Dating Advice, Relationship Problems

 You probably didn't want to hear the truth about your relationship or dating life from your parent, your friend or even your co-worker.  However, it has a way of showing up when you least expect it like on a blog you just happened to stumble upon.  The following entries are those that you probably should read (or listen to), before something happens this year that will make you wish you had listened to everyone!  No coincidences here, thanks for showing up! Someone you are interested in, but you just don't know about dating him or her, hmm... A partner is doing some things that make you feel unloved. Incompatible couples from the start and still things haven't gotten any better.   Getting back out there in the dating world isn't what it used to be. The relationship isn't abusive, but you just aren't convinced you want to continue to be with this person. What your family just didn't teach you about relationships. Arguments happen, don't believe everyone ...

 So here I was looking around the room this past holiday season, my relatives were either busy watching TV, gaming in another room, or eating.  I recalled a book I had checked out earlier sitting on my desk, "You're Pulling My Leg" by Allen Wolf.  "The Ultimate Storytelling Game."   When I first received it, I thought,"I'm going to need this book just in case that awkward silence shows up and we all have nothing more to say."  Well, the time had come, yep, we had little more to say after exchanging pleasantries.  I asked one of my sons, "Would you like to look at a book I have?  I think it might be something you might find interesting." My eldest son is single.  He is tall, tan, lean and handsome, but he works a lot, and as he put it, "I don't have time for dating."  However, he has expressed interest in women.  I wondered what kind of conversation does he have with these ladies he encounters?  So he took a look at Wolf'...

Dating apps are the go-to when singles, divorced daters, and the curious just can't get around like they once did to meet people (you have all things related to Covid 19 to thank for that)!  Meanwhile, loneliness, depression, boredom, anger, sex withdrawal related issues..., you name the challenge, and it's all getting the best of so many singles!   Online dating services are supposed to be an aid, a scratch for that itch--lol.  However, when money, time, and energy are personal problems for the frustrated lover, one will eventually find using a dating app is not the best solution but for now, it is what it is. The reality is there are those online dating services who have a long list of consumer complaints and for others lawsuits.  Some of you probably know all-too-well what some of these dating companies do to lure the gullible, desperate, sad, and lonely to there good-for-nothing dating websites!  From attractive men and women, cool features to communic...

It's tough sometimes trying to maintain a relationship with your significant, listen to the lyrics of this song and be creative!  Dedicated to all the couples that are having challenges right now--keep the love flowing :)  It will get better!

Every time you go out with someone, you feel something is missing.   You try to figure out what it might be, but you can’t.   Your dates have noticed at times you are distant, confused, and negative.   You often point the finger at your dates.   However, have you thought about what you might be doing or saying that is making your dates not want to ask you out on another date? It can be hard to believe that your dates are coming to a quick end because of you.   Ego gets in the way and says, “It’s not my fault.   I didn’t cause the problem.”   Yet, the issues may lie with you from the start.   What is missing in your life?   Do you have any personal interests?   Are you being honest with yourself in area of your life such as money, relationship, job, etc. When one isn’t happy with self he or she is not going to make anyone else happy.   Rather than bring positivity, one who is troubled is going to bring all that is negative to a...

He said all the right things based on what he had already learned about me. He promised me that we would go to fun places and see cool things. He told me that he loved me and how stupid the last man was for letting me go. He bought me everything I ever wanted. He seemed like he really wanted to know me, he asked me lots of questions. All of what I mentioned above was what I remembered during the dating phase with various men.  They were nice-looking, charming, but all had dark sides.  They took the time to get to know me because "I was different...pretty, smart...liked my smile."  Oh yea, the smile.  They all found my smile very attractive.  But I wasn't sold much on their looks, it was their voices.  I was lured by the tone of their voices and what they promised. Back then, in my 20s.  Now in my forties.  I know now when a man is attempting to make himself into something I would desire even though I am married and they know i...

The lonely single woman, back on the dating scene, sucked it up when they first started dating; she went skiing with her new date: The Adventure Seeker despite her personal fears.   W hen asked out again, she attended a conference in another state with him.   He had a bright idea to go hiking, so she accompanied him reluctantly on that trip too.   As the connection grew deeper, the bachelorette finally confessed one day, “I don’t like traveling or the outdoors.   Please don’t ask me to go with you again, but you are welcome to have a ball by yourself, without another woman, of course.”   What!   He was shocked, disappointed, and started to think, “This isn’t going to work.”   What drew him to her was that dating profile where she checked off that she liked the outdoors and traveling.   She thought that her date had forgotten about that, "...just harmless lies. He'll get over it, " she reasoned.  But he didn't. The future is forever cha...

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There is something about reading books that makes this bachelor cringe, but the woman in front of him is so attractive and lately he hasn’t had much luck finding a great match.   The book she holds in her hand is a turn-off.   He encourages her to do something else as she heads by the pool to read once again.   The reader thought it would be a good idea since the couple saw and did a lot earlier from dining out to watching a sporting event. Once again, her date tries to entertain her and even throws a negative comment about her book selection, “I can’t believe people read that garbage, ha!”   Put-off by her date’s comment, she ignores him for hours. Photo by Ben White on Unsplash If books turns you off as much as the gentleman in the previous example, then don’t consider dating a reader.   People who enjoy books also are very knowledgeable about many subjects and like conversing about a wide variety of topics.   They also are open to taking additio...

When a date described himself as “laid back,” I should have known what he really meant was “lazy.”   We usually think of a person being laid back as someone who is not reactionary, chill, or cool.   However, what we don’t think about is if a person is too “cool,” they also don’t want to follow any rules too!   If a person is “laid back” or “chill,” they also don’t feel as if they have to cook, clean, organize, or take care of other responsibilities too! Photo by Hamza Bounaim on Unsplash Be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it!   Mr. or Ms. Laid Back is nice to be when conversing or visiting new places, but you don’t want “laid back” when you have a list of tasks that need to be completed within a set limit of time.   You don’t need “laid back” when you are in a rush.   Mr. or Ms. Laid Back wants to do most things on his or her terms and who cares about what others’ think?   When you hear a date sound like he is bragging abo...