Dating Advice, Relationship Problems

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: The Guilt-ridden, Ashamed Abusive Spouse : For every striking blow, curse word spoken, and silent treatment tactic used, a guilt-ridden and ashamed filled spouse will reap what he or ...

It happens, you end up with a partner that doesn't have too much to say outside of flirting, suggestions to have sex, and intimate talk about the next time you will have sex (sigh).  Doesn't this guy or gal know something more than sex? When you don't have much in common but sex, it can be a challenge to have a quality relationship that goes the distance.  Think of those moments you really hit it off with someone, you did more than talk and have sex didn't you? You fool yourself into thinking that there will be more in the future to discover about this person.  Usually whatever "more" is it just isn't as exciting and fun when your mind is programmed to say and do sexy things most often with this individual. Find other things to think about and test this person on what he or she really wants from you besides sex.  Ask about personal interests outside the bedroom that inspire him or her to live his or her best life now.  Suggest places to see a...

It can be quite stressful dating someone who is stressed about any number of things on any given day. Whether it is family concerns, a money problem, unruly children, or a crazy ex , your date's troubles can rub off on you! No matter what the issue someone else is facing, you don't need to let their problems consume you.  You are empathetic, but you have a life.  You are sorry that they are going through much and offer assistance, but you know you can't afford to lose it too or go broke.  Life goes on, there are highs and lows and hopefully your date will rise above his or her blues, but maybe not. Now if your date is using the time you spend together to vent, allow him or her to do just that, but also provide suggestions that will help your date calm down a bit.  From a favorite drink to a nice massage, think of ways to help him or her relax.  You will discover what type of person you are connecting with by the way he or she responds or doesn't to your eff...

When you began dating your partner whether months or years ago, you didn't anticipate that the future would be like this, he or she would ignore, make excuses to get out of doing things with you, make favorite relatives a priority, and accuse you of acting insecure or jealous.  All you wanted was a relationship with your mate and you didn't expect anything less.  However, these days it feels like you are all alone.  Your feelings don't matter, time spent together is unimportant, and when you so much as you bring up a conversation that sounds the least bit unflattering, you are deemed a trouble-maker by your selfish partner.  As long as you go along with his or her program, you are a "good" girlfriend, "great" boyfriend or spouse.  Well enough is enough! As much as you might not like to sit down and talk about your feelings, state consequences, or be critical about the way your partner is treating you, you will have to keep going to him or her about wha...

Let's face it, our Internet connections are technologically induced as well as the emotions that result. Images are altered to impress. Words are specially selected to persuade us to "choose me," chat and make an appointment to see a potential partner . Dating preferences are sometimes embellished to lure you in and keep you captivated. E-mail, text, and video stories are at times are vague, inaccurate or insulting. The voice on the other end of the phone or via video chat is controlled as well as behaviors. A stranger is careful not to irritate you or send you running. Most likely, these potential dates recall the arguments they had with exes and the barrage of insults they endured that revealed their weaknesses prior to connecting with you. Therefore, they know what to do to hide flaws so that they can attract new mates before the unsuspecting are on to their games. So if you feel a tad bit tricked or cheated when it comes to online dating, you have been. ...

Over and over again a single woman is let down by a date. She swipes, scrolls, and taps looking for her next encounter that will make her forget about her last unsuccessful meeting. But to no avail, he seems to be more problematic than the previous male that caught her eye. A single man finally decides to make arrangements to date again only to find out the dating scene hasn’t changed much. He is often disappointed with what appears to look good on a dating profile but falls flat once seen in person. What is the problem with these two as well as many other hopeful singles? There is no single answer and with every online or offline exchange with a fellow single, you just can’t avoid the things you simply don’t like about people. It goes back to what I mentioned in a previous blog entry some years back, you have to accept the bitter with the sweet, the cons with the pros, if you are determined to make things work with someone. I recall setting my standards both hi...

You are already familiar with most popular dating apps like: Tinder, Bumble, Match, Happn, and others, but there are apps around the world in and out of this country that are growing.   If you wish to try something new, you   might want to take a look at the following. RSVP - Australia ’s largest online dating service with new members every day and couples with success stories. Single.de - German dating website that is free and fast to register.   It may be used via smart phone too. Meetic - French dating mobile app with many available singles.   Check out photos, like, make a connection, view profiles, and more. Appetence - known for being one of the dating apps that encourages singles to “take it slow.”   This slow matchmaking app allows users to decide when to display their profiles to those they may be interested in dating. People are connected when they have similar interests, hobbies, etc. LDS Planet - dating site is ...

Are you sure?

When it comes to the things that matter in his life, you notice he is talking to everyone but you.   When exactly you noticed his behavior doesn’t matter, he could have suddenly acted this way or he could have gradually became distant.   All you know is that he is different and you need some help analyzing why, so that you can put your plan B into motion, that is if you have one.   So review the signs that follow then create a plan for yourself and/ or relationship that will bring you love and peace. In the beginning of the relationship he was “all smiles” with you.   He shared stories of his daily events, how you made him feel, and future plans of how he hoped to spend life with you.   Nowadays he isn’t saying much more than a “hello” and a “goodbye.”   Here’s what may have happened.  Use this list of possibilities to start a conversation with your boyfriend. He doesn’t feel comfortable talking to you.   There may have been moments where he...