Dating Advice, Relationship Problems

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Pointless Promises - When the Liar Makes You Think... : You don't have to be choked, slammed into a wall, or beaten until you are black and blue to be in an abusive relationship.  There are m...

Sometimes we professionals are so busy with our online activities that we simply forget to say, "Thank you!" to those who appreciate our work.  It has been a long road personally and professionally and on some days, the road appears to get even longer!  Looking for love, maintaining existing relationships, or starting new ones isn't easy.  As my grandmother once told me, "You have to take the bitter with the sweet."  So true.  As much as we would like to be the perfect fit for someone and vice versa, the truth of the matter is we are flawed human beings who will not always live and look our best now. It is my hope that those of you who come across this blog will be encouraged, know your truth, and always believe in love.  There is nothing greater than to experience sincere, unmerited love! Stay blessed, Nicholl YouTube channel: nmenterprise7 Nicholl McGuire Media

So many women fall into the "open and honest" trap that some manipulative men use to get them to share secrets, future plans, and more.  Meanwhile, they are not nearly as transparent as their lovers/friends/partners.  Some things will never be said because a man, with a plan, is not the least bit interested in spilling his guts. What would make some women feel like they needed to tell so much about themselves to someone from the start of a relationship?  For some ladies, they have such a strong desire to connect with dates while hopefully knocking out the possible competition.  They believe the more they share with their dates, the closer they are to them.  Others are naturally open and honest and think that because they are that way, the men they meet will be the same. The open door policy, secret spilling, and confessions work great when you know the individual you are with has learned many painful lessons in life and no longer want to lie, cover up, or k...

Some people visit Christian dating websites and are not active believers. They might have a reverence for the faith, but are not studying the word of God or living their lives accordingly. This can be quite frustrating for those who sincerely take God at his word and hope to connect with a like-minded believer. If one is serious about a committed relationship with someone, he or she must be equally focused on his or her personal relationship with Christ. During the dating phase with a believer, there will be spiritual tests that won’t be anything like the worldly dater is used to. He or she will find at times that it is much harder to date a believer than an unbeliever. This is because Christian singles pray much, may attend fellowship services, and follow the precepts in the Holy Bible. If one is not reading the word of God, then he or she has no clue what to expect when dating a Christian. It is always best to bypass dating someone who is a Christian if you are unwi...

For years, a companion might talk of marriage, but when it comes down to actually doing it, they are put off by the idea. Visions of a wedding don’t go over too well with some people. They know the significance of marriage vows. They worry over not being able to stay true to them. They are also concerned about things like: not being a good parent, not being able to take care of family due to a shortage of finances, divorce, death, and other issues. With so much on their minds when it comes to marriage, those with commitment phobias talk themselves out of getting married. Marriage is such a touchy subject for some, that they break out in sweats, argue, break up, disregard the topic, or become silent. They reason that being in a relationship without getting married is good enough. In addition, these fearful individuals will convince any partner willing to go along with their plan to stay without the contract. Yet, if the intimate partner should desire marriage, the worried...

So a date is not the type of person you had in mind?  Yet, you give a date the chance to prove his or herself. Even with some quality time spent getting to know the individual, you don’t see a future with this date. But you have a weakness for people with problems, and this date has more than a few. Money issues, problems with relatives, no family in town, or personal struggles, you believe that if you stick around and help a date with his or her life challenges maybe you might love this person one day. The damsel in distress or the desperate man has softened your heart with “I love you” or “I want to be with you.” You feel connected to this person. But love is not what is happening here, it is pity and lust between you two. One is dependent on the other. The one doing the most in the relationship is acting like the rescuer. In time, if there is no love shared between the two the relationship becomes dysfunctional. The savior becomes controlling while the needy ...

Seeking a soul mate in the hopes that this person is going to bring light to your life, but having trouble finding him or her? Do you desire someone who is going to uplift you spiritually, emotionally and physically? If so, there is no one that will ever be a perfect fit, but at least for a time you just might land someone whose spirit might stand out among the rest. What makes some dates a bit unique, special or very kind is their personal faith in someone or something bigger than their selves. Those who believe in a supernatural power recognize this fact; this is why they look to a heavenly Creator. This “God” that many speak of, who heals, loves, punishes, excites, and more, is welcomed into the believer’s personal as well as professional relationship. Couples in agreement about personal beliefs are happy with their God’s interference in their intimate relationship. Seek God In order for one to have a relationship with God, he or she must pray, believe, and t...

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Women: Are you accepting the truth that he is givi... : As women, we have a bad habit of denying the truth that sits right in front of our eyes! When we aren't ready to accept what someone has...

The conversation is going well.  Feelings are warm and before long comments about still liking or loving you begin to surface.  For some of you, you don't know what to do when an ex does this.  Others grow cold and rush to end the conversation.  Then there are others who welcome to the chat and are struggling with all sorts of emotions.  You really didn't want to hear how an ex feels, and you think, "If he loved me so much he would have never..."  So what do you do?  Some things to think about when talking to exes who miss or still love you. 1.  Always best not to respond.   You say something it might come out wrong especially if you are in a relationship with someone else.  Keep in mind feels of nostalgia, those good ole day moments, are temporal.  Back to reality, remind yourself, "He is a liar, he cheated...he is boring, a jerk...I couldn't wait to get away from him, so why would I even think about a future with him?" ...