Funny How Time Flies: A Tale of A Sour Relationship

Crinkle in the middle of your forehead like an accordion.
Dragging your feet, a sound like someone sweeping the floor.
As you carry your half-broken heart from yesteryear's loves.
Head turned to the left as you pass me by
Careful not to look my way.
Hoping I can't see what you are thinking.

You don't like me.
But if you closely look into my glaring eyes,
you would see I don't like you.
I am settling, standing on your empty promises.

When I speak, you are annoyed as you take your seat.
It's only a commercial.
"What?" You say.
"Nothing." I retort.

I really don't like you!
That's why I hold my nose as you sigh.
Hoping I don't smell your breath.
It's stale, old just like this relationship.
Please don't exhale, keep that to yourself!
It's not like anything will change!
You will just stink up the atmosphere like you always do
then find a way to blame me.

What happened to the young guy I once knew anyway?
He was full of life.
Freshened up a room with an inviting odor like fresh flowers of bright reds and yellows,
you use to brighten my day.
Then again I misunderstood those happy feelings I once had for you.
I gave you credit you didn't deserve --
that was God, his mercy, his joy, my bad.

But nowadays?
I guess too much sex over the years wilted you.
Didn't have enough manhood to sustain your inner being, huh?
Fall apart at every moan, every rejection, and every lie.

That's right you lie, always hiding your "real" emotions.
Replacing them with incomplete thoughts decorated with past memories.
Oh how I sicken of hearing what we did in the past!

You move like a grandfather, you will be dying soon -- I know it.
There is nothing more you can give to anyone unless you are strangled, and beaten emotionally. Your ex taught you well.
Its too much to give to another without he or she having to ask, you always want to know, "What's in it for me?"

Who are you anyway?
Sometimes I think, "a minion of the devil."
Trying to claim a mystery that you really don't possess.
The only secret you have -- boredom.
You bore easily, because you are boring.
There is nothing more to you.

What great wonder are you?
You abandoned the one who created you - He made you the once interesting, entertaining happy-go-lucky being that people use to talk about.
Without him, you are fruitless, meaningless -- always looking to blame others for your short-comings.

We already seen your movie.
I held my applause.
I'm not offering you a tissue.
Too busy wiping my own nose.
Don't want to see the replay all over again.

Let's break up, okay?
No making up this time.
Won't stay connected to your draining spirit through sex.
That liberating action is now a holy inaction reserved for the one who I couldn't wait for -- that's why I got you.

But I can wait...now! Oh Lord I can wait!!!
Looking at your mean face everyday,
taught me to wait for the one my heart so desires!!!

The wait won't be long. I can feel it!

My bus is coming and this time I won't be answering your call.
My boxes are already packed.

The best feeling of never being in your sorrowful presence again!


Nicholl McGuire is the creator of http://lovepoetrybynicholl.blogspot.com

No Time for Dating When in Love

We have all been guilty of it -- allowing so much time to pass staying indoors lovemaking that we forget how to date outside of the covers. In time, we grow bored with one another and wish that we would have taken it slow. Well if you feel like your relationship is headed in that direction, then do something, anything to keep it fresh especially if you aren't a mother or father yet! Once you both realized your pregnant, things change and don't let anyone tell you any different! Your time is not your own when the newborn shows up!

All the sweet talking about how great a family would be is nice when there is no family to worry over. All the wonderful visions of a daughter with eyes like yours and a son with a grin like his are beautiful, but put that off for as long as you can! Spend a lot of time appreciating, learning, and spending time with one another. If more couples would have taken this kind of advice seriously, they wouldn't be openly or secretly resenting their husband, wife, and/or children. They wouldn't be on the phone gossiping about how he or she "can't stand...hate...dislike...or wish things would have been different..."

If you happened to stumble on this site and you are presently in a new relationship, please heed this advice it will save you both money (buying diapers, formula, health care bills for a baby and more when you are not ready) and feelings of resentment in the long term! When we get involve in relationships that knock us off our feet we fail to plan for the long term and before long short term plans of "we could do this" and "we could do that" go out the window. Don't let it happen to you! If you haven't been to a ski resort in awhile, click on the link below. Do take the time to enjoy one another outside of the sheets!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry and she tweets @nichollmcguire about a variety of things including relationships.

Your First Date - What (and What Not) To Do

Getting a date in this time and age can be a daunting task; lots of people seem to only want a one-night stand nowadays. If you're not one of those people, and are looking to go out with someone special, then there are a few things you can do in order to make your date successful.

