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Dating Blues - Why Bother with Dating at this Time?
Over and over again a single woman is let down by a date.
She swipes, scrolls, and taps looking for her next encounter that will make her
forget about her last unsuccessful meeting. But to no avail, he seems to be
more problematic than the previous male that caught her eye.
A single man finally decides to make arrangements to date
again only to find out the dating scene hasn’t changed much. He is often
disappointed with what appears to look good on a dating profile but falls flat
once seen in person.
What is the problem with these two as well as many other
hopeful singles? There is no single answer and with every online or offline
exchange with a fellow single, you just can’t avoid the things you simply don’t
like about people. It goes back to what I mentioned in a previous blog entry
some years back, you have to accept the bitter with the sweet, the cons with
the pros, if you are determined to make things work with someone.
I recall setting my standards both high and low and the
outcome was the same, I still couldn’t connect with guys in the way that I
wanted. When I found more strengths than weaknesses with a couple guys, those
encounters led to marriages. As I learned more about myself and heard others’
dating experiences, I realized that many folks I talked to were either looking
at all that was right or all that was wrong with their partners. You don’t get
anywhere you want to go in a relationship when there is no balance on emotions,
work, money, or anything else. Throw in the “all or nothing” concept when in a
relationship with someone and that doesn’t seem to go over too well either. It
starts to feel more like an ultimatum, a concrete rule that no one can live up
“Now you want me to give you something that I’m not quite
ready to give. Rather than ease into a relationship, you want me to be all
things to you based on a list you conjured up in your mind, right?” says the
one who feels like he or she has been backed up against a wall by a needy single.
If you know that you are just not doing good dating others
on or offline, try giving yourself a long break.Not the kind of break that lasts days, but
how about months or yes, even years. There is nothing wrong with not looking
for someone. It is usually when you are not seeking a partner that a good
friend shows up in your life when you least expect it.
As much as some of you would love to meet Mr. Right or Ms.
Right like right now, you will get out of the connection only what you are
willing to put in and for many singles they are not finding anything more than
sex. In time the sexual encounters lead to burnout and boredom, think about
this, you meet the guy or gal of your dreams and you can’t deliver emotionally
or physically in a way that they deserve. Take the long break and learn more
about you and what you need rather than what you want as well as what
weaknesses you are willing to tolerate in others.
You have every right to question your girlfriend or wife about the ex especially if they have given you good reason. Despite what she says, the following actions are not okay in a relationship, and if you think they are then you are accepting her attempt to brainwash or deceive you into thinking that her negative and disrespectful behavior in the relationship is acceptable! She may tell you things like, “You are just jealous…insecure… you don’t know what you are talking about…it isn’t what you think…” Don’t ignore your gut on this one guys! She still has some unresolved feelings for the ex. Here’s what to look out for:
One. She frequently compares you to her ex.
Some men don’t really pay close attention to what their women are saying particularly when she is talking about the ex. When she brings him up, you should be listening for what she is and isn’t saying. If you are one of those guys who are more concerned about the latest stats on your favorite sports team then what your girlfri…
Have you ever felt like your husband or partner just doesn’t seem to understand what his role in your life is supposed to be? You have explained to him many times how you feel about him and how you want him to be pro-active in your life, but even with the long speeches, the cries, and the anger outbursts, he still proceeds in the relationship as if he doesn’t care about you or the things that matter to you most like your family and friends. Every woman in this situation has a choice and the obvious one is you either put up with his nonchalant, insensitive attitude or you tell him goodbye. Why is it that some men behave in this way? The answer is quite simple they don’t understand women and aren’t interested in learning more about them either. A man who truly respects , admires, and most importantly loves his woman is going to do what it takes to make a relationship work. Sometimes he needs her to guide him to the self-improvement book, drive him to the relationship counselor, or walk h…
So you haven’t been in a relationship that long and you are already being accused of cheating when you know you haven’t. Chances are you are conducting yourself in a way that is making your partner feel insecure. What could you be doing to make him or her feel that way? Here are some tips.
1) Being extremely private. One can understand in the days of identity theft that you want to be extra careful password protecting your accounts, watching where you leave your cell phone, and locking up your private files, but when a situation comes up where you may need your partner’s assistance or need to share information between one another and you act overprotective with him or her about it, you are giving them a reason to suspect you are up to something whether you are or not. Some couples will share a password only temporarily and then as soon as their partner’s back is turned they change their password. This sends a message that “I don’t trust you. I have something to hide” even though you …