What to Expect When a Date Has an Adventurous Spirit

You enjoy getting outdoors, trying new things, having fun, and going to places that you have never been before. However, it can be challenging to find someone who has the same interests as you. Some people fake their adventurous side and you soon learn that these folks can’t stand bugs, rain, heights, and other things. So you feel as if your time has been wasted and declare that in the future you will be more selective when it comes to dating.

Daring people, who sincerely enjoy living their lives to the fullest, are quite bold about what they say and do. They have stories, photographs, witnesses, and other things that will back up all the adventure they have experienced so far in their lives. However, charlatans know how to impress the unsuspecting as well. This is why you just might have to make a few phone calls, perform some online research, check in with buddies at the locations they claim to know people, and more to find out whether the online date is in fact being truthful.

Interview these "I like to have fun" types. Test them on their knowledge of things. Ask basic questions, but also inquire about things they can’t simply look up on the Internet. Ask them to share personal opinion, discoveries, and people they have met on their journeys. Include trick questions and pretend as if they are correct. Once you have found the truth about this so-called brave person faking interest and pretending to be something he or she is not, ignore him or her.

Those that sincerely love the outdoors, animals, water, travel, and more will have much in common with you. Every time you talk to these courageous dates you find yourself more and more interested in them and their lifestyles. Share plans about what you like to do and if the date is indeed a diehard fan of adventure, he or she will contribute knowledge to your story-telling.

Adventurous people tend to take risks in other areas of their lives too. This can be a good thing or a bad thing. Some have habits that affect themselves and others immensely from porn addictions to substance abuse. Others don’t manage money well and will not hesitate to leave a responsibility to try something new and different. This can be disheartening to later find out especially if you tend to have balance in your life. You know when to have fun and when to work. Those individuals who have yet to manage work and fun tend to mix business with pleasure.

When dating someone who claims to be adventurous, a risk taker, enjoys new discoveries, and more, be certain that he or she is also responsible. You can test a date by posing hypothetical questions. Listening to responses and then testing again later to compare answers. When the time comes to meet, notice his or her conduct when in public environments. Some "fun" types can also be quite emotional and struggle with personality disorders. They can be up on some days and then come crashing down on others. Others tend to rush getting to activities and sometimes you find that their interests are more like obsessions. Keep in mind that those who just love certain adventure will not quell their passions just because they are in a relationship with someone, so don’t expect your adventure seekers to do this. If what they do bothers you, it would be better to move on with your life then to wish for these individuals to change.

Nicholl McGuire is a blogger, ghost writer for dating websites, and author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry and Say Goodbye to Dad.



When a Date Loves Arts and Crafts

The date who loves creating, displaying, and attending art and crafts events is a passionate, creative, often independent, and flexible person at times. He or she will enjoy your company if you too have hobbies that inspire you. However, if you are one who has little reverence for the arts and could care less about a date’s passion, you will turn this person off. You might continue to go out on dates, but the relationship will suffer challenges and may end up being nothing more than a dead end for you.

Artsy people, a slang way of describing people who enjoy creating things, are sensitive, happy, sometimes depressed, and other times odd folks. They feed off of love, pain, sickness, emotional turmoil, life, death; you name it to obtain their muses. What most would just view and walk away from, the creative person embodies it. These people can be a joy to be around and you can learn much from them, but they can also be deeply troubled.

When the imaginative type is on an emotional high, you will either be welcomed into his or her world or shut out for a time. You will need to be mentally strong to handle those up and down times with the creative individual. Needy, insecure people don’t like when they are shut out of anything and others who aren’t very considerate of those who might be more talented than they, can be a burden to be around.

It isn’t a requirement to be the painter, musician, writer, dancer, actor, architect, and other similar types, but it does help. A date that can be understanding about his or her partner’s work and can relate to the challenges is a welcome addition. Those that are in other fields can be a good match if they too are respectful of the date’s craft. However, there are many who are not appreciative of creative types and tend to laugh, joke, or insult them for the work that they do. That type of negative attitude merely starts arguments and makes the artistic individual withdraw from the relationship.

When dating the person who loves arts and crafts, do the following:

  1. Show your support for the work. Since there are many creations and some you won’t like, your personal interest has nothing to do with being encouraging to the date who enjoys his or her hobby.
  2. Offer to attend an event with him or her. This can be a turn on for a date, because it shows you care.
  3. Allow for time and space to create. If the person you are dating wants to be left alone for awhile, do it.
  4. Don’t expect a creative person to always be interested in you and the relationship. Many artistic people use their hobbies/work as an escape from upsetting things and if under too much pressure, they will lose interest and won’t be as nice and receptive as they once were to you.
  5. If you find the creative person is too odd for you, don’t fake interest, move on.