First off, make sure you are presentable. Nobody wants to go out with someone who hasn't showered or shaved for days. Take a look at your wardrobe as well. If your clothes scream "hobo at the train station begging for quarters", you might want to steer clear of them and find something else to wear. Although it might seem shallow, first impressions are very important on a first date, so choose your look wisely.

It is usually customary for the man to pick up the woman when going on a date, because it shows that the man is responsible enough to own his own car. A man picking up his date on a bike isn't exactly a bad thing, but it can end up sending the wrong signals to his date. If a girl picks up her date, however, it's often looked down upon. It is more polite for the man to pick up the woman. Also, if your date happens to be running a little late inside their house, apartment, bamboo shack, etc., it's impolite to honk your horn to get them to hurry up. That's just showing that you are impatient. Instead, get out of the car and knock on the door or ring the doorbell. Perhaps someone will let you inside so that you may wait in there instead of the car.

When you've finally gotten your date in the car and are driving to your designated destination, let them pick out what they want to listen to on the radio, or let them pick out a CD from your collection. This is also polite of you to do so. Perhaps your date doesn't like listening to death-metal, and would prefer to listen to country, but you hate country. Just grin and bear it. You'll earn points with them for being so nice.

Now you've finally gotten to the brand-new Italian restaurant that you two agreed to eat at together. It's polite for the man to open the door for his date, but it's not necessary; it can be considered old-fashioned by some. So, you've made it inside. That means you've got to sit down and start talking to each other! Don't panic, it's not as hard as you might think, but there are certain topics of conversation you should steer clear from. For instance, never start talking about people you've dated in the past, even if they were terrible. Keep yourself in the here and now. Also, you shouldn't ask them awkward questions, like if they've slept with anyone before or if they've ever done drugs. It's just impolite. In fact, stay away from any really personal questions for now, because you might learn the answer to them later on, if they choose to date you again. If you're a complete social misfit and put your foot in your mouth every time you open it, let your date do most of the talking. It's not going to kill you.

Ah, your plate of fettuccini alfredo has arrived. Little do you know you've ordered possibly the worst meal you can eat on a date. It's extremely messy, and the last thing you want your date to think is that you have no manners. Make use of the napkin the restaurant provides you with and place it in your lap. Try not to slurp the noodles into your mouth, either; twirling the noodles around your fork and popping them into your mouth is an easy way of eating them without any real fuss.

Whew, so you've finished your desserts and you're ready to take your date home. The man should always show his date to the door, whether or not he plans on getting a good-bye kiss. If your date was not impressed by this little outing, they'll probably just tell you they had a great time, they'll see you later, and that will be that. However, if you're lucky, your date might give you a kiss. This can be anything from a peck on the cheek to a full-mouthed kiss, depending on how the night went, but don't expect your date to let you inside for some coffee just yet. After all, this was just the first date. But if it was a good one, who knows what might happen next time!

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By Carol Baugh

Date How Long Before Getting Engaged?

Dating to engagement should take minimum of one year because the real question is: how long does it takes to develop the type of friendship that leads to long-lasting marriage. That's crucially important because best marriages are based on being best friends and it takes 'time' to develop as best friends.

How long that takes depends upon how well you and your prospective mate have mastered Communication Intimacy. That is communication at its deepest level. That's the goal of marriage-to work together in union as one team. This unity of heart, soul and spirit bonds couples as soul mates.

A soul mate is someone who has the unique ability to bring out the best in us. The chemistry ignited between partners turns their souls on physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. The only way this can be accomplished is by "knowing" each other's inner workings that bond with ours in shared outlook and purpose. Does your prospective partner bring out the best in you?

You've heard it said often, communication is the key to a good relationship. Communication is what it's all about. This communication probes for compatibility assessing how to handle differences, how to manage disagreements.

It scrutinizes likes, dislikes, habits, thinking on politics, religion, health, future parenting, financial matters, career expectations, housework, conflict resolution, vacation time preferences, responsibilities toward parents, anger, jealousy, insecurities, neediness and so forth. This requires effort, maturity and TIME!

If the potential for lifetime love is there, couples begin to talk about their deepest thoughts, feelings, dreams, fears and joy. This is where you discover if both are similarly endowed intellectually. Doesn't necessarily mean education because some very smart people never make it to college, but it means a couple needs to be in the same league intellectually.

Couples need to see things similarly and speak about them in similar ways. It doesn't always matter so much how smart the partners are, but it does matter how close they are intellectually.

