Dating Advice, Relationship Problems

He said all the right things based on what he had already learned about me. He promised me that we would go to fun places and see cool things. He told me that he loved me and how stupid the last man was for letting me go. He bought me everything I ever wanted. He seemed like he really wanted to know me, he asked me lots of questions. All of what I mentioned above was what I remembered during the dating phase with various men.  They were nice-looking, charming, but all had dark sides.  They took the time to get to know me because "I was different...pretty, smart...liked my smile."  Oh yea, the smile.  They all found my smile very attractive.  But I wasn't sold much on their looks, it was their voices.  I was lured by the tone of their voices and what they promised. Back then, in my 20s.  Now in my forties.  I know now when a man is attempting to make himself into something I would desire even though I am married and they know i...

The lonely single woman, back on the dating scene, sucked it up when they first started dating; she went skiing with her new date: The Adventure Seeker despite her personal fears.   W hen asked out again, she attended a conference in another state with him.   He had a bright idea to go hiking, so she accompanied him reluctantly on that trip too.   As the connection grew deeper, the bachelorette finally confessed one day, “I don’t like traveling or the outdoors.   Please don’t ask me to go with you again, but you are welcome to have a ball by yourself, without another woman, of course.”   What!   He was shocked, disappointed, and started to think, “This isn’t going to work.”   What drew him to her was that dating profile where she checked off that she liked the outdoors and traveling.   She thought that her date had forgotten about that, "...just harmless lies. He'll get over it, " she reasoned.  But he didn't. The future is forever cha...

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There is something about reading books that makes this bachelor cringe, but the woman in front of him is so attractive and lately he hasn’t had much luck finding a great match.   The book she holds in her hand is a turn-off.   He encourages her to do something else as she heads by the pool to read once again.   The reader thought it would be a good idea since the couple saw and did a lot earlier from dining out to watching a sporting event. Once again, her date tries to entertain her and even throws a negative comment about her book selection, “I can’t believe people read that garbage, ha!”   Put-off by her date’s comment, she ignores him for hours. Photo by Ben White on Unsplash If books turns you off as much as the gentleman in the previous example, then don’t consider dating a reader.   People who enjoy books also are very knowledgeable about many subjects and like conversing about a wide variety of topics.   They also are open to taking additio...

When a date described himself as “laid back,” I should have known what he really meant was “lazy.”   We usually think of a person being laid back as someone who is not reactionary, chill, or cool.   However, what we don’t think about is if a person is too “cool,” they also don’t want to follow any rules too!   If a person is “laid back” or “chill,” they also don’t feel as if they have to cook, clean, organize, or take care of other responsibilities too! Photo by Hamza Bounaim on Unsplash Be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it!   Mr. or Ms. Laid Back is nice to be when conversing or visiting new places, but you don’t want “laid back” when you have a list of tasks that need to be completed within a set limit of time.   You don’t need “laid back” when you are in a rush.   Mr. or Ms. Laid Back wants to do most things on his or her terms and who cares about what others’ think?   When you hear a date sound like he is bragging abo...

Cold and uncaring, when a date like this walks into a room, you feel something strange.   Initially you can’t explain it and may even brush it off, but the energy isn’t good.   This negative vibe you feel is coming from a cold-bloodied person .   They don’t always look like a Stephen King thriller with a hollow look in their eyes; sometimes they appear engaged, kind, and intelligent.   However, these people when angry are downright unfriendly, unprofessional, and unintelligent!   So before you find yourself planning a future with a psychopath or narcissist, know the signs he or she sooner or later will care less about you! Photo by Karl Fredrickson on Unsplash 1)   They just seem far too interested in you at first.   They make you feel like they are too good too be true. 2)   They tell white lies and hope you will overlook. 3)   They don’t seem to respond to your stories genuinely.   It seems like they are forcing emotion espe...

Lately, you have been noticing your loved one is not acting very loving.   This person is not being kind to you, isn’t acting very generous, and doesn’t seem like he or she wants to be in your presence.   Thoughts of separating from this person have been increasing lately.   What more might you need to know to determine whether the relationship or friendship has run its course. One.   The individual doesn’t call or bother to text any niceties when he is away from you. If this was something that he or she once did, ask him or her why has it stopped?   Are you continuing to do these things or have you also changed? Two.   He or she doesn’t ask any questions that would encourage you to express your thoughts or feelings including inquiries about your work day. Whether this person has become uncaring or always was, ask yourself, “What might be going on in his or her life that would make this person stop communicating with you?   What might you ...

He has his issues with his ex-girlfriend .   She doesn't feel she can trust her boyfriend.   The more people keep inside the worse things can get.   This is why many relationships come to a swift end.   Your ex may not want you back for any number of reasons.   An important thing you should know is that if you should force something that isn't meant to be, sooner or later you will reap the consequences. 1.   An ex may have someone else that is showing him or her interest. The two might not be dating, but whatever the chemistry, an ex is curious.   How can one emotionally compete?   Sometimes history together has little to do with those growing feelings inside that tell a former partner, "Why not explore new possibilities, he or she hasn't hurt you?" 2.   The influence of the ex's family and friends has a significant impact. When an ex's ears are tuned into family there is little one can do.   His or her loved ones most like...

Some of you were with partners doing things like: watching the fireworks, saying prayers, sitting by the fire, listening to music or having sex when the new year came ringing in.  But you have a secret, you don't plan on being with your current connection for the entirety of this year.  Look your secret is safe with me! A few times in my life, I just knew without a doubt that those jokers were not going to be around much longer.  My new year's resolution with one man, while I sat in church next to him, was to break up with him by spring.  I accomplished that task but not without six police officers showing up that sunny day in April.  They received a domestic violence call.  I had been previously abused many times and I was fed up--I fought back. When you have grown weary of the make up to break up roller coaster, you mistreat the person without a care whether verbally or physically, and all you ever think about is ending the relationship , it's time!...