Something to think about...Be Nice to Your Mate
Sometimes it is simply better to let your relationship just be. So you had an argument the other day that was so bad that the cops should have been called. Did anyone get physically abused? If not, what you worried about? Well, "he might hurt me in the future" or "she is crazy enough to punch my lights out." Well if it is that serious, well you don't need me to tell you what you should be doing or maybe you should, visit: http:// laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com if this describes you. However, for those of you who just get really loud when you argue and look really crazy, let's talk about the relationship.
If your mate is oftentimes bringing out the best in you, then why not stay? And seriously what do you need to work on in your relationship? How about being nice more often. That's right, simply be nice. You remember that is what a relative may have told you back in the day. "Be nice son...be nice daughter...don't want to hear about you misbehaving!"
Do you have a good support system around you? Do you pray? Are you drug and alcohol free? Then focus on your basic needs and the needs of your family while being nice. All the extra distractions like the TV, the friends, the relatives and other similar things will keep you fussing and irritated, know how to handle all with balance. Set aside time to manage each without letting it come between you and your mate.
But what if he or she just doesn't get you? Well, maybe you might have to do something that says, "I think we need to reach a compromise before I start thinking about packing my bags." Hey, it just might work. You see, sometimes we get so comfortable with people that we don't bother doing our best at home or work. But what a reality check when you start making life inconvenient for the slackers!
Some of you may think that there is someone out there who is better, and most likely there is, but good luck trying to find him or her in a sea of billions of people. There comes a point in any relationship where you just have to make up in your mind that you just want to be with the person you are now with come hell or high water and that divorce is no option.
Once you have reached the point in your relationship where you know there is no breaking up, just working to stay together, you will no longer wonder if that girl at work is "the one" or if that man up the street will make a good dad.
We wouldn't be human if we didn't think about that nice looking guy or gal we passed by on the street. However, we must arrest our emotions and know that someone at home is waiting for us and that our mate is the one that completes us.