On Dating: Character Flaws in that Special Someone
When we start dating or committing to one person, we sometimes fail at allowing ourselves to see the not-so appealing qualities in our special mate. We don't want to see that there is something wrong with him or her since it may have taken so long to finally find a partner. I can tell you from personal experience, that when we allow ourselves to focus only on the good while turning a blind eye on the bad for fear that we might disrupt that warm and fuzzy feeling inside our gut, we are headed for some trouble early on in the relationship!
The reality is that we must connect with a mate not so much for his or her great qualities, but for this person's not so great ones too! The following is a list of things you may want to consider when dating or remaining in a relationship with someone. You should be asking yourself this question, which personality challenges can I live with and which ones can I not? You see every person in the world has some, if not all, of these character issues at some point in their lives. You will have to determine if you have the perseverance to love forever and always in sickness and in health until death do you part.
Pessimistic, Fatalistic, Grudging
Optimistic hate being around people like this. They become frustrated with having to make all the plans to go places. They find themselves lying about their partner's frowns to family and friends. These people always have something negative to say about people, places and things.
Jealous, Possessive, Greedy
They are easily irritated when you talk to others. They think they "own" you. What they have is never good enough, they always want more. They spend far more than they earn in an effort to be happy.
Compulsive, Obsessive, Resentful
They feel driven to do something even when they shouldn't or the signs are on the wall. They have to get this done, do that, and create routines for themselves that are not easily broken or changed. They might even say, "I am obsessed with...I just love buying...I have to get this done..." They aren't happy for others and simply don't know how to let offenses go.
Indecisive, Gullible, Self-indulgent
They never know what they want for themselves or others. They fall into traps and are easily swindled into joining groups, buying things etc. They love buying for self, doing for self, always making sure that self comes first even when self doesn't always need to come first.
Always tense, Superficial, Inconsistent
Everything needs to be pondered deeply. They often think someone is up to something or has a hidden agenda. They talk intense. They have their own take on what they believe something to be even when their perception is inaccurate. They are never consistent about thoughts, habits, ideals, etc. You never know what a day might bring when in the presence of this person.
Selfishness, Quick Tempered, Impulsive
They don't like sharing. They feel inconvenienced if you ask them to do something. They are often in trouble because of the tone of their voice. They react pre-maturely over situations that typically don't need any major response. These people are big spenders too and do their shopping without thinking such as getting too much of something, not enough of something else, while forgetting what you need the most.
Moody, Overemotional, Clingy
You find yourself having to ask often, "Are you okay? Is everything alright?" with the moody person. They cry easily, get angry quickly, and just tend to be over-the-top about the littlest of things. They also attach themselves to you--always wanting to be close to you, touch you, or go places with you.
Overcritical, Fussy, Worrier
You most likely work with people like this, just imagine taking them home with you? You can never do anything right with these folks. They have to tell you how things are done and if you don't do it right they will tell you everything that is wrong with you. They talk negatively about people often and may even laugh a lot about others' weaknesses. They are also very concerned about things that hasn't happened yet and may never happen. They keep bringing the same issues to you even after some things have been dealt with.
Idealistic, Weak-willed, Easily led
They have many ideas, plans, visions, and associations. It doesn't take much to convince them to go along with a program that may or may not be good for them. They enjoy abusing substances.
Annoyingly optimistic, Careless, Superficial
No matter what wrong happens in their world, those optimists will tell you to, "Look on the bright side..." Its as if they use bright, cheery statements to cut you off. Many won't let you tell them anything negative before digressing. They tend to be nervous and aren't often careful in what they say and do when they are in a bad mood or not don't so well. They also think that having the best things, best appearance, best whatever makes them better than others. They think more of those who have much than those who have little.
Detached, Perverse, Unpredictable
They never seem to connect with others. They say and do strange things. You never know what to expect from them. Something is just not right in their minds and sometimes they don't mind telling you so.
Optimistic hate being around people like this. They become frustrated with having to make all the plans to go places. They find themselves lying about their partner's frowns to family and friends. These people always have something negative to say about people, places and things.
Jealous, Possessive, Greedy
They are easily irritated when you talk to others. They think they "own" you. What they have is never good enough, they always want more. They spend far more than they earn in an effort to be happy.
Compulsive, Obsessive, Resentful
They feel driven to do something even when they shouldn't or the signs are on the wall. They have to get this done, do that, and create routines for themselves that are not easily broken or changed. They might even say, "I am obsessed with...I just love buying...I have to get this done..." They aren't happy for others and simply don't know how to let offenses go.
Indecisive, Gullible, Self-indulgent
They never know what they want for themselves or others. They fall into traps and are easily swindled into joining groups, buying things etc. They love buying for self, doing for self, always making sure that self comes first even when self doesn't always need to come first.
Always tense, Superficial, Inconsistent
Everything needs to be pondered deeply. They often think someone is up to something or has a hidden agenda. They talk intense. They have their own take on what they believe something to be even when their perception is inaccurate. They are never consistent about thoughts, habits, ideals, etc. You never know what a day might bring when in the presence of this person.
Selfishness, Quick Tempered, Impulsive
They don't like sharing. They feel inconvenienced if you ask them to do something. They are often in trouble because of the tone of their voice. They react pre-maturely over situations that typically don't need any major response. These people are big spenders too and do their shopping without thinking such as getting too much of something, not enough of something else, while forgetting what you need the most.
Moody, Overemotional, Clingy
You find yourself having to ask often, "Are you okay? Is everything alright?" with the moody person. They cry easily, get angry quickly, and just tend to be over-the-top about the littlest of things. They also attach themselves to you--always wanting to be close to you, touch you, or go places with you.
Overcritical, Fussy, Worrier
You most likely work with people like this, just imagine taking them home with you? You can never do anything right with these folks. They have to tell you how things are done and if you don't do it right they will tell you everything that is wrong with you. They talk negatively about people often and may even laugh a lot about others' weaknesses. They are also very concerned about things that hasn't happened yet and may never happen. They keep bringing the same issues to you even after some things have been dealt with.
Idealistic, Weak-willed, Easily led
They have many ideas, plans, visions, and associations. It doesn't take much to convince them to go along with a program that may or may not be good for them. They enjoy abusing substances.
Annoyingly optimistic, Careless, Superficial
No matter what wrong happens in their world, those optimists will tell you to, "Look on the bright side..." Its as if they use bright, cheery statements to cut you off. Many won't let you tell them anything negative before digressing. They tend to be nervous and aren't often careful in what they say and do when they are in a bad mood or not don't so well. They also think that having the best things, best appearance, best whatever makes them better than others. They think more of those who have much than those who have little.
Detached, Perverse, Unpredictable
They never seem to connect with others. They say and do strange things. You never know what to expect from them. Something is just not right in their minds and sometimes they don't mind telling you so.
If you have associated your partner with any of the previously mentioned character flaws, then you know what you are getting yourself into if you are considering marrying this individual one day. Now go through the list and figure out which ones are your character flaws? Is your partner showing any signs that he or she cannot handle being with you because of your personality challenges such as: ignoring you, acting rudely, giving you the run-around about spending time with you, saving money for personal goals while not helping you, etc.?
Save yourself some grief, connect with someone who can put up with you! But if you have already found her/him, keep that person!
Nicholl McGuire
Save yourself some grief, connect with someone who can put up with you! But if you have already found her/him, keep that person!
Nicholl McGuire
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