Sex That's All You Might Have in Common with a Partner

It happens, you end up with a partner that doesn't have too much to say outside of flirting, suggestions to have sex, and intimate talk about the next time you will have sex (sigh).  Doesn't this guy or gal know something more than sex?

When you don't have much in common but sex, it can be a challenge to have a quality relationship that goes the distance.  Think of those moments you really hit it off with someone, you did more than talk and have sex didn't you?

You fool yourself into thinking that there will be more in the future to discover about this person.  Usually whatever "more" is it just isn't as exciting and fun when your mind is programmed to say and do sexy things most often with this individual.

Find other things to think about and test this person on what he or she really wants from you besides sex.  Ask about personal interests outside the bedroom that inspire him or her to live his or her best life now.  Suggest places to see and recreational things to do together that don't involve heavy petting or sex like visiting an arcade, rock wall climbing, checking out a museum, touring a community, playing a sport, attending a concert, etc. 

You just might be disappointed about what you will learn about the person like he or she really isn't your ideal match for starters especially when he or she repeatedly turns down your suggestions.  It is better to know sooner rather than later that the only thing you two have is sex in common.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Too Much, Too Soon Internet Dating Blues and other books.