Roaming Eyes at the Cookout - Your Date is Watching

There are things you can get away with when you have been in a relationship for a long time, but when it comes to just getting to know someone, do you really want to be caught checking out the attractive man or woman standing at a distance? 

Cookouts, family reunions, or getting together over someone's home staying in an atmosphere for hours at a time with people you barely know can get boring, so you start looking around, entertaining yourself while your date glances over to see you observing the finest looking person in the room--BUSTED!

So how to stay out of trouble this hot, sexy summer?

1.  Keep your eyes on that plate of food in front of you when the half -dressed lady comes strutting by.  If you have no food, look at the food somewhere nearby, the sky, a car passing by, your shoes, etc.
2.  Don't let your eyes roam in that direction where the guy with the tight shirt showing off his abs is looking at you.  Instead, compliment someone in front of you on the nice piece of jewelry they are wearing then find a spot to sit where you aren't staring at Mr. Sexy.
3.  Ignore those who bump you and say, "Check out him...Look at the rack on..."  When you think your date isn't listening he/she is and so are those who you might not think wouldn't go back and tell what you said to him or her too.
4.  Avoid the temptation to want to exchange phone numbers (even if it is just a business card) your date knows better.  "I was just networking..." Sure.
5.  Stay close to your date and converse with him or her about the festivities, rather than looking for the opportunity to talk with the hottest looking man or woman in the room.

If you take the time to consider your date's feelings, who knows you just might have some fireworks tonight!

Nicholl McGuire author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry and Say Goodbye to Dad.  She has a YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.  Feel free to stop by!


Avid Book Readers and Gaming Dates Not Your Types?

She says she loves to read. He enjoys playing board and video games. These people might be a good match for someone else, but for you? Some of these singles are attractive, have nice jobs, drive good cars, and other things, you might be easily impressed.

Sometimes we make ourselves believe we can adapt to someone else’s personality. Yet, when we start dating people with interests, different from our own, we hope that they might change. We find out they love their hobbies a bit more than we thought. We also notice how we react to what they do in their spare time and it isn’t always positive. Not everyone enjoys gaming. Some singles prefer to stay active doing more “fun” and “interesting” things outdoors.

What makes some of these dates so dull is how long they tend to an activity? Maybe a date enjoys going to a friend’s house weekly to play video games or enjoys spending evenings on a couch curled up with a good book. This isn’t attractive to those who prefer parties, shopping, and travel. Now if the date has other hobbies besides, reading and gaming, then chances are he or she just might be a good fit for the more outgoing one.

Disinterest tends to show up when we least expect it while dating some people, because we have adapted to their routines rather than keeping up with our own. We think that by being more tolerant of people different than us, that somehow the treatment will be reciprocated. Unfortunately it rarely is when one has been passionate for years about certain hobbies. Some may have ended previous relationships because they loved reading and gaming far more than love-making.

If you find you are dating a real bore, you can always mention how you feel, but be advised that person will not change for you especially when he or she has been that way for years. The avid reader loves her books and the game enthusiast loves his games. You might notice during the early part of the dating phase the reader might put down her books for you and the guy who enjoys gaming will move away from the screen long enough to learn more about you. However, once the newness of meeting you has worn off, this is when the invites to come join them in their hobbies might be offered. If you enjoy the same things, you most likely won’t have any issues—that is unless a date is a fanatic. If this is the case, you will have to be clear about your likes and dislikes early on. If he or she respects your boundaries, you just might enjoy dating the gamer or reader.

Now there are some signs you might want to look out for when dating people who love their quiet activities and gaming times. Consider the following. They might be late for dates, ignore phone calls, and cancel going out if the hobby is really interesting to them for the moment. Maybe the gaming guy is trying to beat an opponent or turn over a video game. The reader might be on a really good chapter of a book. If this is the case, you might be temporarily forgotten. The hobbyist makes excuses, lies, or even covers up just how much he or she is committed to his or her passion depending on how dates respond to him or her. If you notice the hobby is taking up too much of a date’s time, bail out early, he or she is letting you know that having a quality relationship is insignificant to him or her.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry, When Mothers Cry, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books.
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