Beware: The Date Who Lies about Liking Travel or the Outdoors

The lonely single woman, back on the dating scene, sucked it up when they first started dating; she went skiing with her new date: The Adventure Seeker despite her personal fears.  When asked out again, she attended a conference in another state with him.  He had a bright idea to go hiking, so she accompanied him reluctantly on that trip too.  

As the connection grew deeper, the bachelorette finally confessed one day, “I don’t like traveling or the outdoors.  Please don’t ask me to go with you again, but you are welcome to have a ball by yourself, without another woman, of course.”  What!  He was shocked, disappointed, and started to think, “This isn’t going to work.”  What drew him to her was that dating profile where she checked off that she liked the outdoors and traveling.  She thought that her date had forgotten about that, "...just harmless lies. He'll get over it, " she reasoned.  But he didn't.

The future is forever changed when one lies about interests, hobbies and preferences.  Sooner or later the lies don’t become the truth, they are exposed!  The handsome and fit gentleman detected while on those trips his date just wasn’t into those things like she had claimed.  One of those occasions he wanted her to come clean, but she never did.

Think before you tell yet another lie if you are one who is guilty of this sort of behavior.  As much as it might be tempting to be dishonest because that guy or gal is your fantasy partner, it’s never a good idea to lie in the short or long term.  Trust is impacted early on in the previous fictional example.  If the guy was to continue with the relationship, he would question what else might his date had lied to him about.

Dates tend to lie about many things from the start of meeting them from their actual height to income.  “Not only is he shorter than his photograph, but he doesn’t have any money to pay for the date,” thinks the Once Eager Date seeking “Mr. Right.”  That all went out the window at first glance and conversation.  As much as one might think a person is quite shallow for desiring a certain type of man or woman, keep in mind that a date is entitled to his or her preferences whether they are reasonable or not.  If the date wants a tall guy with a bank account and the guy in front of her isn’t that and he has lied about who he is, she has the right to walk away.   

Mr. Outdoors, who likes to travel, is in search of Ms. Outdoors.  He didn’t get her and so moved on.   The lesson to be learned, be honest and don’t say you like to do something that you really don’t just to appease someone else--that’s manipulative!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Too Much Too Soon Internet Dating Blues and other books.

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