Dating Advice, Relationship Problems

Her abusive boyfriend from the past cheated, lied, robbed, raped, abused, and misused her. When you first laid eyes on this gorgeous woman, the last thing you thought was you would be inheriting her wounds from yesteryear. Yet, you did and now you feel at times stuck with both his and her mess. You aren't ready to break up with this woman you love, but you can't see a future with her either. So what do you do about this past baggage that tends to show up on days that you think everything is perfectly okay? The following tips should help you get some peace of mind, reach a decision about the relationship, and help you help her to heal. There is a big difference between a woman who calls herself a victim of domestic violence and one who calls herself a survivor. The survivor most likely has evolved from her experience and shows no signs of having ever been a victim. She has received the support she needed to move on and has taken the necessary changes to live her life to the fu...

Break Up Tips When Dating Someone Emotionally Abusive by YouTuber FYPNLP ) Early Signs Your Date is Emotionally Abusive by Nicholl McGuire When first dating, pay attention to the way your date looks when you speak positively to the opposite sex.  Does he or she eye roll, deep sigh, look angry, or make you feel uncomfortable for speaking to that person? Pay attention when your date makes subtle or harsh comments about your personal beliefs, the people around you, or stories you tell.  Does he or she act judgmental?  Does this person make negative comments about your lifestyle, faith, or those you know despite not knowing all the details? If you find yourself being critical about you, moreso than you have ever done before, when in this person's presence, that is a clear indication that your date's jokes/comments/criticisms are starting to influence you, not for the better but for the worse!  (Save yourself some future grie...

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: It's Not Over Once You Leave - Abusive Men, Women ... : We saw recently what one can do when a handgun is in the wrong hands.  In the San Bernardino shooting  involving an abusive husband and his ...

A man doesn't suspect after great food, sex, and cool conversation with a beautiful companion that there is a dark side to her. He doesn't anticipate that one day his partner might hurt him with her words and hands. Yet, there are crazy women who will not hesitate to abuse a man over almost anything! In this non-fiction book, Nicholl McGuire, author of "Tell Me Mother You're Sorry" and "Say Goodbye to Dad," speaks to the man who has been berated, misunderstood, wounded, and beaten down by a frequently irate and abusive woman. He might be your son, brother, father, uncle, cousin, or best friend. He hides his shame. He tells you that everything is okay when it is not. He shares nothing that would make you suspect that he is hurting inside due to his controlling girlfriend, emotionally abusive wife, or violent companion. He grins in front of you and grimaces when at home with her. He hates what his bad relationship is doing to him and possibl...

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: The Guilt-ridden, Ashamed Abusive Spouse : For every striking blow, curse word spoken, and silent treatment tactic used, a guilt-ridden and ashamed filled spouse will reap what he or ...

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: 6 Signs Your Abusive Partner is Destroying Your Li... : When was the last time you smiled genuinely in public and stayed content for longer than a few hours.  Did you experience that happiness whe...

When a woman first meets a man she doesn't know his upbringing, the company he keeps, what he likes to do in his spare time and most of all whether he has a disease or not. She can only make a determination of the man's character initially by how he looks, his mannerisms, what he says and how he treats her and the people around them. As she becomes increasingly more interested in him, she begins to trust him and will gradually let her "guard down". She will buy him gifts, offer to help him with cooking and housework, impress his family and friends and take part in his interests. While she is growing a fondness for him, he may be ready to have a relationship with her, but struggle with a dark past in the process. What is in this man's dark past that the woman is not aware? For some men, it is a pattern of abusive behaviors toward women. It may have started when he witnessed his mother being beat by his dad, a live-in boyfriend or someone else. There may have been a...

Sometimes you just don't see the public charmer/private abuser coming your way.  The man who appears to be so sweet, nice and friendly during those first meetings ends up being the one who breaks your heart and runs away with all that you value the most.  You didn't anticipate it--you were caught off guard.  But it happens, my friends. So what might we have overlooked in our quest to love and be loved? In my book, Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men , I show you the personalities and schemes of various males (both young and old) and the games they play to get women to trust them during the early dating phase while exposing our weaknesses.  I also share personal stories where I am an observer and a victim of charmers.  This is a truth-telling book, one you won't forget and a must-read if you have a daughter, niece, or female relative who is just getting her feet wet when it comes to ...

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Losing Your Mind in an Abusive Relationship? Viole... : He thinks you don't pay attention to the money that suddenly goes missing, the keys that are moved, the odd times he shows up, and the ...

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: The Sacrifices One Makes to be with Abusive Mate W... : One common denominator that all who have gave up family tradition, religious beliefs, and more for their abusers is they loved their partne...

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: The Honeymoon Period - The Delusion of Valentine's... : Many couples will take off the boxing gloves for Valentine's Day depending on how long they have been together.  The abusive one will p...

I know you want to hate him or her for everything this person ever did to you.  The pain within is terrible, forgiveness isn't even a topic of discussion, and if something bad were to happen to him or her, you don't believe you would shed one tear.  When the heart is this heavy, you have to pause, take a breath, and think about how you are feeling for a moment.  Before you say yet another bad word about your partner or ex, think about the negative energy you have been putting out into the atmosphere up to this point.  Notice how mean-spiritedness has been traveling within and around you lately.  From mood swings to people acting ugly toward you for no apparent reason.  Evil doesn't just stop on the one you are growing to hate, but it has a way of coming back on the sender. One day, I thought deeply about an abusive man who hurt me physically not just once, twice, but many times between "I love you" and promises he wou...

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Is Your Date/Boyfriend/Husband Driving You Crazy? ... : Most women who meet men are seeking to be loved, respected, and protected.  The last thing they want is a man that is troubled or mentally c...

A lot is said in a simple statement backed up with an action or inaction when it comes to relationships.  Many singles can save themselves much time and stress if they would just pay attention to the little things their dates say and do early on in the relationship!  Some women are so desperate for a man that they suppress all red alert signs that tell them, "Keep away, this guy is a loser!"  Don't be the next fool for love in a deceptive, single man's game, listen and learn. 1. "I can cook." Really?  Challenge him.  Go to the grocery store with him, watch him take the food out the wrapping, season it, and cook it.  If you see all of that, he can cook.  If not, he's a liar and what else might he lie about?  Hmm. 2.  "She's just a friend." Is he sure about that?  The way he looks at her, talks about her, and how often he corresponds with her on the phone should be enough for you to tell him, "Goodbye." 3.  "I wou...

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Pointless Promises - When the Liar Makes You Think... : You don't have to be choked, slammed into a wall, or beaten until you are black and blue to be in an abusive relationship.  There are m...

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Emotionally Abused for a Sickness You Can't Help : God permits all sorts of things to happen to us human beings as we age.  Some things we have pills and potions for while others not so much...

You want to know whether this person is going to be with you forever and always. But it is hard to be convinced of that when you have a monkey on your back. That monkey could be the past garbage you had to put up with from relatives, bad relationships, and so-called friends. The monkey could be some things that your partner has laid on your back recently. Whatever your drama with what "he said or she said," you will need to educate yourself on matters, like a teen studying for a final exam. It takes work to make a difference in your relationship and now is not the time to slack. Take the following relationship experts seriously. These books are available immediately for download and definitely cheaper than a therapist. Take your girl or guy by the hand and let them know you are ready to deal with your problems that are troubling you about the relationship and you need them to be equally committed! To your success! Check out Nicholl McGuire's books: Socially S...

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Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: When a Man Says He Doesn't Want Children, He Means... : Some victims of domestic violence assume that if they have a baby for an abusive man, then another and another that some how the man will ch... Photo by Marvin Meyer on Unsplash