Dating Too Many People, Spending Too Much Time and Money

How many is too many lovers?  How much time is too much time when it comes to staying online meeting and communicating with new friends?  What is the dollar amount on spending too much when dating?

Some people go into the dating world blindly and they don't bother to put any limitations on time, money or anything else.  When this sort of thing happens it isn't any wonder that people argue, fuss, break up, obtain STDS, have unwanted pregnancies, go into debt, end up in jail, and more.  There are simply no boundaries!

When you date far too many people, you exhaust yourself of them sooner or later.  They all start looking and sounding the same in your mind.  You find yourself disinterested in those you should be interested in and settling with those in between sheets that you really don't like that much.

Spending much money on dates has caused many hardships for singles as well as married individuals.  Falling behind in bills won't bring a smile on anyone's face during a date while looking at a dinner bill that could have paid a cell phone bill for two months maybe even three.  Married people should know better not to date singles, but they still chance it.  Now an affair that cost a few hundred dollars or more is now costing them thousands in divorce court.

You may have found that your personal life isn't all that great and so many hours are spent online, texting, video chatting, calling, or meeting people that could have been better spent improving you.

You know when you are dating (or sexing) far too many people when you are:

1.  Often having some issue with your health.
2.  You have to borrow money just to go out on a date.
3.  You are frequently disappointed with your selection of dates.
4.  Your family begin to question or criticize your dating lifestyle.
5.  You find that people, places and things seem to bore you much and you no longer feel excited about anything anymore.
6.  You quarrel much with dates (or physically fight with
them).
7.  You don't have a clue anymore about the future.
8.  You fake interest in people.
9.  You worry much about money and hope that your dates will foot the bills.
10.  You are starting to resent dressing up or impressing dates.

Nicholl McGuire

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Are you in like or love with a woman who is already engaged or married?  If so, take heed to the following spiritual message.  There is much challenge ahead for you if you choose to ride the waves of such a relationship.  Prepare yourself for unfavorable treatment with her family and children, added emotional stress, and listening to her many stories about her husband/fiancé/boyfriend.

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On Predicting the Future of Your Relationship

You can't say for sure what might happen to your relationship, but you can pay close attention to enough signs early on to determine whether it will survive and become a reasonably quality relationship or a dysfunctional one that might eventually come to an end.  Consider the following signs there are storms ahead.

1.  You or your partner is buying much of the stuff related to the relationship from the gas in the car to go out on a date to the rent for the place you both have sex in.

Most likely, you will also be the one paying for more things in the future like his or her child from a previous relationship, a family trip, bailing him or her out financial problems, or paying for medical bills.  Disagreements will occur about money.  If you or partner is in control of paying for most things, you might eventually act prideful and disrespectful about all of what you are doing for this person.

2.  Sex happens either too much or not enough and when you bring the topic up your partner is nonchalant about it.

The likelihood that someone will be tempted to cheat emotionally and/or physically is probable.

3.  A partner is either inconsistent with employment or works way too much.

He or she has issues with staying employed or works alot.  This will definitely cause problems when a mate is not addressing the problems while wanting you to be more understanding, patient, kind, etc.  You have a life too and when you agreed to be with this person you thought there was going to be some kind of benefits; instead you have a parent child kind of relationship or lack thereof.

4.  You know you will have problems and more problems in the future when he or she is often talking about disagreements one has had with others (family, co-workers, friends, etc.)

Sooner or later that tough exterior you might have (or your mate) will turn on you.  How much cursing, name-calling and yelling can you tolerate?

5.  He or she is not a kid and or pet-lover.

Whether you or your partner has children (plan on having them) or a pet, if this person is not interested in animals and kids or don't really love or like the ones they got, you most likely will have  issues that will affect your relationship if you should choose to have either or bring yours into the mix.

The problems previously mentioned and others can be dealt with by using healthy strategies to mediate and resolve conflicts.  However, if one or both parties are not in agreement, then the challenges will only increase over time leading to an unfortunate break up, or if not that, a long-term dissatisfying and troubled relationship.

Nicholl McGuire author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books.

 

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