making false accusations without proof.   So you found a number you don’t recognize somewhere in his belongings, big deal!   It means nothing if you don’t call it and someone on the other end of the phone says, “Yes, I did sleep with Jim.”   The real proof is the kind that no matter what he says or does he can’t wiggle out of any of it when confronted. Three.   Refusing to forgive him for the past.   You told him that you forgave him, yet you still bring up what he did to you

The news shocked the nerves of yet another couple. “You are pregnant ,” the nurse announced. The couple had talked about the possibility of having a child one day, just not so soon after meeting each other less than a year ago. They both were in agreement about not having an abortion, but quietly they wished that the news had been untrue at least for now. Once the couple got over the shock, they told only a select few about the pregnancy. They weren’t in a rush to reveal the baby news to all of their critical family and friends. They thought of their religious grandparents "You're not even married," their vain parents, “I’m too young to be a grandparent!” and their “too busy to care” friends, "That's nice, when are you coming over for drinks."  Further, they knew no one on either side of their intermediate family who would be celebrating yet another birth, since their siblings had already filled the first grandchildren vacancies. Therefore, with all th

"I know you are excited. You really want to meet this guy but you might want to slow down. Listen, you don't even know this girl! What's up with you, stop moving so fast?" family members and friend warn over and over again. Sometimes those admonitions grow old, because the truth is some loved ones are just meddlesome and have their share of personal hang-ups especially about Internet dating, but others are really concerned for your safety. If you or they have a history of dating violent women or men or lost a loved one due to domestic violence, it is understandable why they are protective of you. Unchecked emotions will move you to do much for a potential date even when you don't know one's middle or nickname, a birth city or a mother's maiden name. So let us look at some of those Internet issues that most singles don't think about before thoughts of sleeping with a stranger come into play. 1. Distance 2. Work hours 3. Job related

Whether you are dating this person, kin to him or her, or been with a partner for many years, it can be emotionally challenging dealing with someone who refuses to see the truth about a relative, partner, friend, or themselves.  The person you like/love goes on about his or her way ignoring what you have said or acting meanly toward you because he or she didn't take too well to your feedback. What is the truth?  You probably shared the kind of statements that convicted a partner or friend mentally, physically or spiritually and he or she doesn't like you too much because of it.  Truth brings you to an awakening, a realization that someone who you once worshiped, admired, respected, and more has something about him or her that is twisted, emotionally toxic, or physically controlling.  People who are in like or love with someone never want to see the light.  So what does it take to make a person see truth and walk in it?  Sometimes it takes distancing one's self from th

Are you noticing some things about your relationship that is just plain bad, not normal, or unhealthy?  Listen up.  You might be on your way toward a new life without even knowing it.  When warning signs increase, doing for the other starts to decrease.

I didn't want to tell you this, but I think I will, you have got to get over yourself.   Why would I say such a thing, I don't know you.  But what I do know is you are on this site, a relationship blog, hmm.  I suspect you probably either had a past dating experience or a current relationship with someone that isn't or wasn't so nice.  You might carry a bit of unforgiveness, hidden aggression, and a wish that the one you are with just might experience a taste of what he or she has put you through.  If I'm wrong, forgive me, but if I'm right...yeah, I know the feeling.  I have been there.  But negativity, especially in relationships, simply makes you more negative.  If you really want a relationship to work, you have got to rise above some things like forget about the yelling the other day, the partner forgetting to do something for you, and the past thing he or she did that you still hold against him or her.  Remember, you made a connection with an imperfec