How to Remain Dedicated to a Sexual Fast

 
People have their reasons as to why they need to stop having sex for a certain time period. Health issues, relationship challenges, work/education focus, children, and more are reasons as to why some people just need to take time out from having sex.

One. Abstain from watching music videos, movies, television shows, and other media that discusses, shows or encourages sexual activity.

When you are being inundated with media that has sexual content, you will begin to desire to have sex from viewing sexual advertising to watching music videos. With problems mounting in one’s life, it can be very frustrating trying to stay dedicated to a sexual fast. Don’t entice your self or others with sexual images.

Two. Avoid dating and/or being along with someone you are romantically attracted to.

The more time you spend with someone who isn’t interested in having sex or vice versa, the more tension increases. Premature sex only causes more problems. Stick to the plan, if you can’t have sex for some reason, you just can’t have sex, find something else to do to occupy your time with your friend in a setting that isn’t so private.

Three. Don’t stare or make eye contact with someone who is revealing one’s sexual anatomy whether discreetly or boldly.

The more you look, the more you will want to touch. So it’s just best to look away and find other images that aren’t sexy, like looking at a church building, the Holy Bible and pointing your eyes on the cross while praying, “God give me the strength…keep me from temptation.”

Four. When tempted to react to sexual advances, remove yourself from the situation, or politely ask the person to cover-up or leave your presence.

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. But when you find yourself making excuses to do something you know you shouldn’t at this time, leave the situation. Don’t keep contacting the one who is tempting you and don’t be a distraction to the one who just can’t have sex right now.

Five. Don’t encourage sexual activity with flirting.

It can be so fun to flirt, but it can also cause unnecessary drama especially when you are in a relationship with someone else. There are plenty of ways to be nice to people without complimenting the way they look, using a sexy voice, winking, holding their hand, staring, or hugging them real tight. Keep yourself out of trouble!

Six. Watch how you dress.

There are just some people who refuse to admit that their attire is nothing more than a magnet to charm a man or woman into the bed. But appearance can be used to entrap an unavailable man or woman. Before anything gets started between two attractive people, they pretty much know what they want just by what they see. So if you are on a sexual fast, then dress like it!

Seven. Avoid joking or ridiculing others about sex.

The jokes, sex stories, and other comments related to sex can cause you to think things or feel in ways you shouldn’t. Change the topic when you notice someone who is spending time talking to you about another person’s appearance, thoughts, actions etc. or cut the conversation short. Being on a sexual fast is abstaining from all forms of sex including conversation.

Note how you feel while on your sexual fast. Think about the status of your present relationship with someone and whether or not you are happy with the way things are. Find it in your heart to forgive the person who you once were sexually active with without going back to the way things use to be. Think about what you need to do to feel better about sexual activity in the future with your potential marriage partner. If you can’t see yourself being committed to this person, then you definitely want to refrain from having any future sex with him or her.

Make a doctor’s appointment, to be sure you are disease free while you are on your sexual fast. If you do have an illness, focus on treatment rather than having sex in the future. Most likely, there are some challenging things going on in or around your relationship that is causing stress on your mind, body and spirit. If you are not ill, protect yourself from an unwanted pregnancy and illness by looking at all that is positive about not having sex, rather than wishing to have sex. Don’t discuss your sexual fast with anyone who can’t pray or encourage you to stay focused; however you will have to discuss with your sexual partner so that he or she doesn‘t think you are cheating. There are many people who would love to do something like this, but are fearful, nervous, and are enslaved to their flesh; therefore, they can’t come up higher spiritually. When possible, keep your sexual fast between you and your God. Don’t feel like you need to defend your actions if someone should realize what you are doing.

May you experience focus, wisdom, and peace in your mind, body and spirit while you embark on a new journey in your life!

Note:  Get ideas on things you can do to avoid sex for awhile here.

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual enlightment based on real life experiences and provides personal advice at http://www.youtube.com/nmenterprise7.

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