Dating Advice, Relationship Problems

If there was any relationship I must give to my audience on this blog this day, it is the following, read slowly and take heed, because it just might give you a forecast into what the future holds for you and your mate based on what you already know about your relationship.  Enjoy! 1.  Just because you have him/her doesn't mean you really have him/her. It might seem as if the person is yours and only yours, but he or she is not.  The complexity of being a human being is comprised of many parts and you don't own any of them.  The spirit is meant to be shared not controlled.  The best thing you can do for love is let it breathe! 2.  Your independence eventually goes on sabbatical. You may have thought that there is your world, his/her world, and together, but the longer you are in a relationship with someone, the more dependent it becomes.  If your independence means that much to you, remain single.  Otherwise face years of sorrow tryin...

You have made the decision to end a relationship and now the time has come to prepare to move out of the residence that you and your former partner have shared.   Now if you will be moving in with someone else, you want to be sure you are not bringing any of your drama to that person’s home.   If you plan to get your own place, then you will need to be sure that you have enough money to support yourself for the long haul, so that you don’t later find yourself back at home with the ex, not for love, but because you have nowhere else to go. One.   Take the time to begin to take your name off of all joint accounts, bills, insurance, etc. Never leave business unattended to or assume your partner cares enough about you that he or she will handle your matters.   You have broken up with this person and most likely said or did some things that offended him or her, so be sure your name is cleared off of all documentation.   For instance, if the phone and other ...

Since I was thirteen years old, I have been serious about "boys."  The seeds were sown when I was about 11 during the summer of 1986 (could have been a little sooner).  That year I was a soap opera watching fool!  I absorbed the dramas and followed along with several didn't story lines per show.  Back then shows I watched were:  Young and the Restless, Another World, Guiding Light, Days of Our Lives, Bold and the Beautiful, and others that were short-lived.  Then there were the evening dramas Knots Landing, Falcon Crest, and Dallas .  There was always a favorite couple, a troubled sibling, a crazed ex, a power hungry, money driven old fool, and so on.  I learned much from watching TV about making out, what love was and what it wasn't, how men romance women, obsession, break up, adultery, and greed.  I began to take my thoughts about those subjects and compare them to the real world.  It wasn't that different!...

Is your unhappy marriage hurting your kids?

Are you often irritable, moody, and ready to sleep in any room but the one you sleep in with your mate?  It happens.  A date enjoys the company of her mate until he sleeps over.  The sound that comes from his nose and mouth are terrible!  She tries suffocating the annoying sound by placing a pillow over her ears, bumping him in the bed, using headphones, etc.  She suggests every snoring aid known to man and none seem to work.  What is the purpose of such an awful sound coming from what appears to be a gentleman?  What demon lurks within that keeps up noise throughout the night?  He's not a cave man or a devil!  He doesn't need to scare away the lions, tigers, and bears as he sleeps!  What gives!? For many women as the relationship grows older, they get use to their partners' snoring, but when things are relatively new, it takes time.  Talking about the issue will bring awareness, but it won't make change happe...

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Couples not fighting about Facebook sightings together they are under dim lighting. Making promises to be true, pledging to do The Do. But reality will be here tomorrow and someone will experience sorrow. Reflecting on a night, when there was no fight. Told to make good on what was said, words sealed up on top of a bed. Old arguments return, relationship set to burn. A lover loses memory, doesn't recall. Willing to take yet another fall. Nothing is new, there is no, "I love you too." Unforgiveness looms, no jumping a broom. Until one knows what he or she wants to do, there will be no one saying, "I do." Nicholl McGuire

He left his wife.  He broke up with a long time girlfriend.  He bought a fancy car.  He spends his money frivolously.  He appears hot for many women and cold with the one who he claims to love the most (which he only met a few months ago).  He shares sob stories that pull on the heart strings of those who he wants to impress.  He is nice in public, but rude privately.  He doesn't take much interest in his children's lives unless they make him look good in some way. You may have met him or you just might one day.  Someone in your circle may have warned you that this person is not worth dating long-term and "he is too old for you!"  The mature man may have shared what his issues are with different individuals closest to him while closing his eyes and ears to their wisdom.  If you should enter his life, you are a fountain of youth for a time, but how long you stay, well you might want to be watchful and ...

So many enter into relationships hoping to sell the new person on the "new and improved Me" that they end up lying about who they sincerely are, exaggerate their skills, or leave out details about one's past.  What's worse is comitted couples will put down exs in such a way as to make their current partners look better.  Meanwhile, the lies and exaggerations of one's lover clouds vision, even common sense.  Throw sex in the mix, and the niave mate doesn't see beyond whatever picture a spouse/partner is painting.  Some will use manipulative techniques when they think they might be losing some ground with the new person.  Therefore, putting down an ex is one of many ways to distract a partner from the truth.  Others will do this because they secretly still love, respect or admire an ex, but don't want the current person to know it. Many individuals divorce husbands and wives or break up...

Sometimes dating single moms just isn't wise for one who has no children.  A person who is unwilling to make compromises, help with children, share money, time, etc. should avoid dating a woman with children.  Dating single mothers is something that works well with others who may have children.  Now there are those exceptions when a single man or woman has a high tolerance for a date with children.  One should always test his or her to see if this person is really right for not only self, but family too.  It is obvious that the young man speaking in this video, bit off more than he could chew.  Motherhood isn't always a nice experience, and sometimes a frustrated mom will lash out on a man who she may not respect, because, in her eyes, he has child-like ways.  She seeks a provider, not another person she might have to help apart from her children.  Remember, children come with the package, so if you can't handle it, move on.

While many choose to focus on whether interests are compatible, there is also something else you might want to consider as you discover more about your date, are you compatible chemically?  Sometimes are bodies just sense that something just isn't right with a potential mate, heed the warning.