Another area of deep concern is that couples need to agree upon the same values--Especially how to handle MONEY. You must be on the same page because money and finances are emotional issues. Often our self-worth is tied to how much or how little money we make. This could erupt into power and control issues.

Individual have different money histories and styles that they bring into the relationship-one may be a BIG spender; the other a penny pincher. If money issues are not clearly laid out on the table, problems will surface later and trust in the relationship can erode.

Couples need to communicate on a monthly basis about their financial status. If there are major problems you need to seek financial counseling BEFORE entering into marriage with each other.

So how long should you date before getting engaged? Depends on how long it takes to get to know each other in the two areas mentioned above. And how long it takes to master 5 other steps in the dating process.

So take your time to develop a deep friendship first, and date at least a year or two before getting engaged for marriage.

By Donna Patterson

Communication is Always the Key to Good Relationships

Learning to communicate is not easy and even people who have been married for decades will sometimes need to enlist the help of a marriage therapist to help them learn how to better communicate with each other. There is no shame in hiring a counselor to help you. After all, communication is always the key to good relationships.
Many people have been taught that the best way to deal with a problem is to simply wait for the problem to go away or to ignore it. Both men and women will admit that they sometimes deal with conflicts by pushing down their emotions instead of confronting them.
While conflict might seem like something best avoided, the truth is that conflict must be dealt with. If conflict is left unresolved, it will simply fester and grow. The key to dealing with conflict, as any trained counselor will tell you, is knowing how to properly communicate with each other to work through a problem. Here are some hints:
1. Use "I" statements. Instead of telling your husband or wife all of the things that they are doing that make you angry or upset, tell your husband or wife how you are feeling. For example, say "I feel taken for granted when the cleaning is left for me," instead of "you never throw away your trash!" The first way tells your partner how you are feeling. The second way blames your partner for your feelings. Nobody likes to be blamed for things.
2. Ask clarifying questions. If your husband or wife says something that you do not understand, ask them to clarify their statements. Instead of saying "that doesn't make any sense at all!" try "I don't understand what you mean by that. Could you give me an example" or say "so are you saying that..." and insert your interpretation of his or her words.
3. Don't automatically assume that you understand exactly what is going on inside your partner's brain. Your marriage therapist will work with you to keep you from telling the other person what they are thinking or feeling "you always think that" or "you always feel" are not good examples of good communication. Instead ask "do you feel" or "do you think that" and allow your partner to answer the question!
4. Open ended questions are vital to good communication. If you ask a question that can be answered in a yes or a no, you give your spouse the opportunity to shut down and shut you out. Asking questions that need real answers will help you get the conversational ball rolling.
A marriage therapist will help you work on non confrontational communication that will help you resolve conflicts faster and in ways that make both of you feel better about the problems that you have been facing.

By Anna Woodward
By seeking the help of a marriage therapist, you can address the various problems and concerns of your marital life and ensure that you find marital bliss soon. 

What to Do When You Have a Cheating Boyfriend or Girlfriend

Whenever you find out that your guy/girl whom you may care about deeply and even love, is cheating on you it can be devastating. You may feel betrayed, inadequate, and left wondering why this happened to you. You will wonder what did you ever do to deserve such maltreatment, and you may become enraged. However, even though this may seem like the end of the world, keep calm and follow these simple steps. If you follow these steps, you will recover, heal and move on in due time.

1. Confront your man/women after you have had time to calm down - Yes, I know this will be incredibly hard to do if you are upset, but when you are emotional and out for blood, you will never get him to answer your questions. Furthermore, it will just make you more upset and it will emotionally drain you. Calm down, let the initial shock wears off, and then confront the cheating boyfriend/girlfriend.
2. Do not blame yourself for his actions - I know how difficult this will be even if you are upset, as women, we tend to wonder what we did, if anything, to cause him to act that way. In this case however, there is no excuse for a boyfriend to cheat on you.
3. Do not rationalize his behavior - The mother instinct in women tends to make them want to find out what is wrong with their man, and fix the problem by any means necessary. However, your boyfriend/girlfriend has just cheated, so there is no reason for you to give him excuses for his poor behavior.
4. Take time for yourself if you need to - Some women do need to take time after finding out a boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating to get back in touch with who they are, and more importantly what they want from a man. If you are clear on your goals and expectations, and do not settle, you will eventually find the right man that is worth your time, love, and dedication.
5. Do not take him/her back no matter how much he begs - This is sometimes hard to do, especially when a boyfriend found cheating apologizes and promises to never do it again. Now, in some cases he really is a changed man, but perhaps more importantly you should look at how you will feel if you take him back. Will you feel like you are settling? Will you feel like you are saying it was okay to do? Think about these things before you look into his sad puppy dog eyes and decide to take him back.
6. Do not mope, get back out there and have some fun - Be social, yes you have just had to deal with a boyfriend cheating, but if you have followed the steps above, you will be ready to move on from the situation and be social in the single life once again. Get your hair done; treat yourself to a new pair of shoes. Do whatever it takes to help you get over that cheating boyfriend as soon as possible!

By Dillon J

Why Do Women Cheat on Their Men? - Here Are 3 Reasons You Should Know!

We usually hear the question why do men cheat on their women, but statistics are showing that women are cheating at a much higher rate than in years past. Is this really so or is the stats just catching up to what has been going on all along? So what are some reasons that may be causing women to cheat on their men?

There is probably no exact reason for why men or women are cheating but in recent surveys several issues were brought up as to why women were cheating.

· Unfulfilled at Home - Just like men, women have certain sexual desires that they expect to be met as well. For the men that are concerned with just getting off, they better beware. While their woman may not be openly expressing her dissatisfaction with him, she may be on the prowl for the Don Juan that can fulfill her every desire.

· To End a Relationship - For certain women, it is hard for them to emotionally break off a relationship so by sleeping with someone else it allows them to emotionally disconnect. Once this is done, they are now able to end their stale relationship.

· To Feel Young Again - As a woman get up there in age, she will sometimes get self conscience about her appearance a and will sometimes seek out an affair with a hot lover to get some kind of validation of her beauty.

As mentioned above, it is usually men that are typecast as a cheater, but as I also mentioned is that women are just as likely to cheat in today's society.

The main thing you should get from this article is that if you don't mind your relationship, someone will. Take the time to do the little things that you did when you first fell in love.

Please keep reading for the complete guide on "Why Do Women Cheat on Their Men?"

Good Luck!

Dean Osborne is a web author with over 10 years experience. If you have any questions or comments, you may email him at dosborne08@aol.com or visit his website at http://www.signs-of-a-cheater.com

Stressful relationships - A Challenge

As we are all social animals, we are bound to have different kinds of relationships with each another. The relationship you share with your parents would be different to the one you share with your spouse and so on. It’s also true to say that these relationships and their importance do change over a period of time. Several reasons can be attributed to this phenomenon. You could individually be going through a personal crisis, professional downslides, and financial worries and so on. All these factors and many others could have played their part in increasing frustration, depression and anxiety levels in you. No wonder then that your relationship goes through ups and downs more often than not. It is up to you to realize this and to sort out the problems.

Although, your opinions, beliefs, judgments, preferences and reactions to other people’s voice are a part of your conditioning, they are all caused by none other than yourself. No doubt, they would be have been triggered by someone else. More often than not, we think that our conditioning is right and that of others is wrong. This attitude often leads to differences in relationships and results in stressful living. Hence it is better to allow others to be what they are and be different from us. This will not only ensure that relationship will be stable but also the emotions would be under check as well. Problems related to relationships are not just confined to homes but also at work places. You need to mature as an individual and act responsibly all the times.

Healthy relationships are those, which remain stable even at rough times. Two or more people involved in a relationship have to realize that there is a thin line separating each one of them. This imaginary line could be related to either individual behavior, interests or opinions. A forceful attempt to cross this line could be dangerous to the relationship. Individuals who fail to realize this line and its importance end up in broken relationships and are left wondering what went wrong. You can still go wrong if you attempt to resurrect the relationship with the help of money. No amount of money can build a relationship. This is what everybody has to realize at one point in time or other.

You might be tempted to ask what can be done to keep tensions arising out of a stressful relationship at bay. Well, there can’t be a single answer to this question. Healing a broken relationship is never easy. However, that should not stop you from trying to resurrect it. You have to first realize that the foundation of a healthy relationship lies in love and understanding. If these two things exist between two individuals, there is no way relationship can go wrong. You will do well to understand that it takes a lot of time to build a strong relationship, however few minutes is all it requires to break it down. You have to love family to realize the importance of a relationship. Healing relationships can be done any time. But the real challenge lies in maintaining a healthy relationship all the time, in spite of all stresses and strains that can accompany it.

Lynn is author of this article on Healing Relationships.